Brenda Knowles's Blog: Space2live, page 14

There Are More Options Than Fight, Flight or Freeze

We hear all the time about fight, flight or freeze mode. Anxiety, depression, our relationships, our jobs, the news; all have the potential to mobilize us (fight or flight) or immobilize us (freeze). I am not sure the awareness we now have of these states, serves us. I, for one, could do with a little [...]

The post There Are More Options Than Fight, Flight or Freeze appeared first on Brenda Knowles of space2live.

This Is Not What I Expected but That’s OK: Reversing Our Insecure Attachment Stories

Things are getting a bit chaotic and stressful with all the planning and changes taking place for our wedding this summer. My nervous system has been on overdrive as I struggle to process all the details. As it is my second marriage and there are children involved, it is complicated. My highly sensitive system is [...]

The post This Is Not What I Expected but That’s OK: Reversing Our Insecure Attachment Stories appeared first on Brenda Knowles of space2live.

The Dark Sides of Warm and Kind People

Over the years, I've suggested many of my coaching clients seek warm, kind, safe people. I have my clients notice when they feel relaxed and at home with others and when they do not. Ultimately, they spend more time in settings and with people who make them feel at ease. The idea being the more [...]

The post The Dark Sides of Warm and Kind People appeared first on Brenda Knowles of space2live.

Adding Hope to Your Life: It’s Not a Passive Venture

At the start of a brand new year, I'd like to talk about hope. It seems appropriate as the possibilities of 350+ new days lie before us. If we can muster hope, we have a greater chance of fulfilling our goals and getting through tough times. Why? Because, according to positive psychologist, Charles R. Snyder, [...]

The post Adding Hope to Your Life: It’s Not a Passive Venture appeared first on Brenda Knowles of space2live.

5 Most Popular Posts of 2018: Relationships, Why We Act Introverted and the Avoidant Attachment Style

Wow! I can't believe we are at the end of 2018. I like to look back at the top posts — determined by highest average number of views — on brendaknowles.com for the year. It is a nice way for me to see what I learned in the last 12 months and what you, the [...]

The post 5 Most Popular Posts of 2018: Relationships, Why We Act Introverted and the Avoidant Attachment Style appeared first on Brenda Knowles of space2live.

Best Reads of 2018: My Book Recommendations for the Year

  I've discovered I like to accumulate points or create a streak when I want to instill a habit into my life. That motivates me. My meditation app on my phone, insighttimer.com, gives me a gold star for every ten days of meditation I do. I like to see the days add up. You get [...]

The post Best Reads of 2018: My Book Recommendations for the Year appeared first on Brenda Knowles of space2live.

Feeling Overwhelmed or Disappointed by the Holidays? How to Handle Your Insecure Attachment This Time of Year

I have a love/hate relationship with this time of year. I dream of fun family gatherings, the magic of Christmas morning, twinkly lights, creating fond memories, feelings of love and appreciation... All of that seems entirely possible as fall winds down and Thanksgiving approaches.  Feeling used Then I put a lot of effort into a [...]

The post Feeling Overwhelmed or Disappointed by the Holidays? How to Handle Your Insecure Attachment This Time of Year appeared first on Brenda Knowles of space2live.

Making Someone Feel Seen : The Best Gift You Can Give

The other night in my writing group we wrote about the best gift or gifts we had ever received. I am fortunate. I had three different gifts come to mind. One was a Snow White miniature kitchen I found under the Christmas tree when I was five years old. I can't remember if the kitchen [...]

The post Making Someone Feel Seen : The Best Gift You Can Give appeared first on Brenda Knowles of space2live.

Two Quick Ways to Make Your Partner Feel Seen and Respected

Have you ever felt taken for granted by a partner? Perhaps, it seemed like they only noticed you if you did something for them, or worse, they didn't notice you at all even when you fulfilled all of your duties. I've been there and I definitely did not like the feeling of being used. It felt [...]

The post Two Quick Ways to Make Your Partner Feel Seen and Respected appeared first on Brenda Knowles of space2live.

Your Coping Strategies: Are They Still Serving You?

As we plunge into the holiday season, I thought it would be a good time to take inventory of our go-to behaviors for relieving stress. Internal resources According to Julie M. Simon, LMFT and author of When Food Is Comfort, if we grew up with encouraging nurturing caregivers, we acquire capabilities such as personal competencies [...]

The post Your Coping Strategies: Are They Still Serving You? appeared first on Brenda Knowles of space2live.