Brenda Knowles's Blog: Space2live, page 11

Reclaiming Your Space and Loving Yourself

It all came to a head this morning when I noticed Mark had put two more bottles of shampoo and facial cleanser on our bathroom shelf. Space on this shelf is limited. There really is not room for all of the bottles on there now. I had an instant reaction of anger. I felt like [...]

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Building Healthy Relationships Through Vulnerability

Check out this insightful and helpful article about vulnerability and connecting with others. This post is by Rob Liu a writer on Conscioused. Rob makes good points about why we often end up feeling lonely and disconnected. Here's one reason Rob mentions in the article: "We reject others before they can reject us. We use our [...]

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Build Healthy Relationships Through Vulnerability

Check out this insightful and helpful article about vulnerability and connecting with others. This post is by Rob Liu a writer on Conscioused. Rob makes good points about why we often end up feeling lonely and disconnected. Here's one reason Rob mentions in the article: "We reject others before they can reject us. We use our [...]

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What Were Your Parents’ Emotional States When You Were a Child?

    “Of all the environments, the one that most profoundly shapes the human personality is the invisible one: the emotional atmosphere in which the child lives during the critical early years of brain development. The invisible environment has little to do with parenting philosophies or parenting style. It is a matter of intangibles, foremost [...]

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Highly Sensitive, Anxious or Avoidant? What You Need to Know to Make Relationships Last

What has happened since childhood, infancy even, is that a protective shield or pattern was subconsciously created to minimize the pain of feeling alone or of not being seen by a caregiver or partner.

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Wedding Photos

  Hi Everyone! The wedding was perfect and beautiful. We had so much fun with our friends and family. It's lovely to be married again. I thought I would share a few photos. Mark and me   First dance   Bouquet toss   Delightfully happy and in love, Brenda

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ADD, Sensitivity and the Emotional Environment

People with ADD are hypersensitive. That is not a fault or a weakness of theirs, it is how they were born. — Dr. Gabor Maté, "Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It" I highly recommend the book "Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About [...]

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Feeling Low and Thriving Anyway

We all have times we feel let down, abandoned, rejected, hurt or disrespected by someone close to us. We feel angry, sad, lonely, etc. We take it to heart. Sometimes we are conscious of our hurt feelings and sometimes they reside subconsciously because we have learned to suppress truly painful emotions.   I have come [...]

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High Sensitivity or Childhood Stress? What Causes Reactivity or Withdrawal

I recently read In the Realm of "Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction" by Dr. Gabor Mate´. I've found Dr. Maté's philosophies and experience regarding addiction and its origins fascinating. Essentially he says pain is the fuel of all addiction. We use substances and behavior to self-soothe. He does not believe it is primarily genetic. [...]

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Roommate Issues, Defensiveness and Attachment Wounds

Since our home has recently added three new people (my fiancé and his two sons) and a cat, lifestyle habits and roommate issues are top of mind. One of my clients mentioned feeling challenged with her roommate as well. I know from countless podcasts and relationship books that little issues like, "Why didn't you pick [...]

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