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One Sure-Fire Way to Unhook from Your Emotions and Thoughts

I believe it is important to pay attention to our thoughts, emotions and intuition. They can serve as compasses as we navigate our lives. They often surface involuntarily. We react to them quickly and often without prior reflection. Sometimes this is good because our internal computer ably makes leaps in judgment based on past experiences. [...]

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Are You a Brooder or Over Thinker? How to Overcome This Habit and Move Forward

I'm a brooder or over thinker. I hang on to emotions, memories, failures and perceived injustices for a long time. I know it doesn't do any good and only keeps me stuck in a bad mood and/or a bad situation. Brooders tend to be women. It's a statistical fact. Men are more likely to bottle [...]

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How to Build Resilience: Normalizing Struggles Versus Eliminating Them

Snowplow parents prepare the road for kids. Responsible parents prepare the kids for the road. Resilience is built not by eliminating struggle, but by normalizing it. Teach kids to see obstacles as temporary hurdles. — Adam Grant My son suffered a concussion in February. He is still dealing with the symptoms. He is going to [...]

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Why We Find More Happiness After Age 50: The Struggles of Our 40s and the Contentment of Our 50s

I turn 49 tomorrow. According to author Jonathon Rauch (The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50), I'm at the bottom of the happiness curve, but things will be on the upswing very soon. He says our 40s are the bottom of the joy trough. Our values change in our 50s to create upward [...]

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Confidence and Completing Things: The Secrets to Evading Anxiety

In order to have real confidence, you not only need to succeed at what you're doing. You need to COMPLETE things (of course, some things should be dropped). If you've been avoiding things in your life, then you can't have confidence. — Benjamin Hardy I've been thinking about how good it feels to complete things. Introverts [...]

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Using Values to Rise Above Heavy Emotions and Take Action

We've talked about how our deepest voids lead us to our deepest values. In this post, I want to show how our deepest emotions are also signposts to our deepest values. Think about when you find yourself feeling the most sad, mad or enthusiastic. What is going on? Harvard Medical School psychologist and author of [...]

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What If We Put Our Partners First and Children Second?

Hi All, I'm sharing a piece I wrote for Thrive Global with you for this Friday's post. Here is the link Putting Our Partners First and Children Second. As a parent and partner, I know the difficulties involved with caring for both children and a partner. This post offers a few simple ideas to increase [...]

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Three Questions to Smooth Out Conflict and Increase Understanding

One of the most useful things I've learned over the last few years is that it is better to aim for understanding versus winning when it comes to disagreements with the ones we love. For many years — including those competing with my sister for attention and respect and those competing with my ex-husband for [...]

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How to Strengthen Connection Within a Relationship: Online Course Open Now!

Well Gang, my first online course is finally finished! It's titled: How to Strengthen Connection Within a Relationship: Increasing Safety and Security to Create Closeness. I wanted to share it FIRST with you, my faithful readers. Please check it out. There are two lectures available as free previews, including the intro/overview. The lecture on receptivity [...]

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How to Stop Criticizing and Increase the Safety in Your Relationship

Safety breeds presence and presence breeds safety. — Harville Hendrix author of Getting the Love You Want I've come to realize, in my efforts to be helpful and efficient, I've put off my fiancé Mark a little. I've worked hard to build a repertoire of knowledge in several areas such as physical health, relationship dynamics, [...]

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