Oli Anderson's Blog, page 38
February 24, 2022
‘Happiness’ isn’t Just About Events…It’s a Process.
Anybody can be REAL whenever they want – all they have to do is remember. If you forget that you’re real – because you allow the world to condition you in to staying ASLEEP or because you hypnotise yourself with your own BS – then you take yourself out of the NATURAL process of moving and growing real and you just have unreal TENSION and friction in your life. When your life is defined by UNREAL tension and friction then you’re not living your REAL life but coping with an unreal life that is the...
February 23, 2022
Trust and Belief Go Further than Hope.
‘Hope’ can sometimes be a dirty word. If you reach the stage when all you can do is start ‘hoping’ something is gonna happen then it’s already too late (probably). In many ways ‘hope’ is EGO for two reasons: 1. It’s a completely PASSIVE state of being and puts all of the POWER to change your life outside of yourself by making you believe in the illusion of stasis (where in REALITY and nature things are ALWAYS changing). 2. You normally end up putting your ‘hope’ in things that are powerless in t...
February 22, 2022
Your World Today is a Reflection of How the ‘Old’ You Used to Think.
What you put into your life is what you get out of it. You put something REAL in, guess what comes out? Yeah, something real. You put something UNREAL in? You can probably figure it out. The ‘problem’ (though it’s really more just a ‘reality’) is that the universe operates according to a law of CAUSE and EFFECT and it takes TIME for these effects to accumulate and give you the results that you want. What this means is that you could spend your whole life being UNREAL and then decide to WAKE UP o...
February 21, 2022
Don’t Talk to the Wrong People About Your Goals
If you wanna reach your goals then the best thing to do is: 1. Cultivate AWARENESS – of what you want, WHY (so you can make sure it’s motivated by something real and not ego), and then of HOW you’re gonna do it. 2. Cultivate ACCEPTANCE – of where you are right now, what’s holding you back, and any emotional ‘stuff’ you’ve got going on like self-limiting beliefs, doubts, etc. 3. Talking ACTION – and being COMMITTED to it (not just interested – see my vid the other day), learning along the way, an...
February 19, 2022
Your Emotions are Asking You to Either Accept Something You Don’t or to Enjoy Something You Do.
The final lesson is always ACCEPTANCE. Everything else you learn and go through is just putting you somewhere on the spectrum between learning that final truth or getting caught up in JUDGEMENT and holding yourself back from life. Everything we do is either teaching us how to be more OPEN and to go deeper into life or it’s causing us to put up our defenses and to RESIST (so that we can keep the EGO in place and avoid having to face the SHADOW TERRITORY blah blah – see my book Shadow Life). The E...
February 18, 2022
Your Shadow is All of the Things, ‘Positive’ and ‘Negative’, that You’ve Denied About Yourself and Hidden Beneath the Surface of the Mask You Forgot that You’re Wearing.
Your Shadow Life is the real life that emerges when you face the whole of yourself without judgement.⠀ ⠀ Ever since Day One, you’ve been conditioned to be a version of yourself that has been deemed ‘acceptable’ by the world:⠀ ⠀ -Maybe you got rewarded with applause and attention for being a “good boy” and helping Mummy carry the shopping or some other ‘useful’ thing.⠀ ⠀ -Maybe you got rewarded with applause and attention for being a “good girl” and fluttering your eyelids and looking pretty.⠀ ⠀ ...
February 17, 2022
This is the Sign You’ve Been Waiting For to Walk Away from the BS Thing that Keeps Holding You Back.
Every so often, I like to remind people that a super power we all have is to say “NO”. When you say “No” to something UNREAL then it frees you up to say “Yes” to the real stuff – your true values, your true intentions, your true purpose, and most importantly your TRUE SELF. The problem for a lot of us is that we make a lot of the decisions about our lives and what we want to do with them based on an UNREAL IMAGE of ourselves: -We don’t believe in ourselves so we CHOOSE jobs, relationships, or ‘f...
February 16, 2022
Your Relationship isn’t a Substitute for the Parents You Never Had.
Your partner – or future partner – isn’t a substitute for your mummy and daddy. It’s natural for our experience of ‘love’ to have been formulated in childhood by whatever our parents decided to pass down to us but ma and pa(ternal) love isn’t the same as romantic love. Your partner is there to accept you at wherever you’re at and to grow REAL with you as they also grow into themselves and through whatever ‘stuff’ they have. They don’t exist to be a substitute for mummy and daddy and to fix all o...
February 15, 2022
Your Emotional ‘Stuff’ Clouds Your Assumptions, Thoughts, and Beliefs and Blinds You to Possibility.
Life never goes anywhere. Reality never changes. What does change is our INTERPRETATIONS and PERCEPTIONS and those are affected by our relationship with ourselves first and foremost. If there’s too much DARKNESS within us – especially darkness that we try to hide from ourselves – then the world becomes claustrophic and restricted. If we can open up to the LIGHT within us – especially the light that’s SCREAMING to be released – then the world becomes more spacious and we can BREATHE. The problem ...
February 14, 2022
Love is a Destructive Force as Much as it is a Creative One
If you don’t believe in ‘true’ love, then I feel (a bit) sorry for you. Yeah, I can be a bit cyncial and dark about the world sometimes but in the HEART of every cynic is somebody who’s tasted the TRUTH about life and either lost it or seen that the world is against it. We can all taste the FRUIT of truth in various ways in our lives – finding the edge, dancing with loss, getting close to death, or just having conversations that bring moments of insight that make us go ‘aha’ and blow our minds a...
