Oli Anderson's Blog, page 36

Stop Underestimating Yourself and Overestimating Others.

Comparisons are odious (that’s how the old saying goes, anyway). If you compare your behind-the-scenes footage of your own ‘stuff’ to somebody else’s highlight reel then you’re gonna have a BAD time. In fact, you might not even have a ‘bad’ time because you probably won’t even get started – you’ll just kinda be…stuck. A lot of you never get going because you’re too busy COMPARING your own perceived weaknesses to the strengths of other people. Or you COMPARE the results that somebody else has got...

Life Rewards You Based On Your Attitude Towards It.

Life is for the LIVING. If you want REAL life to give you everything it has to offer then you need to get your mind right and that starts with your ATTITUDE. People say that “life is unfair” but that’s not quite true…. Life is the great equaliser because it’s available to all of us if we do the work required to ALIGN ourselves with it and do what is ASKED of us. It begins to seem “unfair” when we resist the CALL of life and answer the call of ‘The World’ instead . As we’ve said a million times,

Action Kills Fear. Bullshit Makes it Worse.

The more time you spend away from reality, the greater your FEAR of returning to it. The TRUTH is that you know deep down when you’re being UNREAL – even if you hide behind layers of masks and BS. The REAL you is ALWAYS calling to you beneath the surface of yourself and will show up in all kinds of CREATIVE and DESTRUCTIVE ways to get your attention and bring you back home: -Maybe it’ll call you through the whispered sympony of your own restlessness. -Maybe it’ll PROJECT the parts of yourself yo...

You Were Born Wild then Made Crazy.

There's a wildness in you that can set you FREE if you unlearn to RECLAIM it.

Excuses are a Short-Term Solution to a Long-Term Problem: Unreality.

The REAL ONES don’t need excuses. An excuse is really just a reality deflection device that we use when: 1) We don’t want to accept some sort of feedback from life and GROW through it. 2) We don’t want to accept some truth or RESPONSIBILITY about ourselves and face its consequences. The thing about excuses is that people who make them are only FOOLING THEMSELVES. In the short-term, it stops them from having to face the unresolved SHAME that the situation they’re making excuses about is triggerin...

If You’re Scared to Say the Wrong Thing, You’ll Never Say the Right Thing.

Growing real is the first step; expressing something real is the second.

A Lot of Miserable People Are Just Looking for Love Instead of Giving It.

Everybody wants to be ‘seen’. That’s just the way human beings are – they need to feel that they ‘belong’ and that the world understands them at some REAL level so that all of the pain and the BS of being born is WORTH IT. What a lot of people don’t get, though, is that the easiest way to be ‘seen’ is to SHOW OTHERS that you SEE them… When you can do that it shows that you can peek from behind all of the UNREAL ‘stuff’ or masks that most people are hiding behind and that you can take

When You Can Handle Your Own Disappointment and the Disapproval of Others You Can Do Anything.

How real you let your life be is about how BLOCKED or UNBLOCKED you let yourself be based on your ASSUMPTIONS about yourself, the world, and reality itself.

Refuse to Feel ‘Guilty’ for Growin Real.

The only people who don’t want you to grow real are people that are UNREAL. This is because being REAL is about unblocking ourselves from the matrix of our own BS – such as self-limiting beliefs, unreal expectations of ourselves and others, emotionally-distored perspectives, attachments to opinions blah blah – so that we can simply MOVE and grow through our own edge and go deeper into a relationship with the TRUTH. Unreal people have FRAGMENTED and divided themselves within themselves and so the...

The Truth that is Written is Never the Real Truth.

Words are just words but the truth is the TRUTH. It’s so easy to fall into the trap of thinking that we’re GROWING REAL because we’re consuming information about personal development, spirituality, or whatever else but all of that stuff is just part of the problem unless we take it off the page and out into REAL LIFE. This is deeper than just the distinction between theory and practice – it’s about IDENTITY versus EXPERIENCE. When it comes to REALITY in truth, words, symbols, ideas and concepts ...