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February 3, 2023
A Hiatus
What a wonderful word that is. Without doing a deep dive, I’m confident I’ve never used this word in any of my books. What a pity since I do like this word. For those who like definitions. The definitions I’ve found of the word include: a pause or gap in a sequence, series, or process; to cease being broadcast for a period of time. I also found this in my search on hiatus as it relates to relationships: “In the most fundamental sense, taking a break means that you and your partner haven’t officially broken up, but you’ve decided to take some time off from each other and your relationship. It’s also key to keep in mind that taking a break doesn’t have to equal a breakup.” So…dear readers, honestly, I haven’t broken up with you; I just took an extended break.
The last time I took a significant break from all writing, including my weekly blog, I was in an uninspired space. That last 4 months. Fortunately, that hiatus resulted in my novel, Inspiration Takes a Vacation. I can’t do another book about writer’s block because I pride myself on putting out books completely different from previous novels. I simply cannot write a certain trope and change the names and occupations to produce a new book. That is not how I roll. This time it’s been more than 4 months, and the break has been for similar reasons. I’ve been discouraged, and I just couldn’t bring myself to think up new topics to talk about every week. It’s a lot harder than it looks.
So…why do people take a career hiatus…here are some of the reasons I found on the Internet, and surprisingly some absolutely match up with what I’ve been doing.
Gain a new outlook on life – I’m trying…Spend quality time with family – My wife would certainly dispute this oneTake a break from toxic work environments – Unfortunately, if one spends enough time on social media, one’ll find there is, unfortunately, a significant amount of toxicity in lesfic/sapphic/WLW writing and publishingReevaluate your career plans – meh, not so much, unless you count re-evaluating the effort it takes to write and publish a book versus the reward. For me, when only 100-200 people read one of my books, it’s kind of soul-sucking in relation to how much effort goes into writing that novel.Get involved in a passion project – not unless you count bingeing on Netflix or reading everyone else’s wonderful novels!Travel the world – well…not so much the world yet, but traveling to Mexico has been awesome.Focus on your mental health and well-being – I suppose this counts since I sometimes find myself in a funk over whether it is worth it to write one more book.Master a passion – Nope, I haven’t pursued this, although I should. Maybe it is time to take a few writing classes….Learn new skills – see the one above.Get perspective – My good pal Ali has been trying to get me to gain some perspective…not sure it has worked yet.Follow your dreams – I would if I knew what those dreams were.Learn a language – this is something I should have been doing with that time, but alas, I did not.Road test a new career – Oh, hell no, I’m retired!Reaffirm your life – If I knew exactly what that meant, maybe I’d try!Give yourself a health boost – I suppose I have done some of that since learning I am not as healthy as I thought.So…in conclusion, can we try again. I really don’t want to break up with y’all. If you keep buying my books (hopefully a few more of you than before), I’ll keep writing. Deal? And…just to make it easy on you, I’ve included some links:
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September 16, 2022
Pumpkin Spice
For some, Fall is already here, for others, it may technically start on the equinox (September 22). However, everyone can tell that Fall is near when businesses start trotting out the pumpkin spice! And…along with the start of pumpkin spice season is all the hate around this fad that has been growing strong since the first Pumpkin Spice Latte from Starbucks in 2003. No amount of hate will discourage businesses from thinking of new ways to incorporate this spice into their offerings. That got me thinking about the history of this hotly debated phenomenon.
This will not be a blog that hates all over pumpkin spice, even if I was one of those who don’t particularly care for the spice combination. Why? Because the hate, like most hate, is completely unnecessary, just like the hate against the LGBTQ+ community. Not your cup of tea…fine…but leave everyone else alone with your opinions, dogma, and vitriol. I’d rather explore the rich history of pumpkin spice. Here’s what I learned:
In 1663 the Dutch took control of the Spice Islands and out of the war came the Dutch East India Company. All of the spices (cinnamon, ginger, nutmeg, and cloves) are native to these Southeast Asian Islands.After taking control of the islands a blend similar to pumpkin spice called speculaaskruiden was born. The major difference is that cardamon and white pepper are added to this spice combo. The popularity of this particular combination of spices used in desserts led to spices moving across borders.In 1791 a blend very similar to speculaaskruiden showed up in the Practice of Cookery written by a Scottish woman only known as Mrs. Frazer. She recommended that this “mixed spice” be used on fried fish and mutton chops.In 1796 the combination of spices made its way to America and was featured in the first known cookbook written by an American called American Cookery by Amelia Simons. This is believed to be the cookbook with the first known pumpkin pie recipe in America that features a similar combination of spices (mace, nutmeg, and ginger). Although pumpkin was spelled, pompkin.Pumpkin pie had earlier origins in Europe and made its debut in a British recipe in 1675. This recipe called “pumpion pye” used cinnamon, nutmeg, cloves, and pepper.In 1930 the Better Homes and Garden New Cook Book had a recipe for pumpkin pie that includes cinnamon and ginger. This cookbook also has a pecan pumpkin pie recipe that called for cinnamon, nutmeg, and allspice.Pumpkin pie spice was branded by the largest spice manufacturer, McCormick in 1934 and was originally intended for pies. Several years earlier, in 1929, Libby’s a major canned food company had made it easy for people to bake pumpkin pies by offering pureed canned pumpkin. For anyone who has prepared pumpkin from the actual fruit, this was a very welcome advancement (I have actually done this).Pumpkin pie spice, however, has been used in many more recipes besides pie, and McCormick published those recipes in the 60s and 70s. Some of these recipes included main dishes like Chicken and Yam skillet. Others included applesauce, buttered toast, and yams.One of my favorite spices is cinnamon. Since this is the constant spice for all the variations of pumpkin spice, it is no wonder I love pumpkin spice anything. Yes, this is MY cup of tea. Like pumpkin spice, books can be a person’s cup of tea or not so much. As I’ve often said before, just because a book may not be my cup of tea doesn’t mean someone else won’t love it. And…this is why, like books, I prefer not to hate on something another person clearly enjoys. If my style of writing is your cup of tea, please feel free to check out my books…you know the drill…just click the links below. Don’t forget about tomorrow’s zoom call featuring the following authors, narrator, and cover artist from Affinity Rainbow Publications. Here’s the link: https://us06web.zoom.us/j/4775758997?pwd=YVNjcnpwZTROUEswbzZjU1YreU96dz09
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September 9, 2022
Kindness Costs Nothing
Just this past week I came upon two entirely unnecessary posts that actually took some effort to post. One was a picture of a famous woman (although not known to me) that showed her cleavage in a low-cut outfit. Now…if the post had been complimentary, I might have noted it and scrolled on by, appreciating the woman’s assets, but no this poster had to point out how the woman’s breasts sagged. The second post was a rant about how there are only two genders. The post actually stated that “Mandating a widespread enabling of a psychological disorder is widespread sociopathy.” And there were plenty of individuals to jump on the bandwagon to reinforce the meanness. Then after I posted my response…a ton more continued to spew propaganda about gender-affirming care.
This got me thinking why? Why would people go out of their way to be mean? To bully? To manipulate, harass, etc? So I went to my go-to place to try to find answers…yup…I googled the psychology of meaness! And here is what I found.
Contrary to popular belief that meaness is the result of a person with low esteem, studies have shown the opposite. Children who are mean have high self-esteem, sometimes to the point of narcissism. (Remind you of anyone – perhaps a loud-mouthed politician – there are actually many to choose from?)That same study indicated that the children were also highly shame-prone. The article went on to say that this hubris in individuals with high self-esteem leads them to withhold empathy and temporarily disavow their own shame.Most people can be mean as evidenced by the famous obedience study where participants were instructed to shock another human being to the point of physical harm, and 70% followed those instructions without question.Meaness is more noticeable than niceness. Since our brains are wired to survival then we notice meaness because we are more sensitive to things that could harm us. The hopefulness in this is that there is more niceness in the world, but it doesn’t get highlighted or noticed as much as meaness. Perhaps we should change that.Meaness is rewarded. This is especially true now with social media. But, think about it…who gets noticed and rewarded with their outrageous comments these days? It used to be that individuals would be shamed for their meaness, but that has completely changed Not only do their mean comments fail to generate a ton of pushback (we try). But instead, these people are rewarded with fame and fortune. These rewards start early in life. Just think of the popular mean girls. If a person wants to be in the “in-crowd” that usually means picking on someone and bullying them. The peer pressure to be mean is built into the high school pecking order.I don’t have all the answers, but one thing I know for sure is that every time I see one of those posts, I will do my darndest to change the conversation. To confront the meaness. Even the subtle meaness needs to be reframed. The “don’t you hate it when” posts are just another form of meaness in my humble opinion. This is the reason why I always try to reframe those conversations when someone starts a post about what people hate in WLW fiction. Trust me…us authors beat ourselves up enough with what we could improve in our manuscripts. Those posts hurt people and sometimes cause authors to go beyond the inherent self-doubt and bleed into questions about whether they should continue to write. Here’s the thing…kindness costs nothing and can actually be the difference between someone quitting or continuing to write those beloved novels. A few kind words always prompt me to continue on…to know that I’ve reached someone absolutely made all the difference in whether I chose to write that next book or not.
Despite seeing myself at times in those “don’t you hate it when” posts, I’ve continued to write. Sometimes a bloody miracle. If you want to check out my work…warts and all…you know the drill. Just click the links below.
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September 2, 2022
Be Careful What You Ask For…Part II
So…all over the news, states are lamenting the fact that they now have a serious teacher shortage. Why? Because the fringe right has been calling teachers “groomers”. Then there are the mean-spirited report of teachers offering kids banned books, supporting LGBTQ+ teens, or allegations that CRT is being taught in their classroom. They’ve declared war on teachers and now they can’t understand why they’re leaving in droves. The facts don’t matter. The right wanted a culture war, and now they’ve got it. Unfortunately, they didn’t realize the consequences of bashing those wonderful human beings charged with educating little Johnny or little Susie. Parents better start honing their skills and be prepared to homeschool the kiddos because with classrooms of 70+, your kids aren’t learning jack shit. Recent articles about education in the US suggest that we’ve been falling behind our global competition for years in things such as: literacy and numeracy scores, self-regulation skills, and engagement in acts of cooperation, kindness, and other prosocial behaviors. Enter the culture wars and the gap will only get larger. I don’t even want to be around in the next ten to twenty years if we continue down this path. We will reap what we sow…kids who are ignorant of history and an apathetic acceptance of racism, sexism, homophobia, etc.
A few years ago it was the nurses, doctors, and hospitals who were getting beat up after the initial cheering of those wonderful professionals. Somehow people forgot they were the ones who took care of us during the height of COVID. Soon masking and vaccines became so controversial the conspiracy theories started about hospitals fudging on the COVID case counts so they could make more money. Total bullshit, of course. This bad behavior on the right resulted in a mass exodus of health care professionals to add to the already emerging crisis of staff shortages. Add the threats against police, FBI, and election workers, and I want to know who the hell do they think is going to teach their kids, protect their families or take care of their health care needs if the radical right keeps picking on every single group that their cult leader tells them they should hate.
I think if we’re going to pick on anyone, we should start with lawyers, executives making 1,000 times more than their employees, or politicians that can’t seem to work together for the good of the nation. I’m not sure that a shortage in any of those areas would have nearly the same impact as the crisis we now face with the teacher shortage.
Obviously, the far right doesn’t understand psychology very much…if a book is put on a ban list, that just makes kids want to discover what all the fuss is about. If it’s controversial, those kids are going to search the internet and find every single banned book on every and any list. I almost wish one of my books would make the banned book list because I suspect I would receive a bump in sales. Hmmm…why don’t y’all assume all my books are banned…now you can run right out and see what the fuss is all about! You know the drill…just click one of the links below!
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August 19, 2022
Be Careful What You Ask For…
There’s an old saying that goes something like this: Be careful what you ask for because you just might get it. Nowhere is this more evident than what has been happening on the US political landscape. Immediately after the Supreme Court overturned Roe vs. Wade, the protests started, and the red tide began to turn. Clearly, the Republicans got what they asked for, but the impact is now being felt far and wide. I don’t think the Republicans are going to like the ultimate outcome when they can’t deliver both the House and Senate in November, partly due to overturning Roe vs. Wade, but also due to so much more.
The second example showed up in my news feed this past week when one of the books being challenged as not appropriate was none other than The Bible. Honestly, I had wondered about that myself. If you’re going to ban classics because of inappropriate content for children, I can’t imagine how reading about rape, incest, violence, etc. in the bible would be any more appropriate. Don’t believe me? Check out the following passages:
“You also took the fine jewelry I gave you, the jewelry made of my gold and silver, and you made for yourself male idols and engaged in prostitution with them.” (Ezekiel 16:17) Um…dildos!“If two men, a man and his countryman, are struggling together, and the wife of one comes near to deliver her husband from the hand of the one who is striking him, and puts out her hand and seizes his genitals, then you shall cut off her hand; you shall not show pity.” (Deuteronomy 25:11-12) Can you say menage a trois?“When she carried on her whoring so openly and flaunted her nakedness, I turned in disgust from her, as I had turned in disgust from her sister. Yet she increased her whoring, remembering the days of her youth, when she played the whore in the land of Egypt and lusted after her lovers there, whose members were like those of donkeys, and whose issue was like that of horses. Thus you longed for the lewdness of your youth, when the Egyptians handled your bosom and pressed your young breasts.” (Ezekiel 23:18-21) Dicks and boobs…come on, really?“Say to David, ‘The king wants no other price for the bride than a hundred Philistine foreskins, to take revenge on his enemies.’” (1 Samuel 18:20-30) All I can say is ouch…“Our father is old, and there is no man around here to give us children — as is the custom all over the earth. Let’s get our father to drink wine and then sleep with him and preserve our family line through our father.” (Genesis 19:30) Um…incest…how is this appropriate?“And when she had brought them unto him to eat, he atook hold of her, and said unto her, Come lie with me, my sister. And she answered him, Nay, my brother, do not aforce me; for no such thing ought to be done in Israel: do not thou this bfolly. And I, whither shall I cause my ashame to go? and as for thee, thou shalt be as one of the fools in Israel. Now therefore, I pray thee, speak unto the king; for he will not withhold me from thee. Howbeit he would not hearken unto her voice: but, being stronger than she, forced her, and lay with her. 2 samuel 13:1-21 Rape and incest…why in the world would we make this available to children to read?
I am quite sure there are many more, and as I’ve done the research, there are some individuals who believe the above passages are fine to share with kids as long as you provide explanations and help them understand the passages. Seriously? Now, obviously, I am not a big fan of banning books, any books, but if we are concerned about sharing age-inappropriate books with small children, better take a good hard look at your own sacred bible.
In my lifetime, I’ve seen dramatic swings in politics from right-leaning to left-leaning, but the swing that is occurring now defies all logic. We are going so far to the right, it’s downright frightening, and no amount of logic will uncover the naked hypocrisy running rampant down our streets. There is nowhere to hide because the monsters are everywhere now. They’ve been given permission to stalk our streets and commit violence against their neighbors (something I am quite sure the bible teaches us not to do). The only light at the end of the tunnel is that old saying of “be careful what you ask for…” because I do believe we are at the very beginning stages of another pendulum swing, and this one will fall squarely on the radical right’s shoulders because of what they’ve been asking for.
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August 5, 2022
Footgasm
So…I’ve been on a sex roll lately and last week I included Foot Sex in my list of 101 Types of Sex. This one definitely caught my interest. Thus I felt like it deserved its own blog. The first question I had: can a person actually have an orgasm with just a foot rub? And the answer is…YES! I found an article about this phenomenon featuring an expert in the field who has done research on footgasms. Dr. Marcel Waldinger explains that he was able to trigger an orgasm starting with electrical impulses on her left foot. The sensation traveled up the middle of her body triggering an orgasm. This research started after learning about this woman who was complaining about her footgasms. The good doctor felt it was his ethical duty to study the phenomenon. Apparently, this woman had damage to the small nerves in her left foot. Her brain got mixed up, and thought signals that originated from the left foot instead came from the vagina. Here’s the explanation on how that happened to this woman: The nerves from her left foot and genitals entered the spinal cord and the brain was mixed up. It didn’t know which impulses came from the foot versus the vagina. The brain thought the foot impulse was from her vagina, and so it gave her an orgasm in her foot, even though her vagina is not in her foot.
After this research, the doctor heard from many people (both men and women) who shared their experiences when receiving foot massages that led to orgasm. Although this is rare, it does happen. For those of you interested in finding out whether this might work for you, there is a certain place to stimulate. According to Dr. Waldinger it is the area under the toes at the bottom and in the middle. He theorizes this is because there is a nerve that runs underneath that splits into separate nerves to each of the toes. In addition to Dr. Waldinger’s research, Eastern Medicine would point people to the ancient practice of reflexology, where certain pressure points in your feet can trigger sexual arousal. So…ladies, feel free to give your partners a foot massage and see where that leads you!
After reading about this, I did include a small scene where one of the main characters gives special attention to her partner’s toes…because why the hell not! If you want to check out my books, feel free to click on the links below. The re-release of Compound Interest (Lesfic Bard Finalist for Action/Adventure) is finally out. For those who didn’t get the book the first time around, I hope you will check it out. It is the final chapter in my combined series (Asset Management/Book Addict). A fast-paced thriller with loads of twists and turns.
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July 29, 2022
101 Different Types of Sex
Okay, maybe I wasn’t able to come up with 101, but I came really close because there are a shit ton of different ways (just shy by six)! After joking about hiring a Ghost Writer to write my sex scenes for me, I received a number of hilarious responses. One of those was from Bongo Bear, who proceeded to list a number of different ways to have sex. So…I decided I had to write a blog about this, including her list as well as others who also provided very helpful suggestions. Of course I had to think of a few on my own as well. And I also did a quick internet search to help me pick up a few more. The following list is a combination of the different types, as well as some very creative suggestions on locations. So without further ado…
Inexperienced first-time sexStranger sex (one night stand)Dangerous sexCheating sexAngry/jealous sexMakeup sexLazy Saturday or Sunday sexHappy anniversary sexSex interrupted by pets/children/in-laws dropping by/Amazon delivery/Pizza deliverySex joined by Amazon and/or Pizza deliveryFrustrated because batteries are dead sexWho cares; look at what Amazon just delivered sexI’m bored; let’s try something different sexRough sexVanilla sexBDSMKinky sex Fetish sexSex with a furryAnal sexSex with toysOral SexStrap-on sexSex with foodI’m sorry. Let me kiss it and make it better sexLast time sex before someone goes to prison/off-to-war/five year mission to MarsOnce more for old times sake sexPublic sexSex with reverenceRip off the other’s clothes sexPolyamory sex Worship the other person’s body sexBirthday sexCelebratory sexSex after a long, dry spellNo holds bar sexBeach sexCamping sexMile hile sexOrgyMenage a troisHoneymoon sexSoulmate sexRoleplay sexVaginal sexDo-it-yourself sexDry humpingFinger-f@%kingEdgingScissor sexSixty-nineSit on your face sexTantric sexPhone or virtual sexFoot sex (yes that is actually a thing – some people can orgasm with only their feet being caressed)Shower sexGoodbye sexQuick sexAll night sexDrunk SexHigh SexCaffeine induced sexBreakup sexHotel sexPaid for sexSex while watching pornCreating porn sexSex while someone watchesPlanned sexSpontaneous sexVacation sexSex outside of the bedroomRV sexOutdoor sexFake sex (as in faking an orgasm)On a pool tableOn the kitchen tableIn the office on a deskAgainst a wallIn a bathtubIn a hot tubIn a boatTo the music of Barry WhiteTo the music of Donna SummerIn the stall of a bathroom sexScreaming…OMFG sexPanties twirling on the overhead fan sexDiscarded clothes on the staircase sexYoni massage sexSex after a massageIllicit sexIllegal sex (as in before when sex between two women or two men was illegal – not the other kind, because uh, yuk)Post menopausal sexSnowed in sexSex because you think you might be dying soon
Whew…quite a list, and I know I am missing some, and others are very similar with small differences. What this little post taught me is that there are so many more ways to write a sex scene than I imagined. All I really needed to do is step outside the tiny box I’ve put myself into and branch out. Next time I am stuck, I’ll come back to this blog for inspiration. Thank you to all who contributed and to those who will respond to this blog to add to the list. Come on people…I only need six more to meet the 101 number. For other authors who are stuck, feel free to peruse the list! I have sincerely tried to alter my sex scenes so that I don’t write the same things over and over. Feel free to check out my books and let me know if I’ve actually achieved that goal. You know the drill…simply click on the links below.
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July 22, 2022
Vabbing…Oh My!
Well…it’s been three weeks, and I cannot think of a better come-back topic than one that was suggested by K’Anne Meinel. God, I love that woman…besides reading all her hysterical memes and posts, she never fails to send me good stuff now and again…and this topic is pure gold.
I had absolutely no idea what vabbing was, but I had my suspicions. I was only partially correct. Knowing K’Anne and with the first two letters the same as ‘vagina,’ I just knew it was something to do with the vagina. And I wasn’t wrong. So what is vabbing? Because this article has a quote, I can’t help but recite it (from the urban dictionary). I’m going to print this verbatim because it is just too good not to. Basically, vabbing is, “When you stick your lady fingers in between your lady lips and put your lady juice behind your lady ears so that people want to sex your lady box.” I can’t even tell you how long I laughed after reading this. Yup, it is vagina perfume.
That got me to wondering…if I was someone who actually squirts (like in large quantities) could I bottle up my juices and sell them on the open market? Is it even possible to purchase vagina perfume? Inquiring minds…After a quick internet search…yup, you certainly can! Here are some options to consider on the off chance y’all are pondering giving this a go.
From Heretic Parfum: This smells like my vagina perfume rollerball, Heretic X Goop: Energizing Bergamot blends with Cedar and Rose in this infamous Goop collaboration, This Smells Like My Vagina perfume for a sultry and sophisticated scent that stimulates sensuality and self-love. Natural ingredients plus safe synthetics. 10mL rollerball. They also make a candle that, yup, you guessed it, smells like a vagina!Erykah Badu opened an online shop called BaduWorldMarket, which sells a pack of 20 incense sticks, which, according to the website, were made with the ashes of Badu’s own underwear. Apparently, the underwear used was when she was ovulating, and there is an urban legend that her “pussy is magic.” You can’t make this shit up! It isn’t exactly perfume, but close enough. She also has a perfume titled, Badhu’s Pussy. Here is the link to the YouTube video that announces the perfume sold out in mere minutes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iAxloY_eTTY
And…there you have it…the new trend…vagina perfume. Now I will have to keep writing just so I can weave this into one of my future novels! Want to read about the crazy stuff I write about? You know the drill…just click one of the links below. Coming soon…the reprint of Compound Interest (the final book in the Asset Management/Book Addict combined series).
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June 24, 2022
Ouch
You might think that I’m going to talk about the Supreme Court’s decision to overturn Roe V. Wade today and make no mistake that is a big Ouch, but not what I can talk about just yet. It’s way too raw for me after the other decision on gun rights. All I can say is that, yes, it can get worse for all of us. Instead, I decided to stay on track with the news story I came across last week about the exploding clitoris. Okay, maybe that is a bit of hyperbole, but the woman’s clitoris did rupture.
So what was that news story all about? Unfortunately, for me, it was about so much more than this woman’s misfortune. It was a testament to what is wrong with healthcare today. This poor woman kept having discomfort, starting at age 14 and they kept misdiagnosing her with a UTI. Even when she went to a gynecologist. Finally, after her clitoris swelled to the size of a grape, she was misdiagnosed again and sent home only to have her clitoris rupture. Yup, full-on blood, pus, etc. She went to a different doctor and they identified the real reason-a cyst on her clitoris was infected.
Now, let me tell you that I totally related to this woman’s experience. When I first discovered something wrong down there, I was afraid I had some kind of STD (I was young and naive). Turns out, I also had an infected cyst. Fortunately for me, it was not on my clitoris, but not too far away on my inner labia, which to be honest isn’t a whole lot of fun either. Throughout the years, the damn thing acted up and became infected. Tea tree oil was my saving grace when it happened. I was fortunate to have a primary care physician who was a woman who correctly identified the problem and assured me it was nothing to be too concerned about. I never decided to have surgery to have it removed because honestly, it doesn’t flare up often enough for me to want a surgeon cutting on me down there! The thing is…if only the doctor had really done a thorough examination on the poor young woman, they would have discovered it was a cyst. They are pretty easy to identify. I can feel mine, even when it isn’t infected. Women need to start advocating for themselves. We need to turn the tide around and stop the regressive wave or it is going to get much, much worse.
I don’t think that I will weave this story into any book, because it’s probably not very sexy. Hopefully, for others who might have had the same thing happen to them, talking openly and honestly about this will demistify discussing issues that are taboo in polite society. Because, if we don’t talk about it, we better be okay with continuing to be misdiagnosed. Not much tie into books, but you can still feel free to click on the links below. And…don’t forget to join us tomorrow in Lesbian Fiction Campfire for Pride readings. So many great authors to listen to. Ali Spooner and I will be on 12:00-1:00pm PST.
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June 17, 2022
Mindful Profanity
It was a tough choice this week deciding what to blog about. I came across two articles in my daily perusal of the news, and it was a toss-up about which I would choose. The story not chosen for this week was about a woman whose clitoris exploded (okay not really, it ruptured, but still very cringe-worthy). And, for those of you who really want to hear about the ruptured clitoris, I can’t resist blogging about that next week…so stay tuned.
Now, I’ve written about profanity before, because, well, there aren’t many of my books or characters who avoid swearing. I’ve made the case before that there is absolutely nothing wrong with a well-placed curse word. Unfortunately, as I age, I’ve lost my filter…left that sucker in the dust years ago. Now that I am retired, I feel empowered to let the words fly freely from my mouth. This is why I was delighted to read the article about how swearing can make a person happier.
In addition to that remarkable declaration, the article went on to make a few other points for mindful cursing. Here are some of the things I learned:
Americans have huge potty mouths. On average, out of every 1,000 words, five are curse words. This includes all those individuals who never curse in normal speech (nearly half of us).Over the past two years, cursing has increased, including in children. And people are also swearing more at work.There is good profanity and bad profanity (not the actual words): Using it as a modifier, such as that was f$%king awesome is somewhat acceptable in certain places. In a joking capacity, such as, “Some people believe there is too much profanity in Sapphic Fiction and to that I say, bullsh%$.” Personally, I think joking about profanity is perfectly acceptable. The kind that is bad is considered abusive obscenity and this can end a marriage, get you disciplined at work, or put you in Facebook jail.Profanity is mostly voluntary, but there are examples of involuntary cursing such as instances of aphasia or Tourette’s syndrome. I’ve never written about a character with Tourette’s, but that could be interesting.Profanity feels good and allows for emotional relief. Who doesn’t feel a smidgeon of relief after stubbing your toe and letting that “f*&k fly from your mouth? Not only that, but it can also lessen physical pain. Yup, there have been studies on that! The Brits asked people to put their hands in frigid water, some were told to use profanity, while others were directed to use non-profane words. The subjects who let the swear words fly tolerated the pain better. I’m waiting for my health care provider to write a prescription for profanity the next time I perform one of my klutzy maneuvers. Another researcher found that while some may associate a person who curses as less intelligent (those arguments have been made about Sapphic works that have a lot of cursing, arguing it is lazy, unintelligent writing), another perception exists where those of us with potty mouths are believed to be more honest. Just to be clear, I have always vehemently disagreed with those who think fiction with profanity is lazy or unintelligent writing.While I have written characters that abhor profanity and never swear, even going so far as to chastise those that do, most of my characters use profanity. Some more than others. Except for the characters who I intentionally develop as horrible human beings, I try to avoid abusive profanity. Ali must find me a challenge to write with because she doesn’t write a lot of profanity in her books, so if you see a swear word in the books we have written together, that’s probably all me! Want to check out our latest novel, feel free to click on the links below.
Buy From Affinity Amazon US Amazon UK Amazon Australia Amazon Canada Amazon Germany Book 4 in the Trophy Wives Club Series
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Also available in audible: https://www.amazon.com/Audible-Disconnected/dp/B09Y5JSQT9/
Amazon US Amazon UK Amazon Australia Amazon Canada Amazon Germany
Also available in Audible!
Amazon US Amazon UK Amazon Australia Amazon Canada Amazon Germany
Available on Kindle Unlimited
Love Forever Live Forever
The Thanksgiving Baby Caper
The Book Addict
The Book Witch
Inspiration Takes a Vacation
Donner Junior Saves the Day
Proud to be an Affinity Rainbow Publications author!
