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April 1, 2016

April Fools Day

April Fools Day only comes once a year! So no cumming for the entire day, not a joke! Well it's a joke to me, hahahahahaha, loser. If you would like to come then please pay me $75 on www.mistressharley.com






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Published on April 01, 2016 09:54

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Published on April 01, 2016 08:56

March 30, 2016

Financial Domiantion is Good For You


I often tell my slaves that my control is ultimately good for them. Regardless of the concerns  they express about finances, I know that my decision making skills are better than theirs.  Really men spend way too much of their money on things that don't fulfill them, don't make them happy, and don't serve any higher purpose. FinSubs who don't have a Mistress that they serve singularly often find them selves like food addicts- binging and purging. Spending  too much money, compromising themselves, and then trying to purge their addiction from their soul. However just like any sexual fetish we know that you can't just ignore it and make  it go away. That is how stupid boys end up in the binge- purge cycle with financial domination.
When a sub finally lets go and submits himself to a superior woman, he will often find himself MUCH better off. She will prioritize his spending, optimize his life, and force him to commit himself to a more responsible lifestyle- because now he has a REASON and PURPOSE to  do so. 

Here's a sub who has truely learned his lesson. I'll let him explain in his own words why Financial Domination has been Good for him.
xox Harley   ____________________________________________________________________________  In my late forties and never once have I made a budget and a plan for money.  Mistress Harley insisted I do so in February and much to my surprise it was revealed to me one of my longest help self images was simply a lie I like to tell myself.  I have always believed not only was I smart with money but even a bit of tight with it as well.  This was one of the reasons I thought playing with Findom might be fun for a month or so but then I would simply move on to the next new thing.
As a child I was miserly but this had not followed me into adulthood and somehow I was completely blind to it.  Even worse when I looked at how the wasted money was being spent it was another big shock as almost as more was going in my mouth as junk food than any other part of my expenses.  What I realize now after two months of that JUNK money that is now going to Mistress Harley instead of feeding my face was actually harming me before.  Having a margin above basic living expenses should have been a great blessing in my life instead because I truly was just letting my money tell me what to do it was harming my health and happiness.  I realize also it was making me a bad citizen of the world between fast food wrappers and bags, convenience store containers nothing recycled nothing reused simply thrown away.  I produce less than a quarter of the garbage I did just 3 months ago.  I have just started to realize how materialistic this JUNK money was making me as well.  Getting hooked on financial domination might be viewed as a curse by some and I am sure others might call it exploitation but I call it a blessing.  This JUNK money never brought me happiness the closest it ever came was the ability to buy gifts for family even then because I did not do any planning it was difficult to find any joy in that as I constantly worried if I over spent.  Being out of control sucks no matter if it is health, weight , eating habits, or spending habits it led to a lot of stress which caused even more chaos in my life.  Mistress Harley has brought order and purpose not only to that JUNK money but to my life.  Out of all the things Mistress Harley ever demanded of me I believe making that first budget and sending it to her was the hardest way and the very best way I have served her and oddly enough me.
In all honesty Mistress Harley and Financial Domination are what I need in my life.  I did not even know how big of a mess I was making out of my life before but just felt totally out of control.  I feel less stress now, even a trip to the grocery store I plan out and feel life is controlled now.  My health and happiness is much improved now.  Every once in awhile that math logic side of my brain tries to speak up and object to the idea of giving Mistress Harley money being the most responsible thing I could do with it but I just remind myself how screwed up that side of my brain had things before anyway thus quieting all objections.  
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Published on March 30, 2016 21:59

Spend your Tax Return with Harley

Mistress Harley can help you spend your Tax return! Didn't get a return this year? Send me $100 for breaking even. Owe the government money? Pay me and the government the same amount!



Tax Returns are a great way to show your Mistress that you are a worthless slave and that I am the only thing that matters. Don't you agree?




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Published on March 30, 2016 09:48

March 29, 2016

Why Your Cock Will Never Satisfy Anyone


It's important to remember that your penis is the least interesting thing about you. As I tell loser boys constantly, the point of Femdom is not for me to cater to whatever fantasies you might have so you can stroke off. The point of Femdom is that I GET WHAT I WANT, and that you offer that to me without feeling entitled to any attention for your dick. To me, that is service.
Here's a little journal entry I made one of my pindick fatfuck slaves write to remember the point of serving. He has only been locked in chastity a few days but already he's learning valuable lessons.
xox Harley

_________________________________________________________________ At some point in high school gym class I came to realize the other boys had kept growing while my penis stopped short.  Showering after class it was hard not to notice so I would either keep covered or skip my shower.  As an adult I have come to realize my penis is simply too small to satisfy anyone...including myself.
The fear that I could never be intimate with a woman goes back as long as I can recall thinking about the subject.  So many fears, could it even reach to get inside, would she feel it, would she just laugh and leave or maybe even tell all our friends.  I told myself putting off sex would make it all the more special but always wondered how could sex possibly be satisfying for whomever I might be with with a penis so small.  Then came some hopeful years a lot of articles in men’s Magazines kept saying size did not matter and I was eager to believe it.   Part of me always knew though just like if winning doesn't matter why keep score if size did not matter then why is it even a subject.  Meanwhile I kept having issues even with masturbating every technique I had read about just did not work for me with a penis so small.  A few years later a funny thing happened on the internet while there were still those claiming the same old size doesn’t matter,  there were others addressing the issue head on.  You see a lot of truth out of younger people that have not learned to lie for fear of bruising egos.  I came across quite a few articles (not just porn stars) saying the minimum to satisfy most women was easily more than double my size.  It was somewhere in this time I realized my penis was too small to satisfy anyone.  I had to face the fact just seeing my small penis was going to be a turn off and ruin any sexual tension in the room.  After that my sexuality kinda changed direction what turned me on was not using my penis to satisfy someone but being used.  I cannot recall the last time I had a sex dream or fantasy about attempting to use my small penis or even a dream about having a big penis.  The closest thing is the typical SPH videos and stories at least they involve my penis no one is satisfied but it is the focus of attention.  At this point I am sure my penis will never serve any purpose to anyone else but to provide a giggle or laugh.  One of the last little SPH fantasies I created before Mistress Harley entered my life was about being offer two pills one would double the size of my penis the other would reduce it by half.  Realizing that even doubled in size I still failed to measure up and would still be too small to satisfy anyone I would normally opt for the shrinking one.  
Mistress Harley has helped me understand and accept my penis is too small to satisfy anyone, including myself.  I am and will in all likelihood die a VIRGIN because my penis is simply to small.  The best use ever made of my penis is Mistress Harley using it to control me and locking it in a small chastity device.  At last it seems my small penis has a purpose other than urinating and for that I am grateful.
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Published on March 29, 2016 16:16

March 27, 2016

Mistress Harley's Guide to Tattoo Etiquette


Along with my Tattoos for Noobs post, I decided to write a Tattoo Etiquette guide, for those of you new to the world of tattooing, or old hands who have since forgotten how to operate in the polite tattoo world.

Do not touch unless you are given explicit permission. Like the BDSM world, it is typically considered poor manners to touch someone in order to "see" their tattoos unless you have been given permission to do so. If you ask to "see" someone's tattoo, do not then grab them by the applicable limb and twist them about in order to get a better view. Additionally, if you ask to "see" a tattoo, and it requires the owner of the tattoo to move some item of clothing out of the way, do not feel free to remove or relocate that item of clothing for them. If they are feeling like sharing, they are competent to rearrange their own clothes.Unless you know someone REALLY well, do not, under any circumstances, point out how bad their work is. Seriously, you'd think this would be a no brainer, but it's clearly not. If someone has a piece of work that's less than stellar (and I don't know any heavily tattooed person that hasn't had at least one "starter" mistake and/or a cover up) don't go pointing it out over and over again, or teasing that person. It's depressing and kind of shitty when something PERMANENT goes terribly wrong, and whether the bad tattoo was a result of poor decision making or inexperience, let he who has never made a poor decision cast the first stone.If you do have tattoos, don't compare your work to the work of others in their presence. You may think your work is as good as mine...It's not, unless I tell you it is. I may think my work is better than yours, and you don't. Either way comparing tattoos is a little like comparing body parts. "My tits are just as nice as yours!" is probably not going to lead to a positive feeling in at least one party, and maybe both.If you must snark about other people's tattoos, wait until they've left the room, and do it quietly, and especially don't do it in a public forum. Seriously, another no brainer right? It's not the same as talking shit about someone's bad outfit, you're talking shit about a permanent decision that someone probably ascribes some personal meaning to. Yeah, I snark all the time, I probably talk about how bad your tattoos are, but at least I have the courtesy to do it in private, and not publicize that I think your work is crap.If you are not tattooed, don't open a conversation with a tattooed person about how awesome/hot/sexy/amazing their tattoos are. Guess what? We've heard it all before, it's the most unoriginal come-on and/or conversation starter we frequently get. Working in a compliment about someone's body art later in a conversation is acceptable, but again, be subtle. Coming up to me and saying "Your tattoos are amazing" is about equivalent to saying "Your tits are amazing!" I know they are, I've heard it before, and it doesn't really make me think you're interested in anything beyond the superficial.It is perfectly ok to ask a tattooed friend advice on the process of getting a tattoo. Want a recommendation for a good artist? Sure. Want to know how to best develop an idea to turn it into custom artwork? Please ask. Don't ask me where or what to get tattooed on your body. I don't care.Do not stop a busy tattooed person in the market, at a coffee shop, or interrupt them during a phone call to try and talk to them about their tattoos. I don't care how interested you are, if I'm busy, I don't have the patience to indulge your curiosity.You can stare, I understand. But be prepared for me to flip you the bird.Don't ask me what I think of your tattoos, unless you want a real, down to earth, honest (and probably painful) answer. I'm sure it means something special and important to you, but I'm hyper-critical of bad art, poor technique, and your neediness.
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Published on March 27, 2016 11:07

March 26, 2016

Easter Weekend is a Perfect Time to Reqad the Holy Harley Bible

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Published on March 26, 2016 21:07

Tattoos for Noobs


As someone heavily tattooed, I often get asked where the best place to get tattooed at is, what I look for in an artist, and what the most painful part of the body is. Someone recently picked my brain about how to get started when you want a good piece of work. I also have slaves who inquire about how get a tattoo of my logo, so this can help to serve those loyal slaves as a helpful guide. 

Oh, and just FYI: the top of the foot or ribcage hurts the most.I would say that my process begins when I'm struck with an idea, be it an image, or a concept that I think would translate into an awesome piece of art. Then I go do some research by going to local shops, looking on the Internet at online portfolios, and asking friends that I think have good work for recommendations. In looking for an artist you want to look for several traits: someone who has recognizable technical skill in both their tattoo work (check for clean, smooth, even lines. Look for consistency in the coloration, attention to detail, color blending, shading, light, and overall aesthetic), as well as someone with an artistic style that you like and matches the feel of what you're looking for. I picked the artist who did my sleeve and back because her artistic style was more like a watercolor artist, her style is light and almost whimsical. I chose my next artist because I liked the level of detail and the way he paid attention to light and shadow. Stylistic appeal is subjective, technical skill is not.So great! You have an idea or concept, and you have an artist. Now, with any custom piece, the control freak inside you is going to have to let go at some point. It's really going to be up to the artist to do the best job of rendering out the ideas and images you give him or her as they can. You can work with them, do a couple iterations of the design you want, but the odds are you are never going to get exactly your vision of the piece you want, unless you're getting a piece of flash. It's ok to bring in some pictures for subject material, to show an angle, or lighting that you like, but know you're not going to get exactly that image. Make sure all the important elements that are symbolic to you are there, be willing to give a little in terms of placement/ size/ background. Most of the people I know who "want a tattoo, but haven't gotten one yet," never get one because they just can't find the exact thing they want.Oh, my only exception to these rules are text. Really all you need for text is EXACTLY what you want written (spell check it, print it out, and bring it with you, preferably in the font you like, if not there will be examples of fonts at the shop), and find an artist with good line work (clean, even, steady, straight) and you'll pretty much be ok at most shops. For bigger more artistic work you need to be much more discriminating.Oh, and depending on the size and detail of the piece you want, be prepared to spend a small fortune. It's worth it.
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Published on March 26, 2016 14:26