Mistress Harley's Blog
June 14, 2019
May 31, 2019
TRAVEL ANOUNCEMENT: AUSTIN TX June 28-30th! CashMeets and RealTime!
I have been invited as a Keynote speaker at ACTLAB 2019 and of course I wad delighted to come share my wisdom and knowledge!
Ways you can see me while I'm in AUSTIN TX:
1. Come to ACTLAB 2019 for my Keynote Address
2. Book a CASHMEET or Real Time Session with me - Spots are VERY LIMITED. All bookings require a deposit.
Looking forward to seeing my fans and worshippers in Austin!
xox
Mistress Harley
Ways you can see me while I'm in AUSTIN TX:
1. Come to ACTLAB 2019 for my Keynote Address
2. Book a CASHMEET or Real Time Session with me - Spots are VERY LIMITED. All bookings require a deposit.
Looking forward to seeing my fans and worshippers in Austin!
xox
Mistress Harley
May 17, 2019
What We Left Behind: Looking Back at Star Trek: Deep Space Nine
What We Left Behind: Looking Back at Star Trek: Deep Space Nine features ME! You cannot escape findom! I'm even in theaters. Go see the film now! I am fucking famous! Find out where you can watch it here. (link)www.mistressharley.com Twitter @TechdommeQuick LinksClick here for my websiteBuy NowClick here for more info
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April 16, 2019
March 18, 2019
Blackmail Fetish Interview with Mistress Harley
I recently did an interview with ManyVids about Blackmail Fetish, why it's popular, and what people should know about it! Make sure you check out my interview on ManyVids!
What exactly is the blackmail fetish?
Blackmail fetish is a role play fetish where someone gets aroused at the idea of their personal information being used against them to "force" them to do something they would otherwise not do. Much like rape play or other types of non-consent fetishes this one focuses around the loss of control of the submissive "victim", and the feeling that there would be real life consequences if the submissive failed to obey the dominant.
How did you discover this fetish? How did you begin practicing it?
I discovered this fetish because submissive men were literally begging me for it! They would ask me to take their humiliating photos, their personal information, even pictures of their passports in order to make them comply in a BDSM scene. I was quite wary at first because the idea of blackmail is both taboo and illegal if being pursued in real life. Because like all BDSM power exchange is negotiated play I began with doing detailed contracts where a person would explicitly ask in writing for me to use their information for role play purposes.
What are some precautions that people should have for this fetish? That as with many fetishes as soon as you remove it from the BDSM role play sphere it is absolutely illegal and should never be engaged in without clear consent, the negotiation of boundaries, and a safe word or signal that the submissive party can exercise to stop the play. Just as rape play and other forms of non-consent play are perfectly fine as long as all parties are consenting, the minute consent is revoked and the dominant continues the scene you are putting your submissive and yourself in great peril in terms of your relationship, your emotions, and the law.
Is there anything you would like to share with first timers? Make sure that you clearly discuss boundaries, limits, and safety before you begin any type of BDSM play or "edge" play in which someone could end up with regrets. If you are engaging in this play online make sure you have consent in writing!
Do you have a memory, event, or video, related to this fetish that really stands out in your mind?I had one submissive that would always beg me in writing to blackmail him to do forced-bi tasks. He loved the idea of being forced into a huge sissy for me. I would tell him that if he didn't send me videos of him sucking dicks for me that I would post his humiliating photos and personal information in my Loser Hall of Shame, something he had consented to as part of our negotiations. He sent me so many videos of him sucking cock, I feel that the blackmail fetish allowed him to experience a real fantasy he had but would have never been able to perform otherwise.
Why do you think people are into this fetish? For the same reason people are into any type of bondage, power exchange, they want to feel helplessness, they want to feel controlled by someone who clearly has the upper hand. A lot of mental stimulation goes into BDSM and sometimes it's about having physical control over someone, but mental control can be just as much of a turn on, if not more. The "realness" of the blackmail fetish really can create a sexy pressure for someone where they can truly feel controlled in a long term way that doesn't end when the cuffs get unlocked.
What goes into a great blackmail vid?A great blackmail video just needs to inspire fear in the person watching it. Kind of like a horror movie, if you can really make the sub who is watching it feel the fear and anxiety that would come with being really fucked over by someone who had their information and used it against them, they'll keep coming back for more!
What would you like the general public to know about this fetish?That as with all fetishes blackmail fetish is a consensual power exchange role play engaged in by adults who are gaining mutual satisfaction from the power exchange. There are some people that don't know where to draw the line between fantasy and reality, but those people don't represent a larger consent based community.
Thanks for reading my interview about blackmail fetishism! I have lots of blackmail videos and games for those who find themselves even more curious about this fetish ;)
xoxMistress Harley
What exactly is the blackmail fetish?
Blackmail fetish is a role play fetish where someone gets aroused at the idea of their personal information being used against them to "force" them to do something they would otherwise not do. Much like rape play or other types of non-consent fetishes this one focuses around the loss of control of the submissive "victim", and the feeling that there would be real life consequences if the submissive failed to obey the dominant.
How did you discover this fetish? How did you begin practicing it?
I discovered this fetish because submissive men were literally begging me for it! They would ask me to take their humiliating photos, their personal information, even pictures of their passports in order to make them comply in a BDSM scene. I was quite wary at first because the idea of blackmail is both taboo and illegal if being pursued in real life. Because like all BDSM power exchange is negotiated play I began with doing detailed contracts where a person would explicitly ask in writing for me to use their information for role play purposes.
What are some precautions that people should have for this fetish? That as with many fetishes as soon as you remove it from the BDSM role play sphere it is absolutely illegal and should never be engaged in without clear consent, the negotiation of boundaries, and a safe word or signal that the submissive party can exercise to stop the play. Just as rape play and other forms of non-consent play are perfectly fine as long as all parties are consenting, the minute consent is revoked and the dominant continues the scene you are putting your submissive and yourself in great peril in terms of your relationship, your emotions, and the law.
Is there anything you would like to share with first timers? Make sure that you clearly discuss boundaries, limits, and safety before you begin any type of BDSM play or "edge" play in which someone could end up with regrets. If you are engaging in this play online make sure you have consent in writing!
Do you have a memory, event, or video, related to this fetish that really stands out in your mind?I had one submissive that would always beg me in writing to blackmail him to do forced-bi tasks. He loved the idea of being forced into a huge sissy for me. I would tell him that if he didn't send me videos of him sucking dicks for me that I would post his humiliating photos and personal information in my Loser Hall of Shame, something he had consented to as part of our negotiations. He sent me so many videos of him sucking cock, I feel that the blackmail fetish allowed him to experience a real fantasy he had but would have never been able to perform otherwise.
Why do you think people are into this fetish? For the same reason people are into any type of bondage, power exchange, they want to feel helplessness, they want to feel controlled by someone who clearly has the upper hand. A lot of mental stimulation goes into BDSM and sometimes it's about having physical control over someone, but mental control can be just as much of a turn on, if not more. The "realness" of the blackmail fetish really can create a sexy pressure for someone where they can truly feel controlled in a long term way that doesn't end when the cuffs get unlocked.
What goes into a great blackmail vid?A great blackmail video just needs to inspire fear in the person watching it. Kind of like a horror movie, if you can really make the sub who is watching it feel the fear and anxiety that would come with being really fucked over by someone who had their information and used it against them, they'll keep coming back for more!
What would you like the general public to know about this fetish?That as with all fetishes blackmail fetish is a consensual power exchange role play engaged in by adults who are gaining mutual satisfaction from the power exchange. There are some people that don't know where to draw the line between fantasy and reality, but those people don't represent a larger consent based community.
Thanks for reading my interview about blackmail fetishism! I have lots of blackmail videos and games for those who find themselves even more curious about this fetish ;)
xoxMistress Harley
January 22, 2019
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December 14, 2018
Techdomme Financial Domination now available World Wide
Techdomme Financial Domination now available World Wide
Track List1 Mistress Harley Says Hello
2 10 Pimpstress Commandments
3 Loser Interlude
4 Techdomme
5 Techdomme Interlude
6 Financial Domination
7 Sissy Interlude
8 Sissy Boi
9 10 Pimpstress Commandments (Insturmental)
UPC 191092638339
ASIN B07KKXQSNF
Techdomme Records is pleased to present Mistress Harley's debut album Techdomme Financial Domination. She's taken cash from the streets and put it into the rap game. Mistress Harley climbed to international notoriety with her success as a Femme Fatal, specifically as a financial dominatrix and an innovator in High Tech Domination, dubbing herself The Techdomme. She made millions controlling men's bank accounts, pimping them out, and making them do anything she wanted. Her new album Techdomme Financial Domination was inspired by her life as a bad bitch dominatrix taking what she wanted from men and giving them nothing in return.
www.TechdommeHipHop.com
Twitter @TechdommeHipHop
Buy it Now Where ever fine music is sold.
Amazon CD (Link - Buy Now)
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Track List1 Mistress Harley Says Hello2 10 Pimpstress Commandments
3 Loser Interlude
4 Techdomme
5 Techdomme Interlude
6 Financial Domination
7 Sissy Interlude
8 Sissy Boi
9 10 Pimpstress Commandments (Insturmental)
UPC 191092638339
ASIN B07KKXQSNF
Techdomme Records is pleased to present Mistress Harley's debut album Techdomme Financial Domination. She's taken cash from the streets and put it into the rap game. Mistress Harley climbed to international notoriety with her success as a Femme Fatal, specifically as a financial dominatrix and an innovator in High Tech Domination, dubbing herself The Techdomme. She made millions controlling men's bank accounts, pimping them out, and making them do anything she wanted. Her new album Techdomme Financial Domination was inspired by her life as a bad bitch dominatrix taking what she wanted from men and giving them nothing in return.
www.TechdommeHipHop.com
Twitter @TechdommeHipHop
Buy it Now Where ever fine music is sold.Amazon CD (Link - Buy Now)
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Shazam (Link - Buy Now)
December 13, 2018
ALBUM Now Available on Spotify
Techdomme Records is proud to announce that "Techdomme - Financial Domination" is now available on Spotify (Link – Buy Now)
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