David Vienna's Blog, page 65
May 20, 2022
Wait… a white male billionaire did something abhorrent? I...
Wait… a white male billionaire did something abhorrent? I’m shocked.
[NOTE: I am not actually shocked.]
May 19, 2022
Fuck those assholes and the Shetland pony they rode in on.
Fuck those assholes and the Shetland pony they rode in on.
May 18, 2022
May 15, 2022
babiebucky:
this is immensely funny to me
this is immensely funny to me
videntefernandez:
guerrillatech:
What they did affects u...
What they did affects us in our private homes
May 14, 2022
*aggressive Paul Banks voice* HOW ARE THINGS ON THE WEST ...
*aggressive Paul Banks voice* HOW ARE THINGS ON THE WEST COAST?
May 13, 2022
My wife just landed on something I think is probably univ...
My wife just landed on something I think is probably universal, especially right now. She said, “The worst thing anyone can ask me is ‘How are you?’”
May 12, 2022
Researchers Pinpoint Reason Infants Die From SIDS | BioSpace
Holy shit.
The cause of SIDS has been discovered.
THE CAUSE OF SIDS HAS BEEN DISCOVERED!The findings were explained in a study from The Children’s Hospital Westmead in Sydney. From the article…
They found the activity of the enzyme butyrylcholinesterase (BChE) was significantly lower in babies who died of SIDS compared to living infants and other non-SIDS infant deaths. BChE plays a major role in the brain’s arousal pathway, explaining why SIDS typically occurs during sleep.
This is amazing fucking news. The next step is obviously finding a way to screen for it, then a way treat it. But, for now, holy shit. Holy shit!
And for anyone who’s suffered the loss of a child to SIDS, the study’s lead researcher, Dr. Carmel Harrington, said, “These families can now live with the knowledge that this was not their fault.”
May 10, 2022
hi, you seem to know about parenting, so i just wanted to ask a question- I want to have a kid, but really do NOT want to have any sort of romantic or sexual relationship with someone. i also want to raise the kiddo on my own (no other parent in the pictur
Hi, anon! OK, just to keep things orderly, let’s go through this item-by-item.
Yes, I do know about parenting because I am a parent. I even wrote a book about it (
Also, keep in mind all of us parents are just making it up as we go. People sometimes compare it to jumping off a building and trying to construct a set of wings as you fall. That fits as long as, in that metaphor, you subtract any materials with which to build said wings. You’re just falling. All of the time.
Now, you certainly can have a little ankle-biter on your own. I don’t know what sex you are, but you likely know the greatest hits of how to make that happen: adoption, in vitro fertilization (aka IVF), using a surrogate, kidnapping (not recommended). But, yes, solo parenting is a thing people do and a great many of them kick ass at it.
As for the “broken” stuff, if you’re not already, you should start seeking therapy to help you address these issues because a baby (or a child of any age, really) will totally magnify and intensify these… well, the baby doesn’t do it, but the stress of raising a baby does. Yeah, it’s that “building wings with no materials” thing I mentioned. Caring for a child is quite simply one of the most stressful experiences anyone can go through, right up there with military boot camp and the year 2020.
Your mental health is valid and important. And there’s no shame or stigma in seeking professional help to deal with anxiety or depression or PTSD. I learned therapy didn’t “fix” me, but it gave me the tools to work on my issues.
Of course, you probably already know the answer to your final question, so I won’t tell you whether or not you should have a kid, but I will tell you that you absolutely can. Yes, parenting is daunting, but it’s also rewarding and magical and life-affirming and exciting and hilarious.
Personally, I can say, despite all of the gross fluids and sleepless nights, I wouldn’t change a thing. Raising my boys made me a better human.
I hope this helps. And please feel free to reach out if you have any other questions or just want to vent, whether to me or any of the many wonderful people in the Tumblr parenting community. We’re good listeners and we usually have snacks.
