Bjarke Raabjerg

“All my years of childhood and marital masturbation were about not getting caught. I’d trained myself to come fast while remaining silent. When I was with a lover, I avoided heavy breathing, barely moved my body, and never broke out in a sweat. In order to have “ladylike orgasms,” I always held back because, basically, I was embarrassed about sex. All my fear and embarrassment gradually disappeared after I made a decision to embrace sexuality”
― Betty Dodson, Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving

“We need to speak out against all the religious bigots who demand that the entire population have monogamous marital sex for procreation only. We also need to confront the anti-porn feminists who are intent on preserving their romantic illusions by demanding that their lovers and all the rest of mankind be monogamous, including no more beating off with Playboy and Penthouse.”
― Betty Dodson, Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving

“Many feminists have a serious blind spot. We’re ready to criticize patriarchy, and men’s misuse of power in a flash, but we ignore our own abuses of power. We see matriarchal control as gentle and kind, but the role of wife and mother can be just as authoritarian as a marine drill sergeant. We seldom acknowledge the power that women have over children and we almost never speak about wives who dominate their husbands. In many homes, the authoritarian mother is a force to be reckoned with. Her rigid standards of sexual morality and her righteous indignation when her rules are broken make her a formidable adversary who is unbending, unyielding, and sometimes even violent.”
― Betty Dodson, Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving

“Since most of us struggle with periods of self-hatred, bad body images, shame and confusion over sex and pleasure, I recommend having a hot love affair with yourself. Sexual healing begins by learning how to turn yourself on, discovering your sexual fantasies, and giving yourself an abundance of selflove and orgasms.”
― Betty Dodson, Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving