Bjarke Raabjerg

“We have been so brainwashed by romantic love that when I talk about the importance of couples continuing to masturbate alone, and learning to share masturbation together, some assume I’m against “regular sex.” Not true. I’m all for any sexual activity that makes both partners happy. What I don’t support is “compulsive intercourse” as the only way to be sexual. Instead of assuming the word sex means a penis inside a vagina, we need to realize that there are an infinite number of ways to express our sexuality.”
― Betty Dodson, Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving

“Sex energy and creative energy are parts of the same life force that draws us to it like the warmth of a summer sun or the light of a full moon. Everyone I’ve ever spoken to intimately has told me how important masturbation is to their creative process. Taking an orgasm break can work in different ways: it can bring my energy level up when it lags, it can relax me when I get too tense, or it can clear away the mental cobwebs so I can solve the creative problem at hand. For the most part, I use orgasm breaks to set me up for another round of creativity with a renewed burst of energy.”
― Betty Dodson, Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving

“All my years of childhood and marital masturbation were about not getting caught. I’d trained myself to come fast while remaining silent. When I was with a lover, I avoided heavy breathing, barely moved my body, and never broke out in a sweat. In order to have “ladylike orgasms,” I always held back because, basically, I was embarrassed about sex. All my fear and embarrassment gradually disappeared after I made a decision to embrace sexuality”
― Betty Dodson, Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving

“Since most of us struggle with periods of self-hatred, bad body images, shame and confusion over sex and pleasure, I recommend having a hot love affair with yourself. Sexual healing begins by learning how to turn yourself on, discovering your sexual fantasies, and giving yourself an abundance of selflove and orgasms.”
― Betty Dodson, Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving