Indistractable Quotes

“The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity.”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“Most people don’t want to acknowledge the uncomfortable truth that distraction is always an unhealthy escape from reality.”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“Even when we think we’re seeking pleasure, we’re actually driven by the desire to free ourselves from the pain of wanting.”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“Fun is looking for the variability in something other people don’t notice. It’s breaking through the boredom and monotony to discover its hidden beauty.”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“An individual’s level of self-compassion had a greater effect on whether they would develop anxiety and depression than all the usual things that tend to screw up people’s lives, like traumatic life events, a family history of mental illness, low social status, or a lack of social support.”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“We can cope with uncomfortable internal triggers by reflecting on, rather than reacting to, our discomfort. We can reimagine the task we’re trying to accomplish by looking for the fun in it and focusing on it more intensely. Finally, and most important, we can change the way we see ourselves to get rid of self-limiting beliefs.”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“He believes that willpower is not a finite resource but instead acts like an emotion. Just as we don’t “run out” of joy or anger, willpower ebbs and flows in response to what’s happening to us and how we feel.”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“Dissatisfaction and discomfort dominate our brain’s default state, but we can use them to motivate us instead of defeat us.”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“If you were to walk around Slack’s company headquarters in San Francisco, you’d notice a peculiar slogan on the hallway walls. White letters on a bright pink background blare, “Work hard and go home.”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“ten-minute rule.” If I find myself wanting to check my phone as a pacification device when I can’t think of anything better to do, I tell myself it’s fine to give in, but not right now. I have to wait just ten minutes.”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“Hedonic adaptation, the tendency to quickly return to a baseline level of satisfaction, no matter what happens to us in life, is Mother Nature’s bait and switch. All sorts of life events we think would make us happier actually don’t, or at least they don’t for long.”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“Anything that stops discomfort is potentially addictive, but that doesn’t make it irresistible. If you know the drivers of your behavior, you can take steps to manage them.”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“Distraction, it turns out, isn’t about the distraction itself; rather, it’s about how we respond to it.”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“Being indistractable means striving to do what you say you will do. Indistractable people are as honest with themselves as they are with others. If you care about your work, your family, and your physical and mental well-being, you must learn how to become indistractable”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“Simply put, the drive to relieve discomfort is the root cause of all our behavior, while everything else is a proximate cause.”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“we must learn a powerful technique called a “precommitment,” which involves removing a future choice in order to overcome our impulsivity.”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“Timeboxing enables us to think of each week as a mini-experiment. The goal is to figure out where your schedule didn’t work out in the prior week so you can make it easier to follow the next time around.”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“LOOK FOR THE DISCOMFORT THAT PRECEDES THE DISTRACTION, FOCUSING IN ON THE INTERNAL TRIGGER”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“At the heart of the therapy is learning to notice and accept one’s cravings and to handle them healthfully. Instead of suppressing urges, ACT prescribes a method for stepping back, noticing, observing, and finally letting the desire disappear naturally.”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“learning certain techniques as part of acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) can disarm the discomfort that so often leads to harmful distractions”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“As is the case with all human behavior, distraction is just another way our brains attempt to deal with pain. If we accept this fact, it makes sense that the only way to handle distraction is by learning to handle discomfort.”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“Only by understanding our pain can we begin to control it and find better ways to deal with negative urges.”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“But what if you can’t find a colleague with a compatible schedule? When Taylor went away to speak at a conference for a week, I needed to re-create the experience of making an effort pact with another person. Thankfully, I found Focusmate. With a vision to help people around the world stay focused, they facilitate effort pacts via a one-to-one video conferencing service. While Taylor was away, I signed up at Focusmate.com and was paired with a Czech medical school student named Martin. Because I knew he would be waiting for me to co-work at our scheduled time, I didn’t want to let him down. While Martin was hard at work memorizing human anatomy, I stayed focused on my writing. To discourage people from skipping their meeting times, participants are encouraged to leave a review of their focus mate.5 Effort pacts make us less likely to abandon the task at hand. Whether we make them with friends and colleagues, or via tools like Forest, SelfControl, Focusmate, or kSafe, effort pacts are a simple yet highly effective way to keep us from getting distracted.”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“I discovered that living the life we want requires not only doing the right things; it also requires we stop doing the wrong things that take us off track. We all know eating cake is worse for our waistlines than having a healthy salad. We agree that aimlessly scrolling our social media feeds is not as enriching as spending time with real friends in real life. We understand that if we want to be more productive at work, we need to stop wasting time and actually do the work. We already know what”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“Empowering children with the autonomy to control their own time is a tremendous gift. Even if they fail from time to time, failure is part of the learning process.”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“Just as the human body requires three macronutrients (protein, carbohydrates, and fat) to run properly, Ryan and Deci proposed the human psyche needs three things to flourish: autonomy, competence, and relatedness. When the body is starved, it elicits hunger pangs; when the psyche is undernourished, it produces anxiety, restlessness, and other symptoms that something is missing.”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“Next, book fifteen minutes on your schedule every week to reflect and refine your calendar by asking two questions: Question 1 (Reflect): “When in my schedule did I do what I said I would do and when did I get distracted?” Answering this question requires you to look back at the past week.”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“Eons of evolution gave you and me a brain in a near-constant state of discontentment. We’re wired this way for a simple reason. As a study published in the Review of General Psychology notes, “If satisfaction and pleasure were permanent, there might be little incentive to continue seeking further benefits or advances.”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“In order to live our values in each of these domains, we must reserve time in our schedules to do so. Only by setting aside specific time in our schedules for traction (the actions that draw us toward what we want in life) can we turn our backs on distraction. Without planning ahead, it’s impossible to tell the difference between traction and distraction.”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life

“We implemented a ten-minute rule and promised that if we really wanted to use a device in the evening, we would wait ten minutes before doing so. The rule allowed us time to “surf the urge” and insert a pause to interrupt the otherwise mindless habit.”
― Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life