Reforming Marriage Quotes

“God picks us up where we are, not where we should have been”
― Douglas Wilson, Reforming Marriage: Gospel Living for Couples

“Once young girls used to play with baby dolls, seeing themselves in the role of the nurturing mother; now they can be seen playing with Barbie dolls, seeing themselves in the place of the doll. And of course, the doll is both pretty and stacked. The pressure is on and stays on.”
― Douglas Wilson, Reforming Marriage: Gospel Living for Couples

“The fulfillment of the cultural mandate involves hard work, and men need to be hard in order to do the work.”
― Douglas Wilson, Reforming Marriage: Gospel Living for Couples

“Husbands must, therefore, concentrate on being strong for the sake of their wives. Ungodly men are strong for selfish reasons, and not for the sake of others. A godly husband uses his strength to give to her; he does not use his strength to take from her.”
― Douglas Wilson, Reforming Marriage

“Relationships are supposed to mature. This maturing means growth and improvement, not the constant buzz of the initial rush.”
― Douglas Wilson, Reforming Marriage: Gospel Living for Couples

“In a world of spiritual eunuchs, it is good to find a man who is more than simply male.”
― Douglas Wilson, Reforming Marriage: Gospel Living for Couples

“Christian men ought not refrain from the sexual pollutions that surround us because they object to lovemaking; they refrain because they object to the wanton vandalism of it. Our culture is doing to sex what people who chew with their mouths open do to food.”
― Douglas Wilson, Reforming Marriage: Gospel Living for Couples

“The Bible teaches us that lovemaking is to be honoured among Christians; to honour something means to esteem it highly. Those Christians who have reacted to public immorality by retreating into blue-nosed prudishness in their own bedrooms are very much part of the problem”
― Douglas Wilson, Reforming Marriage: Gospel Living for Couples

“But a man who has not been the head of his home must confess his abdication as sin - He must treat it the same way he would treat theft, or adultery. It is disobedience.”
― Douglas Wilson, Reforming Marriage: Gospel Living for Couples

“Husbandry is the careful management of resources - It is stewardship. And when someone undertakes to husband a woman, he must understand that it cannot be done unless he acts with authority.”
― Douglas Wilson, Reforming Marriage: Gospel Living for Couples

“A man may not be a vocational theologian, but in his home he must the resident theologian. The apostle Paul, when he is urging women to keep silent in church, tells them that "if they want to learn something, let them ask their own husbands at home" (1 Corinthians 14:35). The tragedy is that many modern women have to wonder why the Bible says they should have to ask their husbands. "He doesn't know." But a husband must be prepared to answer his wife's doctrinal questions, and if he cannot, then he must be prepared to study so that he can remedy the deficiency. This famous passage is not such a restriction for wives as it is a requirement for husbands. If he doesn't know, he must find out.”
― Douglas Wilson, Reforming Marriage: Gospel Living for Couples

“A husband cannot say, "All my behavior notwithstanding, I still honor my wife, even though I never show it." Husbands must honor their wives.”
― Douglas Wilson, Reforming Marriage: Gospel Living for Couples

“There is no such thing as 'invisible' honor or respect.”
― Douglas Wilson, Reforming Marriage: Gospel Living for Couples