Option B Quotes

“Rule number one was “Respect our feelings.” We discussed how the sadness might come over them at awkward times, like during school, and that when it did, they could take a break from whatever they were doing. Their cry breaks were frequent and their teachers kindly arranged for them to go outside with a friend or to the guidance counselor so they could let their feelings out. I gave this advice to my kids but also had to take it myself. Leaning in to the suck meant admitting that I could not control when the sadness would come over me. I needed cry breaks too. I took them on the side of the road in my car…at work…at board meetings. Sometimes I went to the women’s room to sob and sometimes I just cried at my desk. When I stopped fighting those moments, they passed more quickly.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“instead of following the Golden Rule, we need to follow the Platinum Rule: treat others as they want to be treated. Take a cue from the person in distress and respond with understanding—or better yet, action.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“Empowering communities builds collective resilience”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“What unites us is stronger than what divides us,”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“We are caught in an inescapable network of mutuality, tied in a single garment of destiny. Whatever affects one directly affects all indirectly. —MARTIN LUTHER KING JR.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“Studies of “affective forecasting”—our predictions of how we’ll feel in the future—reveal that we tend to overestimate how long negative events will affect us.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“We all encounter hardships. Some we see coming; others take us by surprise. It can be as tragic as the sudden death of a child, as heartbreaking as a relationship that unravels, or as disappointing as a dream that goes unfulfilled. The question is: When these things happen, what do we do next?”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“Nat Ezray, who led Dave’s funeral, told me to “lean in to the suck”—to expect it to be awful. Not exactly what I meant when I said “lean in,” but for me it was good advice. Years earlier, I’d noticed that when I got sad or anxious, often the second derivative of those feelings made them doubly upsetting. When I felt down, I also felt down that I was down. When I felt anxious, I felt anxious that I was anxious. “Part of every misery,” C. S. Lewis wrote, is “misery’s shadow…the fact that you don’t merely suffer but have to keep on thinking about the fact that”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“When it’s safe to talk about mistakes, people are more likely to report errors and less likely to make them.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“But happiness is the frequency of positive experiences, not the intensity”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“I was suffering from so many insecurities that I almost started a People Afraid of Inconveniencing Others support group, until I realized that all the members would be afraid of imposing on one another and no one would show up.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“I take you to be mine in love. I promise to love you deliberately each day, to feel your joy and your sorrow as my own. Together, we will build a home filled with honor and honesty, comfort and compassion, learning and love. I take you to be mine in friendship. I vow to celebrate all that you are, to help you become the person you aspire to be. From this day forward, your dreams are my dreams and I dedicate myself to helping you fulfill the promise of your life. I take you to be mine in faith. I believe that our commitment to each other will last a lifetime, that with you, my soul is complete. Knowing who I am and who I want to be, on this day of our marriage, I give you my heart to be forever united with yours.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“Of middle-aged adults who lost a spouse, 54 percent of men were in a romantic relationship a year later compared with only 7 percent of women.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“It turns out that people who choose to be single are very satisfied with their lives.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“The ability to listen to feedback is a sign of resilience,”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“​Whether children develop a fixed or growth mindset depends in part on the type of praise they receive from parents and teachers.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“We are going to get through this.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“People Afraid of Inconveniencing Others support group,”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“What worked best for me was when people said, “I’m here if you ever want to talk. Like now. Or later. Or in the middle of the night. Whatever would help you.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“Let me not die while I am still alive.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“The loop in your head repeats, “It’s my fault this is awful. My whole life is awful. And it’s always going to be awful.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“We plant the seeds of resilience in the ways we process negative events. After spending decades studying how people deal with setbacks, psychologist Martin Seligman found that three P’s can stunt recovery: (1) personalization—the belief that we are at fault; (2) pervasiveness—the belief that an event will affect all areas of our life; and (3) permanence—the belief that the aftershocks of the event will last forever.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“He said that by six months, more than half of people who lose a spouse are past what psychologists classify as “acute grief.” Adam convinced me that while my grief would have to run its course, my beliefs and actions could shape how quickly I moved through the void and where I ended up.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“How we spend our days," author Annie Dillard writes, is "how we spend our lives." Rather than waiting until we're happy to enjoy the small things, we should go and do the small things that make us happy. After a depressing divorce, a friend of mine made a list of things she enjoyed--listening to musicals, seeing her nieces and nephews, looking at art books, eating flan--and made a vow to do one thing on the list after work each day. As blogger Tim Urban describes it, happiness is the joy you find on hundreds of forgettable Wednesdays.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy

“As psychologist Mark Leary observes, self-compassion “can be an antidote to the cruelty we sometimes inflict on ourselves.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“grief. I started to learn that no matter how sad I felt, another break would eventually come. It helped me regain a sense of control. I”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“We plant the seeds of resilience in the ways we process negative events. After spending decades studying how people deal with setbacks, psychologist Martin Seligman found that three P’s can stunt recovery: (1) personalization—the belief that we are at fault; (2) pervasiveness—the belief that an event will affect all areas of our life; and (3) permanence—the belief that the aftershocks of the event will last forever. The three P’s play like the flip side of the pop song “Everything Is Awesome”—“everything is awful.” The loop in your head repeats, “It’s my fault this is awful. My whole life is awful. And it’s always going to be awful.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“In prosperity our friends know us. In adversity we know our friends.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“by the problem. “Some things in life cannot be fixed.8 They can only be carried,”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy

“dealing with grief was like building physical stamina: the more you exercise, the faster your heart rate recovers after it is elevated.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B