Option B Quotes

“Self-compassion often coexists with remorse. It does not mean shirking responsibility for our past. It’s about making sure that we don’t beat ourselves up so badly that we damage our future. It helps us realize that doing a bad thing does not necessarily make us a bad person. Instead of thinking “if only I weren’t,” we can think “if only I hadn’t.” This is why confession in the Catholic religion begins with “Forgive me, Father, for I have sinned,” not “Forgive me, Father, for I am a sinner.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“happiness is the frequency of positive experiences, not the intensity.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy

“After spending decades studying how people deal with setbacks, psychologist Martin Seligman found that three P's can stunt recovery: (1) personalization - the belief that we are at fault; (2) pervasiveness - the belief that an event will affect all areas of our life; and (3) permanence - the belief that the aftershocks of the event will last forever.”
― Adam Grant, Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy

“Believing it will all work out helps it all work out.” A”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“counting our blessings doesn’t boost our confidence or our effort, but counting our contributions can.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“Avoiding feelings isn’t the same as protecting feelings.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“These aren’t personal questions. They are human questions,”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“Although it can be extremely difficult to grasp, the disappearance of one possible self can free us to imagine a new possible self. After”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“​When it’s safe to talk about mistakes, people are more likely to report errors and less likely to make them.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“Even when we’re in great distress, joy can still be found in moments we seize and moments we create. Cooking. Dancing. Hiking. Praying. Driving. Singing Billy Joel songs off-key. All of these can provide relief from pain. And when these moments add up, we find that they give us more than happiness; they also give us strength.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“A day of joy is fifteen minutes. A day of pain is fifteen years,” he said. “No one pretends this is easy, but the job of life is to make those fifteen minutes into fifteen years and those fifteen years into fifteen minutes.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“The measure of who we are is how we react to something that doesn’t go our way,” he said. “There are always things you can do better. It’s a game of mistakes.” Sports”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“Teams that focus on learning from failure outperform those that don’t, but not everyone works in an organization that takes the long view.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“Adam has published five different studies demonstrating that meaningful work buffers against burnout.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“caring means that when someone is hurting, you cannot imagine being anywhere else. This”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy

“take: “I am more vulnerable than I thought, but much stronger than I ever imagined.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“All over the world, there is cultural pressure to conceal negative emotions. In China and Japan, the ideal emotional state is calm and composed. In the United States, we like excitement (OMG!) and enthusiasm (LOL!). As psychologist David Caruso observes, “American culture demands that the answer to the question ‘How are you?’ is not just ‘Good.’…We need to be ‘Awesome.’ ” Caruso adds, “There’s this relentless drive to mask the expression of our true underlying feelings.” Admitting that you’re having a rough time is “almost inappropriate.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“three P’s can stunt recovery: (1) personalization—the belief that we are at fault; (2) pervasiveness—the belief that an event will affect all areas of our life; and (3) permanence—the belief that the aftershocks of the event will last forever.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“The first noble truth of Buddhism is that all life involves suffering.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“This is the second worst moment of our lives. We lived through the first and we will live through this. It can only get better from here.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“My colleague Maxine Williams, head of diversity at Facebook, told me that she believes many people succumb to the mum effect around race. 'Even after an unarmed black person is killed for reaching over to show a cop his license, white people who have seen the news, who live in these communities, and who sit at the desk next to us at work will often say nothing,' Maxine said. 'For the victim of racism, like the victim of loss, the silence is crippling. The two things we want to know when we're in pain are that we're not crazy to feel the way we do and that we have support. Acting like nothing significant is happening to people who look like us denies us all of that.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy

“The two things we want to know when we’re in pain are that we’re not crazy to feel the way we do and that we have support.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“Grief,” she writes, is “a whisper in the world and a clamor within. More than sex, more than faith, even more than its usher death, grief is unspoken, publicly ignored except for those moments at the funeral that are over too quickly.” - Sandberg sharing Anna Quindlen's take on how society conceals grief”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy

“One way to lessen the sting of criticism is to evaluate how well you handle it. “After every low score you receive,” law professors Doug Stone and Sheila Heen advise, you should “give yourself a ‘second score’ based on how you handle the first score….Even when you get an F for the situation itself, you can still earn an A+ for how you deal with it.” The”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“As Allen Rucker wrote about his paralysis, “I won’t make your skin crawl by saying it’s a ‘blessing in disguise.’ It’s not a blessing and there is no disguise. But there are things to be gained and things to be lost, and on certain days, I’m not sure that the gains are not as great as, or even greater than, the inevitable losses.” Tragedy”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“almost three million Americans are caring for an adult with cancer, which takes an average of thirty-three hours a week.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“I thought resilience was the capacity to endure pain, so I asked Adam how I could figure out how much I had. He explained that our amount of resilience isn’t fixed, so I should be asking instead how I could become resilient. Resilience is the strength and speed of our response to adversity—and we can build it. It isn’t about having a backbone. It’s about strengthening the muscles around our backbone.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“When I was on the other side, my reply became, “I can’t imagine either, but I have no choice.” I”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“In China, women who are single past the age of twenty-seven are stigmatized as sheng nu, or “leftover women.” They face severe pressure from their families to marry, stemming from the widespread belief that regardless of education and professional achievement, a woman is “absolutely nothing until she is married.” One thirty-six-year-old economics professor was rejected by fifteen men because she had an advanced degree; her father then forbade her younger sister from going to graduate school.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“When I wrote Lean In, some people argued that I did not spend enough time writing about the difficulties women face when they don’t have a partner. They were right. I didn’t get it. I didn’t get how hard it is to succeed at work when you are overwhelmed at home. I wrote a chapter titled “Make Your Partner a Real Partner” about the importance of couples splitting child care and housework 50/50. Now I see how insensitive and unhelpful this was to so many single moms who live with 100/0. My understanding and expectation of what a family looks like has shifted closer to reality. Since the early 1970s, the number of single mothers in the United States has nearly doubled. Today almost 30 percent of families with children are headed by a single parent—84 percent of whom are women. I”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B