Option B Quotes

“Now the stress dream was real. I was alone in my bed. Alone when my kids went on playdates. Just one hour in my house without them made me project into the future to when they would go off to college, leaving me behind. Would I be alone for the rest of my life? Marne”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“When I wrote Lean In, some people argued that I did not spend enough time writing about the difficulties women face when they don’t have a partner. They were right. I didn’t get it. I didn’t get how hard it is to succeed at work when you are overwhelmed at home. I wrote a chapter titled “Make Your Partner a Real Partner” about the importance of couples splitting child care and housework 50/50. Now I see how insensitive and unhelpful this was to so many single moms”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“Resilience is the strength and speed of our response to adversity—and we can build it. It isn’t about having a backbone. It’s about strengthening the muscles around our backbone.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy

“Survivor guilt is a thief of joy—yet another secondary loss from death.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“When someone isn’t making good decisions, few have the guts to tell that person, especially if that person is the boss. One”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“Cancer is another forbidden or “whisper” topic. I read about a writer named Emily McDowell who said the worst part of being diagnosed with lymphoma wasn’t feeling sick from chemo or losing her hair. “It was the loneliness and isolation I felt when many of my close friends and family members disappeared because they didn’t know what to say, or said the absolute wrong thing without realizing it.” In response, Emily created “empathy cards.” I love them all but these two are my favorites, making me want to laugh and cry simultaneously.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“Building resilience depends on the opportunities children have and the relationships they form with parents, caregivers, teachers, and friends. We can start by helping children develop four core beliefs: (1) they have some control over their lives; (2) they can learn from failure; (3) they matter as human beings; and (4) they have real strengths to rely on and share.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“Until we acknowledge it, the elephant is always there. By ignoring it, those who are grieving isolate themselves and those who could offer comfort create distance instead. Both sides need to reach out. Speaking with empathy and honesty is a good place to start. You can’t wish the elephant away, but you can say, “I see it. I see you’re suffering. And I care about you.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“I don’t know anyone who has been handed only roses. We all encounter hardships. Some we see coming; others take us by surprise. It can be as tragic as the sudden death of a child, as heartbreaking as a relationship that unravels, or as disappointing as a dream that goes unfulfilled. The question is: When these things happen, what do we do next? I”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“Even when you are in the darkest hours you can stay hopeful. That’s the thing about faith…it helps you know that sooner or later this too shall pass.” Last”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“finding God or a higher power reminds us that we are not the center of the universe. There is much we don’t understand about human existence, and there is order and purpose to it anyway. It helps us feel that our suffering is not random or meaningless.” Yet”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“As people mature, they focus on a smaller set of meaningful relationships, and the quality of friendships becomes a more important factor in happiness than the quantity.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“Empowering communities builds collective resilience.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“Photos are important because happiness is remembered, not just experienced”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“Whether you see joy as a discipline, an act of defiance, a luxury, or a necessity, it is something everyone deserves. Joy allows us to go on living and loving and being there for others.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“personalization—the belief that we are at fault; (2) pervasiveness—the belief that an event will affect all areas of our life; and (3) permanence—the belief that the aftershocks of the event will last forever.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“To fight for change tomorrow we need to build resilience today.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“Believing it will all work out helps it all work out.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“We’re too insecure to admit mistakes to ourselves or too proud to admit them to others. Instead of opening up, we get defensive and shut down.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“One of the things that was destroyed when we crashed into the mountain was our connection to society. But our ties to one another grew stronger every day.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“When people with leprosy were kicked out of their villages, no amount of individual resilience could have helped them. It was not until the community began treating leprosy patients rather than banishing them that people could recover and survive.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“They found that treating individuals was less effective than strengthening the community’s ability to support vulnerable groups. The camps with the greatest resilience were organized like villages, with councils, meeting spaces for teenagers to hang out, soccer fields, entertainment venues, and places for worship. Instead of having outsiders in authority roles, the Rwandans led according to their cultural traditions.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“How we spend our days,” author Annie Dillard writes, is “how we spend our lives.” Rather than waiting until we’re happy to enjoy the small things, we should go and do the small things that make us happy.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“Self-compassion comes from recognizing that our imperfections are part of being human. Those who can tap into it recover from hardship faster. In a study of people whose marriages fell apart, resilience was not related to their self-esteem, optimism, or depression before divorce, or to how long their relationships or separations had lasted. What helped people cope with distress and move on was self-compassion.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“The more times a government or company had failed, the more likely they were to put a rocket into orbit successfully on the next try. Also, their chances of success increased after a rocket exploded compared to a smaller failure. Not only do we learn more from failure than success, we learn”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“Joy is very important to me. And I can’t count on joy to come from my daughter or anyone else. It has to come from me.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“Years earlier, I’d noticed that when I got sad or anxious, often the second derivative of those feelings made them doubly upsetting. When I felt down, I also felt down that I was down. When I felt anxious, I felt anxious that I was anxious. “Part of every misery,” C. S. Lewis wrote, is “misery’s shadow…the fact that you don’t merely suffer but have to keep on thinking about the fact that you suffer.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“The jobs where people find the most meaning are often ones that serve others. ... Adam has published five different studies demonstrating that meaningful work buffers against burnout. In companies, nonprofits, government and the military, he finds that the more people believe their jobs help others, the less emotionally exhausted they feel at work and the less depressed they feel in life. And on days when people think they’ve had a meaningful impact on people at work, they feel more energized at home and more capable of dealing with difficult situations.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy

“When these things happen, what do we do next?”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B

“Being open to criticism means you get even more feedback, which makes you better.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy