It Didn't Start with You Quotes

“One study conducted at the University of Wisconsin–Madison, published in the journal Psychoneuroendocrinology in 2013, revealed that meditators, after only eight hours of meditation, experienced clear genetic and molecular changes, including decreased levels of pro-inflammatory genes, which would enable them to physically recover from stressful situations more quickly.”
― Mark Wolynn, It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

“especializada en ciencias del comportamiento. «Cuando se separan, el recién nacido no solo echa de menos a la madre, sino que sufre una abstinencia física y psicológica (...) que no es muy distinta de la que padece el heroinómano al que se priva de la droga bruscamente»”
― Mark Wolynn, Este dolor no es mío

“It’s common knowledge that infants who’ve been separated from their mothers can experience challenges as a result.”
― Mark Wolynn, It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

“Es innegable: la historia de nuestra familia es nuestra historia. Reside en nosotros, nos guste o no.”
― Mark Wolynn, Este dolor no es mío

“Freud’s contemporary Carl Jung also believed that what remains unconscious does not dissolve but, rather, resurfaces in our lives as fate or fortune. Whatever is not conscious, he said, will be experienced as fate. In other words, we’re likely to keep repeating our unconscious patterns until we bring them into the light of awareness.”
― Mark Wolynn, It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

“Freud’s contemporary Carl Jung also believed that what remains unconscious does not dissolve but, rather, resurfaces in our lives as fate or fortune.”
― Mark Wolynn, It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

“Adam Gopnik writes about the difference between gurus and teachers in his book Through the Children’s Gate: “A guru gives us himself and then his system; a teacher gives us his subject and then ourselves.”
― Mark Wolynn, It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

“Estaba empezando a darme cuenta de que mi capacidad de recibir amor de los demás estaba asociada a mi capacidad de recibir el amor de mi madre.”
― Mark Wolynn, Este dolor no es mío

“Todo lo que nos sucede tiene su valor, con independencia de que reconozcamos o no a primera vista su importancia. Todo lo que entra en nuestras vidas nos conduce hacia alguna parte en última instancia.”
― Mark Wolynn, Este dolor no es mío

“The history you share with your family begins before you are even conceived. In your earliest biological form, as an unfertilized egg, you already share a cellular environment with your mother and grandmother. When your grandmother was 5 months pregnant with your mother, the precursor cell of the egg you developed from was already present in your mother's ovaries. This means that before your mother was even born, your mother, your grandmother, and the earliest traces of you were all in the same body. Three generations sharing the same biological environment.”
― Mark Wolynn, It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

“Tu queja nuclear, el lenguaje nuclear que describe la más honda de tus preocupaciones, de tus luchas o de tus quejas. Tus descriptores nucleares, el lenguaje nuclear que describe a tus padres. Tu frase nuclear, el lenguaje nuclear que describe el peor de tus miedos. Tu trauma nuclear, el hecho o hechos de tu familia que se ocultan detrás de tu lenguaje nuclear.”
― Mark Wolynn, Este dolor no es mío

“Curarse de un trauma se asemeja en muchos sentidos a crear una poesía.”
― Mark Wolynn, Este dolor no es mío

“Ella me abrazaría, y yo, que no deseaba otra cosa que ablandarme en sus brazos, haría exactamente lo contrario. Me haría de acero.”
― Mark Wolynn, Este dolor no es mío

“«Llenarnos las mentes de imágenes positivas de bienestar puede producirnos un entorno epigenético que refuerza el proceso de curación»”
― Mark Wolynn, Este dolor no es mío

“that no experience is ever wasted.”
― Mark Wolynn, It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

“Los padres, para bien o para mal, tienden a transmitir el tipo de atención paterna que recibieron.”
― Mark Wolynn, Este dolor no es mío

“TEPT paterno hace aumentar la probabilidad de que el hijo se sienta «disociado de sus recuerdos»,”
― Mark Wolynn, Este dolor no es mío

“todo lo que no se dice, se transmite»,”
― Mark Wolynn, Este dolor no es mío

“A lo largo de mi trabajo, he descubierto que ayudar a las personas a desenterrar la imagen que más les resuena es la piedra angular de la curación.”
― Mark Wolynn, Este dolor no es mío

“Given that a generation in humans is approximately twenty years, the results from human studies spanning multiple generations are still pending. However, with the research demonstrating that stress can be transmitted through at least three generations of mice, the researchers surmise that children born to human parents who experienced a traumatic or stressful event would also likely pass the pattern down not only to their children, but to their grandchildren as well. Uncannily, the Bible, in Numbers 14:18, appears to corroborate the claims of modern science—or vice versa—that the sins, iniquities, or consequences (depending on which translation you read) of the parents can affect the children up to the third and fourth generations. Specifically, the New Living Translation states: “The LORD is slow to anger and filled with unfailing love, forgiving every kind of sin and rebellion. But he does not excuse the guilty. He lays the sins of the parents upon their children; the entire family is affected—even children in the third and fourth generations.”
― Mark Wolynn, It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

“Traumas do not sleep, even with death. But rather, continue to look for the fertile ground of resolution in the children of the following generation.”
― Mark Wolynn, It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

“Estaba siendo capaz por primera vez, que yo recordara, de permitirme recibir el amor y el cariño de mis padres; no del modo que yo había esperado en otros tiempos, sino del modo en que ellos eran capaces de dármelo. Algo se había abierto dentro de mí. No me importaba cómo podían o no podían quererme, Lo que importaba era cómo podía recibir yo lo que ellos podían darme. Eran los mismos padres de siempre. La diferencia estaba en mí.”
― Mark Wolynn, It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

“La segunda hija puede portar la ira no expresada de su madre. De este modo, aunque le está afectando el mismo trauma, ella porta un aspecto distinto del mismo. Puede que rechace a su padre, mientras que la primera hija no lo rechaza.”
― Mark Wolynn, Este dolor no es mío

“Hasta los hijos de un mismo padre y madre, que viven en un mismo hogar familiar y que han tenido una formación similar, tienden a heredar traumas distintos y a vivir destinos diferentes. Por ejemplo, el primer hijo tiende a portar consigo lo que no está resuelto en el padre, y la primera hija tiende a portar lo que no está resuelto en la madre; aunque no siempre sucede así. También puede darse el caso inverso. Los hijos posteriores de la familia tienden a portar diversos aspectos de los traumas de sus padres, o elementos de los traumas de los abuelos.”
― Mark Wolynn, Este dolor no es mío

“Saben que nuestros padres tienen importancia, con independencia de si saben ser buenos padres o no. Es innegable: la historia de nuestra familia es nuestra historia. Reside en nosotros, nos guste o no.”
― Mark Wolynn, Este dolor no es mío

“Imagination is the beginning of creation,” wrote the playwright George Bernard Shaw in 1921.”
― Mark Wolynn, It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

“Doidge tells us that we can change our brains simply by imagining.”
― Mark Wolynn, It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

“Justice”
― Mark Wolynn, It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

“The very cave you are afraid to enter turns out to be the source of what you are looking for.”
― Mark Wolynn, It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

“When family members lead unhappy lives or suffer an extremely difficult fate, it's often easier to reject them than to feel the pain of loving them.”
― Mark Wolynn, It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle