Find Her Quotes

“Survivors make it because they learn to adapt. Adaptation is coping. Coping is strength.”
― Lisa Gardner, Find Her

“Because it’s one thing to survive. It is much, much harder to truly live.”
― Lisa Gardner, Find Her

“There’s no rewind, or erasing, or unmaking. The things that happened, they are you, you are them. You can escape, but you can’t get away. Just the way it is.”
― Lisa Gardner, Find Her

“You know about trauma bonding, right?” the agent asked abruptly. “Forget kidnapping victims, you see it all the time with battered women. They’re isolated, at the mercy of their dominating spouse, going through intense spells of abject terror followed by even more emotionally draining periods of soul-wrenching apologies. The trauma itself creates a powerful bonding element. The things these two have gone through together, how could anyone else ever understand? It becomes one more thing that makes a woman stay, even after her husband has beat the crap out of her again.”
― Lisa Gardner, Find Her

“Funny how you can fear change, even when already surrounded by the worst of the worst.”
― Lisa Gardner, Find Her

“You're strong and that helped you, but this doesn't have to define you. You are a young woman with your whole life ahead of you. Don't confuse what you had to do to survive with who you are.”
― Lisa Gardner, Find Her

“I could stay in every night for the rest of my life and my mother still wouldn't be happy. In fact, maybe she'd be better off if I finally did go out and meet a grand demise. Get the waiting game over with. Because, as my mother will tell you, there are worse things than having your daughter abducted. There's getting her back and realizing you've lost her after all.”
― Lisa Gardner, Find Her

“Shallow graves took on a life of their own. And eventually, all bodies did what they were meant to do. Decay. Ashes to ashes, dust to dust. Disappearing back into the earth, until months later, a uniquely shaped depression was formed. The kind of hollow that any experienced homicide detective could look at and say, hey, betcha a body is buried there. The”
― Lisa Gardner, Find Her

“What’s the last thing you remember?” I ask instead. “Dancing.” “You were at a bar, a nightclub? In Boston?” It takes her a bit, but finally, “Y-y-yes.” “Did you drink too much?” A small hiccup I take to be yes. Kids, I think. We’re all so young and fearless once. Nightclubs are nothing but a source of adventure. And a fourth, fifth, sixth rum runner the best idea in the world. I hated myself for my own stupidity, waking up in a coffin-size box. Minute after minute, day after day, so much time to do nothing but repent. And”
― Lisa Gardner, Find Her

“Humans are interesting, however. Our ability to adapt is truly impressive. Our rage against our own suffering. Our relentless need to find a way out, to do something, anything, to advance our lot in life.”
― Lisa Gardner, Find Her

“Survival isn’t a destination. It’s a journey. And most of the people I help, they’re still getting there.”
― Lisa Gardner, Find Her

“I don’t know who I am,” I say. “No one does. Everyone spends their lives figuring that out, even people who’ve never been kidnapped.”
― Lisa Gardner, Find Her

“My mother would watch him and sigh. He's a young soul, she would say, with a tender heart. She worried for him. But never for me. I was the happy one. At least, that's how the story goes.”
― Lisa Gardner, Find Her

“Pain is a symphony. A song of varying intensities and many, many notes. I learned to play them. No longer a helpless victim in a sea of suffering but a mad orchestral genius directing the music of my own life.”
― Lisa Gardner, Find Her

“IN A DETECTIVE’S WORLD there was one true blight on society, and it wasn’t the master criminal; after all, superpredators were few and far between. It was the media. Sunday”
― Lisa Gardner, Find Her

“excavated from”
― Lisa Gardner, Find Her

“Jacob Ness”
― Lisa Gardner, Find Her

“That brought D.D. up short.”
― Lisa Gardner, Find Her