On the Edge of Gone Quotes

“Whether someone is useful only matters if you value people by their use.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“I look at the sky and the dust that separates us from the stars that will be my home. I breathe in the night air, the rotten night air, and I miss,
I miss,
I miss.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“I'm not making sense, and I'm so tired of having to make sense. I've even more tired of talking about how OK or not OK I am. I'm not. I've failed. That's it. People should stop going on about it.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“I’m not signing up for any end of the world that my sister can’t be part of.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“I'm getting so sick of talking. It's like holding the wrong kind of magnets together: I can try and try, but it takes brute force, and the second I relax, the magnets simply slide past each other.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“I know you're worried. I'm sorry. I'm just...very..." I can't think of the right word. How do I explain that mind is too slow and too jumbled all at once. That I'm out of gas? That I've failed, and the only way to keep from falling apart is to accept that? Or that maybe I've already fallen apart, and I don't know if I can sweep the pieces back together?
I settle on three words. "I am tired.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“Does it hurt you or something? Can I ask you that?"
"Eye contact? No. Maybe it hurts for some people, but not for me. It's..." I've tried for years to put it into words. All the things I want to compare it to—music that's too loud, flavor that's too strong, images that flash too quickly—are different for other people, too, so it never feels quite right {...} "I can do it for, like, half a second. Anything longer is just too much. Too intense. It scrambles my brain."
It's intimate, I think, but don't say aloud.
"Right," he says slowly.
"Like a shock," I say, trying again. "Like a jolt that goes through me the second I make eye contact, or someone touches me when I don't expect it... like those things are suddenly so present, so loud and intrusive. It's so overwhelming I can't think right.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“Of course, when Iris was gone, Mom barely seemed to care until the final hours before evacuation.
Maybe it'll be the same for me: Denise will be fine. Oh, she'll be back.
It makes me want to laugh when I realize how wrong I am. Of course it won't be the same. I'm not Iris. It'll be: Denise? Denise is gone? Oh, god, no. How long for? She can't be out there by herself. She might've gotten lost. She's—then, confidentially, with that look of hers—she's autistic. What if she...”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“I like cats. I always planned that, once I got my own apartment, I'd visit the animal shelter first thing. Not for a cute kitten, but for a cat people don't adopt as often, you know? Like a black one or—"
"Actually, it's the disabled ones that are hard to place," I correct her [...] "People don't see them as worth the trouble when there are healthy cats to take. It's especially difficult for cats with both physical and behavioral issues.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“This is the second time my future vanishes: it’s January 29, 2035, and I give up.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“Every engineer, doctor, and farmer on this ship has relatives on the waiting list, too, and those relatives won’t be drug addicts.
Mom’s right: no one would pick her from a waiting list.
No one would’ve picked me, either.
Usefulness or death can’t be her only options. If being picked from the waiting list isn’t feasible, then the one choice left is to smuggle her in. The back of my mind keeps whispering about the risk, about She’d only be a drain, but I shut it up. There’s a difference between leaving Mom and leaving Mom to die.
“I’m glad you agree,” Iris says. “I know it’s not easy.”
That’s what I hate. She’s right. It’s not. I still don’t want to break the rules, even if it’s to help Mom. But people on TV never abandon their family; they risk their own lives. That’s what you’re supposed to do.
On TV, people just never feel this twisted about it.
“Four this afternoon,” I say. “Let’s talk.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“Ten minutes after loading up her plate, when Iris is sipping pale apple juice, she asks Els across the table, “I’m told I should make myself useful. What are my options?”
Els spears a strawberry. “What can you do?”
“I organize.”
“Like your sister.”
“I organize people, events,” Iris says. “Denise organizes information.”
I absorb that. I never thought of myself as organizing anything. I think of myself as listening, coping, avoiding. The words feel good, rolled over in my mind: Denise organizes information.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“For a moment, I'm tempted. Work was fine first, wasn't it? I enjoyed it, and she's right, the stress will never again be as bad as it's been—
But school was like that, too. Starting each year thinking it'd be different, and within a month I'd be skipping class and fighting tears in the girls' bathroom.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“Maybe closeness lets you see something for what it really is, and see the damage it does.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“I don't think you're even hearing me."
Her laugh turns into a sob.
I'm listening. I just don't know what to say, or how. Words crawl in the back of my mind but won't take enough shape to reach my tongue.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“I want to grab her and say, See? You see? This is it, this is what I have to see every damn day, this is what nobody else sees, and at the same time, I just want to turn and run. I've learned how to act like Denise in front of people. I've never learned how to act like my mother's daughter.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“People seem OK?"
"People are getting by," Helen corrects, "because we all know what happens if we panic.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“But you were unhappy. The different between you then and you now... I wish you'd told someone."
Unhappy doesn't cover it. I dreaded school so much, I couldn't sleep at night and couldn't get up in the morning; I'd park my bike near the bike garage exit just so I could be the first to leave after classes.
"It got harder after a while," is all I say.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“Again, I hold my tongue. People tell me this a lot. Mom is so sweet, and so caring. Mom is so eager to help. Mom is such fun at parties.
Aside from Iris, Matthijs is the first one to call her a mess, though.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“You'd have to ask Leyla if you want to know more. She's a psychologist. One of a dozen on board. We don't just want our passengers to survive—we want them to be OK. We're dealing with a lot of trauma. So if you ever need to talk..."
"I'll pass."
"Bad experiences?"
"Sort of."
"What happened?"
I shrug. "It took a long time to diagnose me."
"From what I understand, autistic girls often don't run into trouble until a later age."
I bark out a laugh. Oh, I ran into trouble, all right. I barely said a word between the ages of four and six. I hit three of my preschool and grade school teachers. In a class photo taken when I was seven, my face is covered in scratches from when I latched onto a particularly bad stim. Therapists and teachers labelled me as bipolar, as psychotic, as having oppositional defiant disorder, as intellectually disabled, and as just straight-up difficult, the same way Els did. One said all I needed was structure and a gluten-free diet.
When I was nine, a therapist suggested I might be autistic, at which point I had already started to learn what set me off and how to mimic people; within two years, I was coping well enough to almost-but-not-quite blend in with my classmates. It's funny when people like Els have no idea anything is off about me, given that my parents spend half my childhood worrying I'd end up institutionalized.
At the time, I thought the diagnosis was delayed because I was bad at being autistic, just like I was bad at everything else; it took me years to realize that since I wasn't only Black, but a Black girl, it's like the DSM shrank to a handful of options, and many psychologists were loath to even consider them.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“It's hard for my autism to be a secret, given the way my mom tells people left and right. It's not that I need it to be one; I just want to tell people myself.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“It's odd, the way I find myself defending Mom to outsiders even though I long ago gave up on her in my head.
It's guilt, I think. It's guilt because I've given up on her, and I can't possibly explain to them why I had to.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“It's odd, the way I find myself defending Mom to outsiders even though I long ago gave up on her in my head.
It's guilt, I think. It's guilt because I've given up on her, and I can't possible explain why I had to.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“I should ask how they are. If I can rattle off rehearsed condolences, I should be able to offer support, right? I should. Yet, my tongue is as empty as when I faced a red-eyed Mirjam in the bathroom or an Iris stressed out from her festivals. Sometimes I wanted to ask if I could hug her, the same way Iris always did with me—"Can I?"—but self-consciousness would stop me at the last second.
It's just not my role. I'd be playing normal like a child playing dress-up.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“The last time Els and I spoke, she'd reprimanded me over shouting at Michelle. Now she's all kindness. What changed her mind? My being autistic, or my almost dying?”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“I've always liked buffets. They let me choose exactly what I want and how much.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“I jerk my shoulder back. "Stop trying to touch me."
"I only want—"
"I'm autistic. Stop it." The words fly out. Immediately, I wish I could take them back. I don't want to be like Mom, pushing my limits into everyone's faces and demanding sympathy. I don't want them to be like Mom, either, telling me it's OK or how sorry they are for me.
"Oh." Els takes a backward step into her office. "Damn. Of course you are. I should've seen that."
I stare at the ground. "I'm sorry," I try one more time.
"I never thought about it. I just thought you were..."
Mulish. Antisocial. Disrespectful. Difficult is what she's thinking, just like a dozen teachers and psychologists before her. Just another maladjusted Black girl from the Bijlmer.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“People always get like this, sooner or later. They start pushing and pushing, and I don't get what they're pushing me toward, or they promise me something, then do the opposite, and I no longer know what to do. Either way, someone gets hurt. Most of the time, it's me.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“Mom smiles at this. A normal smile, like any other mother might smile at any other daughter. For a fleeting moment, I think this might be it—this is where she feels a rush of affection while looking at me and decides she's flaked out for long enough [...] She'll think ahead. She'll be a mother again. And all it took was the end of the world.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone

“Denise is autistic." Mom lingers on the last word. As though she revels in this. The explaining, the confiding.”
― Corinne Duyvis, On the Edge of Gone