100 Dating Tips for Jamaican Women Quotes

“Him: Sound like you monkey branch a lot
Me: Nah.
Me: I am not a regular monkey…. Me is homo erectus ”
― Crystal Evans, 100 Dating Tips for Jamaican Women

“With regards to social media…
At some point this becomes a conversation i am having with myself, isolated yet frustrated but accepting that i will never be able to connect with most people on anything but on a superficial level.
Thats my only closure.”
― Crystal Evans, 100 Dating Tips for Jamaican Women

“Sometimes you don’t get that aesthetic or gratifying person you think you need. Sometimes too, you find out that your ideal doesn’t do what you think it will do for you.
We all experience that.
Men and women.
What you find in the non-type is peace you could never imagine, support, companionship, teamwork, partnership.
This might be the reason why arrange marriages work.
- Rubicon”
― Crystal Evans, 100 Dating Tips for Jamaican Women

“A man trying to convince me to accept terms I am not interested in:
Me: Sir I am trilingual, I speak English, Spanish and I understand sign language.
This is a sign that it ain’t gonna work.”
― Crystal Evans, 100 Dating Tips for Jamaican Women

“While I wait to heal, I often find solace in solitude. I don't fully understand why, but I know I must be alone. I withdraw from the world, and in that quiet space, I focus solely on my recovery. This solitude forces me to confront my raw emotions, with no distractions to dull their intensity. It is within these moments of despair that my most brilliant ideas emerge.

I allow myself to feel deeply, to the point where I can no longer feel. To overcome heartache, it's essential to exhaust every emotion—cry until the tears run dry, feel until you're tired of feeling, talk about the person until even your own voice bores you. When you are drained, empty, and devoid of emotion, you are almost across the bridge to healing. It is only then that true detachment begins.

Each time my heart has been broken, I've learned how to heal myself. Heartbreak no longer holds power over me. I've realized that the only way to get over it is to go through it. The longer I deny my feelings to protect myself, the more pain I endure. But if I accept the situation and fully experience my emotions, the pain fades more quickly. At most, they may occupy my thoughts for a few days; if I loved them deeply, maybe two or three weeks.

I simply withdraw from society and return when I am better, when I am healed. During my healing process, I commit to self-improvement. I channel my energy into refining the parts of myself that led to unnecessary pain. I acknowledge my mistakes, see where I went wrong, and take responsibility for my role in my suffering. And as long as he makes no effort, I am gone. The quickest way for any man to lose me is to stop trying and to make his intentions clear.

While he may think I am suffering, I am actually healing. I am recalibrating, renewing, and rehabilitating. I am resurrecting, realigning, adjusting, refocusing, and resetting. I am fine-tuning.

In the midst of this, I give him nothing—no attention, no thoughts, no feelings. Exes thrive on your negative emotions, so silence must be so profound that it echoes. No attention, no access. They may resort to stalking through fake profiles, but let them exert the effort. Block all other avenues of communication.

I am reshaping, reorienting, tweaking, reassessing, reconfiguring, restructuring.

In my absence, I am transforming.

Ducked.

I am for all ill purposes and intentions, my most productive and fruitful self when I am hurt or alone.
This leads my naysayers, detractors and enemies to learn that for the most part, excluding death, I am by most standards, indestructible.

I will build empires with the stones one throws at me.
I will create fertilizers with the trash and feaces hurled at me.
I will rise like pheonix from the ashes.

I am antifragile, I can withstand trials, tribulations, chaos and uncertainty and grow in the face of adversity.
I am the epitome of the resilience paradox, trial bloom, adversity alchemy, refiners fire and the pheonix effect.

I am fortitude - me.

Ducked.

What’s even more magical, is what comes out on the other side of this process.
It’s a peace, you do not want anyone to destroy.
A clarity, you won’t risk blurring.
A renewed you, a different version of you, stronger, fierce, centered and certain.
A rebirth, refinement.
You never saw it coming.
Neither will they.

Copyright ©️ 2024
Crystal Evans”
― Crystal Evans, 100 Dating Tips for Jamaican Women

“If a guy is more committed to a process end game that signals “not you” than he is to winning your affection then he doesn’t want you.
Simpler terms. If when you fall out he can go weeks or months without speaking to you.
Yet when you were on good terms he could not commit to seeing you and speaking to you every day. He didn’t like you.
If he is more committed to the process of cutting you off than he was trying to gain your affection.
He doesn’t like you.”
― Crystal Evans, 100 Dating Tips for Jamaican Women

“Be wary of people who are always powerless in their circumstances.
People who can’t do this.
People who are too tired, too busy, too committed to do this and that.
Yet are convinced that you are flexible, convenient or available enough to accommodate them.

You aren’t helping yourself.
You are helping them to build up a dependency on your efforts and not theirs thus fostering usery.

They invest nothing in you.
And as such have no qualms about leaving because they have nothing to lose to begin with.

Such people are cowards and snakes.”
― Crystal Evans, 100 Dating Tips for Jamaican Women

“I take a very long time to let go of a man.
Why?
Because I am one of those types that lead by my ego and not my heart.
I don’t think women lead by their hearts.
I think they make decisions whether to stay or leave based on ego.

Women have bigger egos than men.
Women don’t leave men because of heart break. They leave men when their egos are bruised. When he does something that shatters her pride and make her feel exposed… like she feel like it’s apparent and everybody know he doesn’t rate or love her.

It’s the same reason why a man will cheat and a woman stays with him once he makes it clear that her position has not been altered or usurped. Same goes for having an outside kid.

He kept her ego in tact.
She will ride on that ego until she is so ashamed of his behavior.
Until she finds his actions so reducing and minimizing.

Then her pride won’t allow her to stay… with him anymore.”
― Crystal Evans, 100 Dating Tips for Jamaican Women

“The way a relationship dies between a man and I has always been insidious of sorts. It’s like sometime last year or a few years before. The love develops gangrene. The man either doesn’t love me or care enough to apply antidote to prevent further decay. So it decays. Before he knows it. The love is dead and I’ve already buried us. The thing with gangrene is if I seek treatment, I can only stop it from spreading by cutting the gangrenous part off. Like the love I once felt for him. I am now confused. But you get the drift.”
― Crystal Evans, 100 Dating Tips for Jamaican Women