The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide Quotes

“emotions of shame, sadness, and guilt are often much stronger and harder to cope with. Some people with BPD seem to spend more time being angry with themselves than with anyone else.”
― Alexander L. Chapman, The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD

“People with BPD struggle with their emotions and are often overwhelmed by them. In fact, some researchers have said that emotion dysregulation is the most important problem for people with BPD”
― Alexander L. Chapman, The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD

“having BPD does not mean that you have a flawed personality, or that you will always struggle with the problems you are having right now. It simply means that you have a pattern of thinking, feeling, and behaving that may be hindering your ability to have a high quality of life, keep your relationships going strong, or reach your goals.”
― Alexander L. Chapman, The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD

“one important thing to keep in mind about BPD is that it comes with a lot of extra baggage. That is, many people with BPD have other problems and may meet criteria for other diagnoses. For instance, many people with BPD suffer from depression, anxiety disorders, eating disorders, and/or drug and alcohol problems. People with BPD are also at risk for suicide attempts, self-harm, and other self-destructive behaviors.”
― Alexander L. Chapman, The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD

“they tend to struggle in their relationships in two primary ways: unstable relationships, and fear of abandonment.”
― Alexander L. Chapman, The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD

“Interpersonal dysregulation means having trouble with relationships with other people.”
― Alexander L. Chapman, The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD

“Just a small critical or disapproving look might be enough to throw you into an emotional tailspin.”
― Alexander L. Chapman, The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD

“Criteria for Borderline Personality Disorder Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment A pattern of intense and unstable interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self Impulsivity in at least two areas that is potentially self-damaging Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood Chronic feelings of emptiness Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms”
― Alexander L. Chapman, The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD

“BPD is a disorder that involves being unstable and not controlled in many different areas of life.”
― Alexander L. Chapman, The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD

“A personality disorder is simply a long-lasting pattern of relating to the world that doesn’t work very well. In addition, these problems cause great distress and may create difficulties in relationships or lead to problems reaching goals in life”
― Alexander L. Chapman, The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD

“People with BPD can be dramatic and charismatic, and they are often quite caring and understanding. Nevertheless, caring for someone with BPD is like trying to hold onto the sun: the emotional intensity of a person with BPD can singe and char relationships. Further, people with BPD often become swallowed by grief or sadness, leaving the caregiver or family member in the dark about what to do.”
― Alexander L. Chapman, The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD

“Trying to help someone with BPD overcome emotional turmoil is like being dropped into a fighter jet going full speed and not knowing how or where to land it.”
― Alexander L. Chapman, The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD

“Getting feedback that mirrors how you think or feel about yourself can be comforting; it might make you feel as if things make sense. In contrast, hearing something that does not fit your experience can be jarring and upsetting. Even people who have negative thoughts about themselves would rather hear negative things than positive things about themselves”
― Alexander L. Chapman, The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD

“One way that some people with BPD shut the door on aggression toward others is to stifle any expression of anger. Although the fear and avoidance of any level of anger has its own downside (like making it hard to stand up for yourself or deal with the life problems that lead to anger), it does help debunk the myth that people with BPD are especially violent.”
― Alexander L. Chapman, The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD

“BPD is a disorder of instability and problems with emotions. People with BPD are unstable in their emotions, their thinking, their relationships, their identity, and their behavior. People with BPD have rocky relationships and are often afraid of being abandoned.”
― Alexander L. Chapman, The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD

“People with BPD often react to things that might not affect other people quite so strongly.”
― Alexander L. Chapman, The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD

“Criteria for Borderline Personality Disorder”
― Alexander L. Chapman, The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD

“Dr. Marsha Linehan (1993a), who has developed an effective treatment for BPD (dialectical behavior therapy, discussed in chapter 8), has put the nine symptoms of BPD into five easily understandable categories: (1) emotion dysregulation, (2) interpersonal dysregulation, (3) behavioral dysregulation, (4) identity or self dysregulation, and (5) cognitive dysregulation.”
― Alexander L. Chapman, The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD

“BPD is a disorder of instability and problems with emotions. People with BPD are unstable in their emotions, their thinking, their relationships, their identity, and their behavior. People with BPD have rocky relationships and are often afraid of being abandoned. Emotionally, people with BPD feel like they are on a roller coaster, with their emotions going up and down at the drop of a hat.”
― Alexander L. Chapman, The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD

“BPD also influences the lives of family members, friends, and caregivers. If a chemist were to concoct a potion that would create stress, concern, and heartbreak among loved ones, this potion would probably look a lot like BPD.”
― Alexander L. Chapman, The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD

“People with BPD experience intense emotional pain. They struggle with unrelenting chaos in their relationships with other people; feelings of emptiness, aloneness, and desperation; and a confused sense of who they are and where they are going in life.”
― Alexander L. Chapman, The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD

“Emotionally, people with BPD are like burn victims (Linehan 1993a), extremely sensitive to even the slightest hint of an emotion and yet so afraid of their emotions that they seek to do anything and everything they can to avoid them.”
― Alexander L. Chapman, The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD

“People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) struggle with their emotions, their behaviors, and their sense of identity, as well as their relationships with other people.”
― Alexander L. Chapman, The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD

“Just as we talked about with hopeless thoughts in the last chapter, you can simply let your emotions come and go, and know that you don’t have to act on them in any particular way. In”
― Alexander L. Chapman, The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD

“neuroticism,”
― Alexander L. Chapman, The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD