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The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD

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If you or someone you love is struggling with borderline personality disorder (BPD), you need up-to-date, accurate, and accessible information on the problems you’re facing and where you can turn for help. But where do you look? Much of the professional literature on BPD is too technical and confusing to be of much help. And searching the Internet for accurate information ...more
Paperback, 256 pages
Published December 1st 2007 by New Harbinger Publications (first published January 12th 2007)
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Jan 25, 2021 rated it really liked it
My intial copy was borrowed, and not returned. Must be an ok book then?!

This is a good reference book in many ways. Helpful for the diagnosed and the families. It is an easy to pick up and put down guide, and this is always helpful when the topic is heavy.

Very clear plain English, which is perfect for the content. The chapters are laid out in such a way that explains what will be covered, then finalising with a summary of that chapter. This is not technical and does not aspire to be, which I thi
Mar 20, 2013 rated it liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
Surprisingly good and useful for a self-help book and seemed to be way more compassionate than all the other books on BPD at the library. This one made sure to stress that you're not a manipulate awful person to be avoided at all costs if you have BPD, while a lot of other books seem to kind of (subtly or not so subtly) work through that as a given framework.

But shit got weird went the authors tried to approach suicide and they actually at multiple points, really bizarrely used 'no one really kn
Jan 20, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: bpd-books
This book explained BPD and even explained a bit about Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), the treatment of choice for Borderline Personality Disorder. It's the treatment that helped me recover. I like how, included in each chapter, were examples of what it's like living with BPD. There are even some great exercises to try to help you cope with your emotions. ...more
Ash Gamble
Jul 27, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Compassionate and neutral. They didn’t villianize bpd. Some of this info is probably old but I appreciated getting some information and learning a bit more.
Jul 13, 2012 rated it liked it
Shelves: health, nonfiction
Written by two of the experts at the forefront of research on BPD, this book is written for the average person who has questions about Borderline Personality Disorder.

Contents: What is BPD? BPD: Is what they say really true? What causes BPD? Will I have BPD forever? The course of BPD. Problems that often go along with BPD. Suicidal behavior and deliberate self-harm. How do I find help for BPD? Dialectical behavior therapy. Mentalization-based treatment. Dealing with suicidal thoughts. Coping wi
May Ling
Jan 01, 2020 rated it really liked it
Summary: It's oriented more toward BPD people who cause self-harm or have truly self-destructive behaviors. There are other books that address the full spectrum. Still, there are some helpful tips enough that I would throw it in the mix if you're dealing with a BPD person.

Read this on hoopla and don't quite have my settings correct for page numbers. Here they are:
225 pages left - "The powerful emotions and sensitivity of people with BPD can be exciting and intense. People with BPD can be dramati
Sep 19, 2017 rated it really liked it
I found out about BPD years ago, so there was a lot of familiar information here, but I wish someone had given me this when I was diagnosed. It's written with a very understanding voice, and succinctly covers a lot of important areas at once. Only real criticism is the usual US-centricism, when it comes to getting help. ...more
Jun 05, 2021 rated it it was ok
Shelves: 2021, audiobooks
It was very informational, but I think this book was intended for someone with BPD rather than what I was looking for.

It was very repetitive at times, and it used very weird and unnecessary metaphors at times. Also, the intro went on forever and told me how interesting the book was going to be while the rest of the book proved otherwise.
May 25, 2013 rated it liked it
Shelves: self-help
It was an okay book, good for people who need an overview. I found the parts about DBT and Marsha Linehan especially helpful. :)
Aug 13, 2020 rated it it was amazing
As a person who suffers from borderline personality disorder, I've experienced first-hand the stigma attached to this mental illness. Frankly, all the material I've read previously about the diagnosis helped to paint the picture of why it's so stigmatized. This read, however, is written from a compassionate and hopeful perspective backed by research, and it's the first time I've felt like getting better is possible and that the disorder isn't the end of the world. It's given me the information a ...more
Tara Calaby
Oct 19, 2013 added it
Shelves: psychology
This is the best book providing an overview of BPD that I've read so far. It's mostly aimed toward people who actually have BPD, but I think it would be a really good read for their loved ones as well. Completely empathetic and fact based, and focussed on giving people with BPD hope for their future. Excellent. ...more
Jenny Demonic
Jun 22, 2017 rated it liked it
A very broad and generic overview, but enormously beneficial for those not well-versed in the lingo and new to the world of BPD.
That said, some of the examples became so simple it was like being talked down to. Other examples seemed to fold back in on themselves until they became overdrawn and forgetful.
Putting the weakness aside, this was still a very helpful starting point.
Sep 18, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Of all the books I've read since my BPD diagnosis, by far the most helpful. Much, much better than "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me" for me. ...more
Leonor Costa
Apr 24, 2020 rated it liked it
Centred around those who are struggling with this illness, rather their loved ones. Used respectful language. Found the last chapters less captivating but otherwise an interesting reading.
Real rating 4.5 stars.

This was a very informative book. It made a point to talk about how bpd is an illness, and the person who has it is not at fault just for having it. It also did a great job on explaining why people become suicidal and why the term “cry for attention” is a bad term. Beyond that, it did a good job explaining why bpd could come into being.

I wish I’d had this book several years ago. I think it would have been a good resource to have when I was still unsure of my symptoms. As
Feb 16, 2018 rated it it was ok
i read this book to fulfil the goal read a book written by two authors. i have read better guides as far as explaining what borderline personality is. however this book is the first one that included stratagies for getting better that went beyond traditional therapy or medication. a little heavy on suside prevention, but considering the target audience may be appropriate.
Chris Miller
Mar 26, 2022 rated it it was amazing
This book really helped me understand a loved one recently diagnosed with BPD and how to support him. Very insightful into treatments & medication in a way the lay person can understand. I also liked it because unlike other books I’ve read did not put the blame on the person with BPD but explained reasons why the person may have developed this mental illness.
Eliza Beth
Nov 20, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Very helpful, and the first resource I have come across in my healing journey so far that makes me feel it was written for those suffering with BPD symptoms, rather than how to deal with someone else living with BPD.
Jan 17, 2021 rated it liked it
A concise overview of the medical/diagnostic history of BDP, insight on the factors that contribute in people developing the disorder and in-depth information on DBT en MBT, two forms of treatment. Would've been four stars if the book had been updated recently, which it hadn't. ...more
Jun 23, 2017 rated it really liked it
Incredibly simplified (too much so for clinicians or students) but seemingly would make an excellent guide for newly diagnosed patients.
Annika Seitz
May 13, 2018 rated it really liked it
Helpful for clinicians who treat clients with this disorder, as well! Much less stigmatizing than “I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me.”
Amanda McKellar
Oct 04, 2018 rated it really liked it
A comprehensive look at a highly stigmatized disorder that helps to break the stigma.
Jun 04, 2019 rated it really liked it
I bought this book for my daughter who has BPD but I thought it would be good if I read it first. After reading it I feel comfortable giving it to her and hopeful that she might find it helpful.
Jul 08, 2019 rated it it was ok
I want to give this 2.5 stars, mainly because it did not paint borderline patients as manipulative assholes, but the most helpful self-help book, in my opinion, is Linehan's Skills Training. ...more
Jul 31, 2019 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Worth a look but not quite what I expected.
Mar 16, 2020 rated it liked it
I think this was a good self-help book to help me better understand BPD. My only issue was the chapters on treatment dragged on and didn't really teach me anything I didn't already know. ...more
Jul 05, 2020 rated it liked it
Shelves: self-help
An insightful and informative guide that provides helpful coping strategies.
Jessica Beck
Mar 15, 2021 rated it it was amazing
This is one of the best self help books I have read, full of useful information!!
Jamie Logan
May 25, 2021 rated it liked it
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Sheila Howes
Dec 29, 2021 rated it it was ok
Aimed at the American/Canadian market
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