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3# Acknowledge the ones you love

I’ve come back to say, that he sees ses as a prize to be won, and the idea that your partner might have some legitimate reasons to not want to be intimate is largely glossed over.

“If I can’t go home and relieve my stress then it’s going to be a problem” the issue with this is firstly she seeing sex as a method is large stress relief and not an act shared between people and secondly as for your sole benefit it’s centered on male pleasure and satisfaction and with a thinly veiled threat. Reductive, archaic and selfish

The way he discusses sex is problematic and simplistic

KEY TAKEAWAY 2# a man can’t prioritise you till he feels satisfied or is on the way to being satisfied at work

TAKEAWAY 1# Key takeaway from the chapter: a man interested in you will profess (tell people about you, give you a title and be seen with you publicly) provide (provide financially, take care of your car etc to provide comfort and protect (threaten anyone or anything that threatens harm to you)

“her. Marjorie is a pretty adventurous girl, but she's cut out a lot of that stuff the diving and parasailing and such for that very reason”

“It is your right to expect that a man will pay for your dinner, your movie ticket, your club entry fee, or whatever else he has to pay for in exchange for your time”

Noting the traps:

“the term gold digger is one of the traps we men set to keep you off our money trail; we created that term for you so that we can have all of our money and still get everything we want from you without you asking for or expecting this very basic, instinctual responsibility that men all over the world are obligated to assume and embrace”

Maybe I’m still delirious from the grief of “When Breath Becomes Air” but why is this actually insightful?

- Men won’t prioritise you till they feel like they’re on track/have made it and do it ALONE
- If a man really cares about you he’ll provide for you
- If he plans to have a future with you he will say it through a TITLE

EPILOGUE ?????
BITCH

GUYS IM ON THE PLANE AND IM CRYING
him speaking about his daughter is so genuine and brimming with love. “A joy unknown to me in all my prior years, a joy that does not hunger for more and more but rests, satisfied” 😭😭😭😭😭😭

Reading him call his life all but the past is devastating. I know how this ends, but I’m devastated all the same

Reading he has a new tumour makes me want to throw up. Genuinely.

His musings on religion are some of the best I’ve heard, he’s so flexibly contemplative. I think his multidisciplinary background makes him more open minded and thus more exposed than most people. He’s a deep guy.

Human knowledge is never contained in one person.
It grows from the relationships we create between each other and the world, and still it is never complete.

“But the truth was, it was joyless” damn, was not expecting that

“Lucy and I both felt that life wasn’t about avoiding suffering.” HMMM

“Standing at the crossroads where I should have been able to see and follow the footprints of the countless patients I had treated over the years, I saw instead only a blank, a harsh, vacant, gleaming white desert, as if a sandstorm had erased all trace of familiarity.” STUNNING WRITING

RIP JEFF

“their duty included learning what made that particular patient’s life worth living, and planning to save those things if possible—or to allow the peace of death if not”

“I had met her in a space where she was a person, instead of a problem to be solved “

“I feared I was losing sight of the singular importance of human relationships, not between patients and their families but between doctor and patient”

“I feared I was on the way to becoming Tolstoy’s stereotype of a doctor, preoccupied with empty formalism, focused on the rote treatment of disease—and utterly missing the larger human significance”

“I was not yet with patients in their pivotal moments, I was merely at those pivotal moments”

THOUGHT PRINCESS

Just as in life, in medicine, accountability is crucial

I think I’m starting to see the link, with neurosurgery there’s always a risk or tradeoff, the ability to see or the ability to live a few more months. For each person what makes life worth living is subjective. Neurosurgery like literature explores these subjectivities and nuances.