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لم يكن إلا حنينا إلى سراب

كانت كما يبدو لا تزال تحتفظ ببقية من الإدراك والوعي تمكنها في ضياعها من الدفاع عن سرها الذي لا تبوح به إلا لمن يثبت أنه صاحب الذهب المدفون

لا أرى لماذا لن يصدقني الناس, ما داموا قد صدقوا الكتاب المقدس

كانت تظن أن هذا النوع من الحب يهدم الحب الآخر. لأن من طبع الرجال أن يتنكروا للجوع بمجرد أن تشبع شهيتهم

إن الإنسان لا يموت عندما يريد بل يموت عندما يستطيع

وبين طبقات العفن والرطوبة والرقاع التالفة، نمت زهرة وترعرعت

كانت تبدو ذات رؤيا نافذة تمكنها بوضوح من إدراك حقائق الاشياء الكامنة وراء شكلياتها...كان يقول عنها دائما: كأنها عائدة من حرب دامت عشرين عاما

The borderline's universe lacks pattern and predictability...the BL is in constant fear that a trusted person or situation will change into the total opposite-absolute betrayal. A hero becomes a devil; the perfect job becomes the bane of his existence

railing against racial discrimination was useless without a commitment to work toward changing it

Although the borderline may not be consciously aware of this dilemma, he frequently places a friend or relation in a no-win situation in which the other person is condemned no matter which way he goes.

The Truth part of SET system is the most important and the most difficult for the BL to accept since so much of his world excludes or rejects realistic consequences

The T statement, representing Truth or reality, emphasizes that the BL is ultimately accountable for his life and that others attempts to help cannot preempt this primary responsibility...T statement acknowledge the problem and address the practical objective issue of what can be done to solve it.

With the Empathy segment, one attempts to acknowledge the borderline's chaotic feelings with a "You" statement...it's important not to confuse empathy with sympathy which may elicit rage over perceived condescension...Empathy should be expressed in a neutral way with minimal personal reference to the speaker's own feelings.The emphasis is on the BL painful experience, not the speaker's

The S stage...Support, invokes a personal, "I" statement of concern...the emphasis is on the speaker's own feelings and is essentially a personal pledge to try to be of help

like a chameleon, the borderline transforms herself into any shape that she imagines will please the viewer

Though the mother often seeks to replace the missing father, in many cases it is actually the child who tries to replace the absent father...the child grows up with an idealized view of the mother and fantasies of forever trying to please her..interfering with growth and individuation, planting the seeds of BPD

Without the buffering of another parent, the mother-child link can be too close to allow for healthy separating

Bribes of material gifts or threats to cut off support for school or home maintenance are common weapons used between continuously skirmishing parents; the bribs and threats are usually more harmful to the children than they are to the parents.

In many situations of parental separation, the child becomes the pawn in a destructive battle between his parents

Violence begets Violence said John Lennon

In 2007, about 5.8 million children were involved in an estimated 3.2 million child abuse reports and allegations in the United States

Earlier in the last century, social roles were fewer, well defined, and much more easily combined.

إنه لمن سخرية القدر أن الذين يدافعون عن دين المسيح يهدمون الكنيسة بينما يعيد تشييدها الماسونيون

فقد كانت الحرب حتى ذلك الحين مجرد فكرة غامضة بعيدة عن الناس ولكنها ما لبثت بعد ذلك أن اصبحت واقعا مأساويا ملموسا

وقد أذبل الزمن قراره المتسرع, ذلك القرار الذي اتخذه من غير تبصر أو وعي، ولكنه زاد من إحساسه بالحرمان وخيبة الأمل

الأطفال يرثون جنون والديهم

لقد ألغى العالم المسافات ولن يمضي وقت طويل حتى يستطيع الإنسان أن يرى ما يحدث في اي مكان في العالم دون أن يغادر منزله

للأشياء حياتها الخاصة بها وما القضية سوى إيقاظ أرواحها

Masochism is a prominent characteristic of borderline relationships

Innocent or illicit romantic or sexual relationships can now be initiated with a few keyboard strokes or a text message. The jury is out on whether cyberspace has civilized the world of interpersonal relationships or turned it into more of a dangerous jungle than it ever was