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A modern parent, emotionally detached and alienated yet at the same time pampering and overindulgent becomes a likely candidate to mold future borderline personalities

Time is perceived as isolated points instead of as a logical, continuous string of events influenced by pas achievement, present action, and anticipation of the future

A healthy civilization can accept the uncomfortable ambiguities. Attempts to eradicate or ignore uncertainty tend only to encourage a borderline society

The world is neither intrinsically fair nor exact; it is composed of subtleties that require less simplistic approaches

Creativity and intellectual diligence are scarified to convenience and precision

The political system presents candidates who adopt polar stances. "I'm right the other guy is wrong"

We are a nation virtually founded on the principle of "Help thy neighbor," yet we have become one of the most politically conservative, selfabsorbed, and materialistic societies in the history of mankind.Assertiveness and action are encouraged; reflection and introspection are equated with weakness and incompetency.

Like the world of the borderline, ours in many ways is a world of massive contradictions.

Borderline traits, which may be present to some extent in most poeple, are being elicited-even bred-on a wide scale by the prevailing social conditions

Social media may be resulting ironically in more self-absorption and less physical interaction...all avoid eye contact

For many, American culture has lost contact with the past and remains unconnected to the future.

Durkheim said, personality is the individual socialized

you may be too distracted to drive afterward. Enlist a supportive and reliable friend or relative as your chauffeur for the day

Another low cost risk free alternative to body piercing is to try non piercing jewelry as a precursor or substitute for a piercing.

If you're looking to make a bold statement with your appearance, you might consider a dramatic haircut or alternative hair color...it's a great way to see if you really like attracting attention from strangers with your appearance.

According to the American Association of Blood Banks, blood donors must wait at least twelve months after getting a tattoo or a piercing before donating blood unless it is applied by a state-regulated entity with sterile needles and non reused ink

Avoid having anything pierced or tattooed at potentially unlicensed establishment such as at flea market, carnivals, boardwalk venders, fairs...etc

keep in mind that sometimes people, especially young people, put on a brave face in front of others. They may play down the pain that they felt during the procedure or gloss over some negative reactions.

People mature and their tastes change over time

while there is evidence that body modifications are becoming more common and acceptable in some situations, they are a far cry from fitting into the American standard of business casual.

while some people might see your piercing and think you are fashionable, hip, and adventurous, others will interpret your appearance as a statement against mainstream society...others might think that your body modification is an indication that you engage in risky behaviours

Not all children who are traumatized or abused become borderline adults, of course; nor do all borderline adults have a history of trauma or abuse

Family studies suggest that first degree relatives of borderlines are several times more likely to show signs of a personality disorder, especially BPD than the general public.

The rage often carries over to the therapeutic setting where psychiatrists and other mental health professionals become the target. Most therapists will, whenever possible, try to limit the number of borderline patients they treat.

The rage,is often directed at the borderline's closest relationships- spouse,children,parents.Borderline anger may represent a cry for help, a testing of devotion,or a fear of intimacy-whatever the underlying factors,it pushes away those whom the borderline needs most-who sticks around despite these assaults may be very patient and understanding or sometimes very disturbed himself

the borderline's search for a way to relieve the boredom often results in impulsive ventures into destructive acts and disappointing relationships

The borderline undergoes abrupt mood shifts, lasting for short periods (usually hours). His base mood is not usually calm and controlled, but more often either hyperactive and irrepressible or pessimistic, cynical and depressed.

The selfinflected pain may reflect the borderline's need to feel, to escape an encapsulating numbness. Borderlines form a kind of insulating bubble that not only protects them from emotional hurt but also serves as a barrier from the sensations of reality. The experience of pain, then, becomes an important link to existence..selfinduced pain can also function as a distraction from other forms of suffering.

Though many people get tattoos for decorative reasons, on a social level the increasing fascination with tattoos and piercing over the past two decades may be less a fashion trend than a reflection of borderline tendencies in society

The borderline does not accept her own intelligence, attractiveness, or sensitivity as constant traits, but rather as comparative qualities to be continually re-earned and judged against others'