Status Updates From Practicing Forgiveness: A P...

This was a really good chapter, and all my blurbs are too long for this section. So all my favorite parts will be listed in the comments again.

So when is reconciliation beneficial? To answer this question, consider what it would be like to reconcile with the person who was harmful or hurtful. Beyond feelings for the offender - having care, compassion, and empathy - also consider the extent to which reconciliation would be responsible and healthy. There is a practical aspect to this process, and what may be envisioned may be idealistic and not practical.

I was too tired to finish the whole chapter. It's not my favorite so far, but maybe it'll get better when I'm able to stay awake and read more.

Eventually, an individual who has experienced conflict with another and feels wronged will have to decide on whether reconciliation with the offender is beneficial, whether the offender has sufficiently changed, and whether a renegotiated relationship is possible and healthy. Exploring feelings related to the offender is an important influence in choosing a path toward interpersonal or intrapersonal forgiveness.

"So, we have some control over how we feel but not complete control. We can think about moments that make us feel happy or sad, and that might affect our current mood. But then there are moments that just happen to us, and our feelings are more like automatic reflexes."

Chapter 2 was really good! (I'll post more in the comments)

"Perceiving someone as having value and abandoning the desire for revenge (decisional forgiveness) is quite different from abandoning negative feelings and replacing them with positive feelings toward an offender (emotional forgiveness)."