Jenna Stackhouse Parrish

“must trust that you have all the equipment that you need to help him. The problem is, you aren’t always aware of this. But you can train yourself to be more encouraging.”
― Meg Meeker, Strong Mothers, Strong Sons: Lessons Mothers Need to Raise Extraordinary Men

“Boys of all ages do better with simple rather than complicated instruction, so be clear and concise when helping him name his feelings.”
― Meg Meeker, Strong Mothers, Strong Sons: Lessons Mothers Need to Raise Extraordinary Men

“Be confident in your abilities The most important truth to embrace at the very start is this: You are already wired with everything you need to be a great mom to your son. If I could take an X-ray of you as a mom, I would see a picture of bones and tissue laced with an intricate set of muscles and nerves. At various times, some of those nerves and muscles are dormant, and some are ignited and on fire. You have a complete set of worry neurons that ignite when your son gets in someone’s car. There are others that ignite when you watch him play football or when he brings you his report card. These are your very own, unique wires, reserved only for you and your son. Along with those that fire on a regular basis are thousands of others that are cool and quiet. They are waiting for your brain to send them signals to kick into gear. If someone hurts your son, your protective wiring ignites. If someone praises your son, your set of encouragement wires flare. If your son fails in school, your empathy wires fire up. In every situation in which your son needs your help, you”
― Meg Meeker, Strong Mothers, Strong Sons: Lessons Mothers Need to Raise Extraordinary Men

“until he is about ten or eleven, life for a boy is often all about his mother. And then the tide changes. When he enters preadolescence, he suddenly—dramatically—gets a glimpse of his future as a man. And he may start to wonder how his emotional comfort with his mother fits into his emerging manhood. He begins to question whether it’s manly to be so close to his mother. The answer can be elusive, and sons can find their confusion disturbing. From a son’s perspective, his feelings for his mother can be fairly messy stuff—even if we’ve tried to do everything right. We mothers must understand that every son feels this internal conflict as he enters the teen years. In addition to physically maturing, trying to figure out who he is becoming, and enduring emotional shifts that hormonal changes bring, he struggles with his feelings toward his mother. He wants to stay close, but something inside him is pulling away from her. These changes are all part of the process of becoming a man. Once we understand this, life becomes easier for us because we won’t take their changing behavior so personally.”
― Meg Meeker, Strong Mothers, Strong Sons: Lessons Mothers Need to Raise Extraordinary Men