The single most important practice in Stoic philosophy is differentiating between what we can change and what we can’t. What we have influence over and what we do not.
“But life is very short and anxious for those who forget the past, neglect the present, and fear the future. When they come to the end of it, the poor wretches realize too late that for all this time they have been preoccupied in doing nothing.”
― On the Shortness of Life
― On the Shortness of Life
“In order to build a great team, you need to understand how each person’s job fits into their life goals. You need to get to know each person who reports directly to you, to have real, human relationships—relationships that change as people change. When putting the right people in the right roles on your team, you’ll also have to challenge people even more directly than you did with guidance—and in a way that will impact not just their feelings but also their income, their career growth, and their ability to get what they want out of life. Building a team is hard.”
― Radical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity
― Radical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity
“When bosses are too invested in everyone getting along they also fail to encourage the people on their team to criticize one another other for fear of sowing discord. They create the kind of work environment where being "nice" is prioritized at the expense of critiquing and therefore improving actual performance.”
― Radical Candor: Be a Kickass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity
― Radical Candor: Be a Kickass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity
“Steve would later say that when a team debated, both the ideas and the people came out more beautiful—results well worth all the friction and noise.5 Your job as a boss is to turn on that “rock tumbler.”
― Radical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity
― Radical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity
“So remember this principle when something threatens to cause you pain: the thing itself was no misfortune at all; to endure it and prevail is great good fortune.”
― Meditations
― Meditations
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