I hate that I'm not more empathetic

[smetchie]

Merriam Webster's definition of empathy: the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another of either the past or present without having the feelings, thoughts, and experience fully communicated in an objectively explicit manner

I have such a hard time vicariously experiencing the feelings of another. If I hear someone talk about something that has happened to them and I can relate to it, then I can experience those feelings. But if it's not really something that relates to my life, I have a hard time.

Does empathy come naturally? Can you teach it to someone or to yourself? Is it something we learn from watching others? Can I blame my parents?

[Malbadeen]

you can blame your parents. not because they're guilty but because it's easier that way.

(and yes, supposedly it can be taught).

[smetchie]

Who wants to teach me? Is there a book I can read?

[The Crimson Fucker]

i have the same problem greatchen! unless is somebody i care about it dont give a fuck about other people's life!@!!! somebody i like can tell about that time they almost felt in the shower and i'm mesmerized! but somebody i dont give a fuck about can tell me about the one time they got shot in the dick and how they used their thumb to reconstruct it and i get sleepy!!! but lucky me i'm really good at faking interest!!!!!

[smetchie]

You really are. I'm really not.

[Denell]

oeee Oddrun..check out the snail eating parasite...maybe you should import them

http://io9.com/5696635/a-parasite-tha...

[The Crimson Fucker]

dude! that's the plot for Resident evil 4!!!! zombies!!!!

[The Crimson Fucker]

hahahahah! around that age! Oddrun in real life i'm 28 =) born in 82

[The Crimson Fucker]

the zombie market never been bigger... it got so big actually that i think i need to find me a new obsession... people seem to know what i'm talking about when describing my zombie survival plans... i dont liek that! makes me feel like one of them! i was thinking about joining the conspiracy theory freaks! start talking about how aliens killed kennedy! to stop his space program! people still hate conspiracy theorist right??? cuz i sure as hell do!

[The Crimson Fucker]

that's not a conspiracy theory!!! that's just part 2 of their plan to hurt my people! first they created aids! and now the enslave us with the expensive medicines!!!! it's all in nostradamous lost book!


how was that???? i think i got a talent for this shit!

[smetchie]

I love you guys.

[smetchie]

What are you up to Oddrun? Is it bedtime in Norway? I'm drinking a beer and cooking some dinner.

[smetchie]

I've seen Grolsch but not tasted. I will now! I'm making braised chicken with celery root, carrots, and potatoes. I'm not really in love with chicken but the rest of the family likes it and it's easy. Regarding never ending stories, I'm reading Lonesome Dove so I know how you feel. I think I'll be reading it forever. I love it, so that's OK. I can see why people read it over and over again. It's just wonderful.

[[deleted user]]

Are you making baked spaghetti, tonight, Oddrun?

[[deleted user]]

I'm making homemade refried beans topped with queso fresco in corn tortillas with sour cream and avocado.

[smetchie]

Yum sarah!!!

[[deleted user]]

Yeah!!! My beans are really delicious and everybody always loves them, so let me know if you want the recipe. They're easy because they're not technically refried.

I just did my thanksgiving shopping. I think I got everything. You know what I love? An app on my iphone called Shopping List Free. It's awesome. The paid version lets you add your own categories, but I don't need those extra categories. And I check them off as I put them in the cart and I don't miss a thing and I shop one section at a time without having to retrace.

Sorry for the dorkout.

[[deleted user]]

I forgot! The baked spaghetti needs a can of diced tomatoes, with liquid, added to the veggie mixture. I hope I'm not too late, though I imagine it'd still be good without them.

[smetchie]

My dad was dorking out about the same stupid app the last time he was here.

(Fuck apple)

[smetchie]

Montambeau wrote: "I forgot! The baked spaghetti needs a can of diced tomatoes, with liquid, added to the veggie mixture. I hope I'm not too late, though I imagine it'd still be good without them."

I was wondering.