This is not The Haters Club You're Looking For discussion
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I Hate when Good Reads Feels like High School
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Check out the most active groups--3 or 4 groups populated by the same 30 or so people. Does that mean there are only 30 or so people active on Goodreads, or is that more evidence that GR IS like HS?
I was thinking the same thing Amanda... How many people are on GR and yet there is this little world of 3-4 forums. I see the HS thing. There are times when I was late in the joining of these groups and felt much like a lurker and would watch the interaction and see the same people commenting on the same other people's comments and it felt much like a clique and would get my stomach all in knots.
But, I'm very neurotic, shy and paranoid (pretty much three descriptions of saying the same thing)
I liked to lurk and then felt sort of dirty for it with the Watchers thread in AM. And the whole 'experiment' thing in AM kinda pissed me off. We know those people exist, why beat a dead horse (as King would say)
I don't have many friends and I'm cool with that, I'd rather have a few that I'm close to and then get to know new ones through these type of forums.
I laugh a lot here and that helps the day go by, but do I feel on par with the quips dolled out? Not in the least. and, I would hope that no one is doing the 'clique' thing on purpose.
I've talked about this a lot with Maurice, as I feel like he stands on his own in these threads and he seems pretty affable about it, and that gives me hope that people aren't purposefully being nasty.
Like I said, I think it has a lot to do with my own insecurities whether I post or not. I have tried taking 'breaks' from these groups. Not dropping them because I feel that they do add some insight and humor in my life, but when it my stomach gets too tied up in knots, I take a vacation.
See...I make no sense. but, this is my two bits. And, don't drop out Donald, I like reading your writing and your posts!
Wow, this is so funny because I seem to remember a GoodReads group that actually created a "nerdy guy" user and a "hot girl" user. Hmmm.... I must be remembering that wrong.
That's the name of the gang I'm starting. The Tater Tots. We will be the scourge of the goodreads hallways. Feared and envied, and sometimes mashed.
Kim I totally appreciate your heart-felt post. Damn our insecurities, World! Ok, I wish it was that easy.I joined AM after the "experiment." And now I'm wondering if I should spy on you all and go back and read previous threads. My curiosity is killing me.
Howard--chili cheese tots. OMG. I'm hungry now.
You're welcome Donald. :)and I'll get right on that man loving sentiment with Maurice.
Donald: we are now all wondering (okay, drop the 'we,' I am wondering...) who it is you're referring to? and hoping it cannot be moi?! Pls help me sleep at night by reassuring me that it cannot be...me, and by the way, I LOVE everyone on this thread! You're my favorite clique on Goodreads! By a mile!
"Like I said, I think it has a lot to do with my own insecurities whether I post or not.Same here, Kim. I often feel like an outsider, and am too neurotic to post a lot of the time. Like when you finally get up the nerve to post something and it kills the thread?
That being said, I do love reading other people’s posts. I work at home, and this is some of the only social interaction that I get – even if I am just a “lurker.”
Now I have to get back to work before I get fired.
Help! I'm on the receiving end of a cyber-swirlie in the virtual boys' room---I need my peeps!As my father always told me, "Once a nerd, forever a nerd, son..."
Okay...I'm gonna join you there King D.gotta run in any case...off to NYC today (Kirk: I've got your book to read on the train...woah, wait, take that back, I think that sounded clique-ish, no?!)
what about zeppelin... or maybe some blind guardian... and wtf are we eating???
You're not whining at all, Donald---this post made my morning. There's plenty o'truth to what you're saying....
I'm going to spend the rest of the day sitting in a stall in the girls bathroom, smoking cigarettes and reading Sylvia Plath. If anyone bothers me I'm going to scowl at them contemptuously through my heavily eyelined slitted eyes. Pfft... prom. Who even *wants* to go to prom?
me either King. My friends and I dressed in black and went to the cemetary instead.
Charissa, I thought you looked familiar!
ahhh ha ha ha Michelle. w00t!! anti social people RULE!!!
I never went to a prom. I guess the difference between you and me is that I desperately wanted to. I didn't really fit in anywhere. I was a cheerleader and I was in drama and choir and I read in the library a lot. But I didn't fit with the cheer/jock crowd and the other groups didn't want me because I wore a uniform and danced on the field at halftime.Donald, I talk to you all the time. So either you're a jock or I'm not a pretty girl. I'm guessing by the contemptuous way you referred to jocks, it isn't the former. So now my feelings are a little but hurt and I'm going to go key your car.
i sort of love this thread.actually, i attended both my proms, once while wearing an electric blue wig and a black mandrin dress, and once with my hair teased out to tomorrow (i was a big fan of helena bonham carter's look) and a black flamenco dress and fishnets. i never had a real date until college, but hey, who needs boys when you have crazy fashion sense?
and when not pushing the limits of our dress code, my friends and i also tended to spend a lot of time at the cemetary (but we were in the photography club, so that's a good reason, right? actually, that probably just makes us even geekier)
:)
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We're all afraid of rejection, Donald. I assure you, if I am in any way cliquey, it's because if I talk to the big wheels they might put ketchup on my chair in the cafeteria. I couldn't stand having ketchup on my butt for the rest of the day. I'd have to call my mom to come pick me up before I either died or had to transfer schools...