ryan ⚡︎ asked Gayle Forman:

In Just One Day, Willem asked Allyson "What the difference between being in love and falling in love?" What do you think the answer is in your own words.

Gayle Forman I think what Willem is really talking about is the difference between infatuation and love, only he doesn't know that because he hasn't ever experienced real love. In the moment, love and infatuation can feel pretty similar. At the onset, they both have the exact same symptoms—butterflies, anxiety, inability to sleep, goofy smile, monomania, etc. Only time tells you which is a lasting thing and which is an in-the-moment fling.

The thing with love is that it requires work. I think part of being in love is being willing to do that work. Maybe that is what differentiates falling in love versus being in love. When you are really in love, you're willing to stick it out, even when it's not all rainbows and unicorns. It's not very romantic when you put it like that. And yet, it's about as romantic as it gets.

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