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Over the time they know each other, Sadie sometimes betrays Sam and Sam sometimes betrays Sadie. Is one character worse to the other over the course of the book? Or do you see things as essentially evening out between the two of them?

Phyllis Meredith I think they are both equally at fault for the ups and down's of their relationship. Neither is able to fully communicate their needs to the other, ne…moreI think they are both equally at fault for the ups and down's of their relationship. Neither is able to fully communicate their needs to the other, neither is able to communicate their weaknesses and both of them are rather selfish. To start, they are very young. Sadie doesn't want to tell Sam that she really doesn't have any friends. She likes that he thinks she is better than she actually is. While it looks like Sadie is lying about being his friend in order to do her community service, it is quite the opposite, she is lying about doing community service, but truly is his friend. They were too young to really express that at the time, but Sadie has plenty of time to explain that to Sam later on. Sam is totally guarded about his trauma and chronic pain and honestly has no idea why he has such ingrained trust and intimacy issues well into college. But he has plenty of time to work that out and communicate that to Sadie. Sadie never even asks Sam if he saw Dov's inscription on the game, she jumps to a conclusion that has lasting issues and when Marx takes responsibility for that, she brushes it off. And really, no one, not even the reader, knew what the real basis for her deep depression was until almost the end of the book. They are both at fault, but they have both grown so much by the end of the book, and really they are still young, only 35 or something, they have plenty of time to work out a healthy and open relationship going forward.(less)

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Valentina S @Phyllis Meredith you mentioned ‘no one knew the real basis of Sadie’s deep depression until the end of the book’ - what was it? Did I miss something ...more
Mar 12, 2023 01:05AM · flag

Judith Sadie has self-esteem issues that are apparent looking back at her early days with Sam, her love life, & her creative resentments. She abandoned Sam m ...more
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