Jubilee asked Lori Gottlieb:

Are you embarrassed of the misogyny in "Marry Him" or has publishing that book allowed you to become immune to embarrassment via a form of immersion therapy? I'm sorry to hear that expecting to be treated as an equal to your male counterparts "fucked up" your love life, as you said in chapter three, but given that numerous women manage to maintain their dignity and find real love, it's odd that you advocate neither.

Lori Gottlieb Hi Jubilee, I'm so sorry that you didn't read the book or get out of it what most readers do, which is a sense of empowerment from maintaining HIGHER standards about what all the experts agree matter for a lasting, happy marriage and placing less emphasis on the things that don't. I certainly don't see any misogyny in searching for chemistry and passion and equality and genuine love and the character qualities (generosity of spirit, shared values, trustworthiness) and placing less emphasis on, say, someone's height or wardrobe or income or the kinds of things the culture signals as making someone an appealing (male) partner. I hope you'll turn to the chapter you're referring to and read the first paragraph in its entirety: "To be fair, it's not feminism... it's not that I would give back the gains of feminism for anything. Believe me, I wouldn't." Hope that helps clarify!

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