Mila asked Lori Gottlieb:

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Lori Gottlieb Hi Mila, you're right that it's important to find a therapist you click with and not every therapist is the right match for every patient. That said, if you keep going to therapists and finding them lacking, I would get curious about what, specifically, isn't working. Are you uncomfortable at times (which you might be, because therapy forces us to look at ourselves in ways we tend not to)? Is your reaction to the therapist judgmental or critical in a way you've been in other relationships? It could just be that the therapists you went to weren't a good match, but if you keep running into the same issue, I'd bring it up with the next therapist you see--"Hey, we've been to several couples therapists and they haven't been a fit for us. Here's our experience." And then you and the new therapist can try to understand it better and build a good relationship together. Having this out on the table from the beginning increases the chances that this next experience will be better.

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