Carole asked Lori Gottlieb:

I really paid attention to the way you phrased your questions. I try and use that technique with friends and students and my own children. One of the most pivotal parts of the book was when you asked “Who’s Gabe?” How did you know that wasn’t just a simple mistake but something so significant?

Lori Gottlieb Hi Carole, This really is a pivotal moment, but I didn't know that when I asked the question. I just sensed, from John's body language, that Gabe was someone important in his life and that it wasn't a casual slip. I figured maybe it was his father's name, or Gabe was a sibling, or maybe a childhood friend. With John, I was always looking for important people in his life, because he so desperately needed real connection. But I had no sense of what was to come when I asked that.

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