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January 4 - January 13, 2023
Detach.
Worry and obsession constitute mental abuse.
Get the information you need about problems and decisions.
Indulge in activities that uplift your thoughts and give you a positive charge.
Get interested in the world around you. Feed your curiosity.
Do what you can, one day at a time. Within the framework of each twenty-four-hour day, do what seems fitting and appropriate.
We allow ourselves to be bullied and buried.
We justify, rationalize, compensate, and take others all around the block. We are nonassertive.
We apologize a lot and hint at what we ...
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Express your feelings openly, honestly, appropriately, and responsibly. Let others do the same. Learn the words: I feel.
We can express our wants and needs. Learn the words: “This is what I need from you. This is what I want from you.”
Learn to say: “This is as far as I go. This is my limit. I will not tolerate this.” And mean those words.
We repeatedly forgive the same people. For the same things. We hear promises, we believe lies, and we try to forgive some more.
It’s difficult to have fun when we hate ourselves.
It’s almost impossible to have fun when we’re bottled up with repressed emotions, worried sick about someone, saturated with guilt and despair, rigidly controlling ourselves or someone else, or worried about what other people are thinking about us.
We don’t set boundaries to control other people. Boundaries are about taking responsibility for ourselves.
We can’t think our way out of panic, trauma, PTSD, and extreme anxiety attacks. We cannot criticize, badger, or bully ourselves out of these states.
“What we resist, persists.”
“We don’t have to like it; we just have to accept it.”
According to Earnie Larsen and others, the two deepest desires most people have are (1) to love and be loved and (2) to believe they are worthwhile and know someone else believes that too.1
Love from your strengths, not from your weaknesses, and ask others to do the same.
