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This is a journey because no healing, whether physical or spiritual, is something that occurs linearly, nor seamlessly.
Life can be deeply challenging and profoundly unfair, and without the ability to move through the feelings that may accompany
our experiences in real time, we often become trapped in the old stories we once wove around them.
giving ourselves some space to process before we could move forward completely.
The sheer impact of you becoming the person you know you were meant to be will have a ripple effect on everyone and everything around you. Nothing
training ground for soul development.
healthy, established, connected and thriving—and
behind it was a wound you did not yet know how to heal.
tell your child self to say what they really needed to say at the moment they needed to say it, though they couldn’t find the words or the courage.
Then you will know that when you lose someone, you must cry.
When you want to say something, you must speak.
how to process your experiences in real-time.
What if being on your own, in any capacity, is a sign of self-sufficiency and courage?
you realize that it is proof you have accomplished the most daring task of all?
the courage it takes to keep opening doors, even if they all close, is all part of the process?
the offering of someone’s time is the ultimate sacrifice and the epitome of love?
set them free of the expectations you hold in your own mind?
the chance to witness the rawness of someone’s heart, their edges and imperfections?
What if the journey is really asking you to love a flawed person, so you might be able to love your own flaws the same way?
nobody exists within that fantasy, and yet so many are still deeply and completely loved, fully alive and happy, walking in their truth and thriving as all they were meant to be?
stop giving your love to those who aren’t ready to love you.
Stop having hard conversations with people who don’t want to change.
Stop prioritizing people who make y...
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sanity.
When you start showing up to your life wholly and completely, with joy and interest and commitment, not everyone is going to be ready to meet you there.
It doesn’t mean you need to change who you are. It means you need to stop loving people wh...
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you’ll know how precious it is because you’ve experienced what it isn’t.
What you give your time to is what will define your existence.
you’ll begin to understand why you’re so anxious when you spend your time with people who are wrong for you,
protect your energy more fiercely than anything else.
It is not your job to show up for people and give away your life to them, little
because you pity them, because you feel bad, because you “should,” because you’re obligated,
because, at the root of it all, you’re afraid to n...
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Junk journal. Open up a notebook and scribble down exactly how you feel.
how sometimes, our fears lead us to believe our worst thoughts are most real.
Think back on all those times you had strong, overwhelming feelings that you didn’t really understand and realize that sometimes, you just had to learn how to let them pass.
Write down what you like and what you don’t. Identify your values, your beliefs, your hopes, your fears.
Note what comes effortlessly to you, within this is a key to your future.
Look in the mirror and practice setting boundaries. Learn to speak your truth with dignity and grace.
State what you are feeling, in clear and honest terms.
This will help you process and accept it, even if it doesn’t make complete sense to you right now.
Give yourself permission to rest. If all you were able to do today was wake up and keep breathing, that’s okay.
When you’re thinking clearly, tell yourself what to do when you’re not.
There’s the person you were yesterday and the person you are today. There’s the person you were five years ago and the person you will be in another ten.
Every single one of them has a unique image of you in their minds, informed
When we feel most stuck, it is often because we are trying to decipher who we really are by piecing together images we assume others have of us.
When we spend all of our lives trying to manage those perceptions, we become completely lost within them.
More people saw your potential than you realize. They liked you more than you believe.
When the people closest to you look at you, they see far more of your greatness than you ever would looking at yourself.
We are not summarized or defined by any one instance or experience. The static, singular image we think others have of us in their minds—it’s usually a projection of our greatest hopes and deepest fears.
