When You're Ready, This Is How You Heal

by Brianna Wiest

the only one that is ever really going to matter is the one you tell yourself.

start of a new beginning, because all it will feel like is an overwhelming end.

Your delusions and dreams about how it would transform into something you want it to be are just that—unreal. It’s

get out of that and into reality, into the now, into your actual life.

You will have to spend many nights by yourself, in candlelight, making yourself dinner, learning to love yourself, to be alone with yourself and enjoy

have to stay where we are and have the courage to heal what’s broken within us before turning to yet another outside source to mend the damage.

No matter where your life takes you, you are always with you—until the very end.

you adjusted the way you see everything until you realize

that it is enough, and it always has been.

most powerful way we can begin is by making a statement to the universe about what we’re going to do.

It’s about realizing that you will adapt to what’s around you, and so you must choose wisely.

What it does not know is that there is no greater failure than a life unlived. There is no greater pain than having your heart go unloved, your soul go unseen.

give your mental attention and emotional energy to things that will not grow into experiences you want to be having.

the most ordinary things are the most defining, the most saving, the most soothing, the most important, the most overlooked, and the most real.

almost anything we lose in life has often been foreshadowed for a very long time.

almost nothing in life leaves us without purpose. It’s only a matter of when we accept this truth.

All of these emotions are extremely valid.

It is healthy and normal to feel sad and scared when life abruptly changes and you’re not sure what’s next.

In this process of simply remembering what had hurt you in the past and how you felt about it,

to address the feelings that were blocking your vision and your flow,

means not giving yourself any other choice.

because the storm often clears the skies and waters the seeds for the life you

had been asking for, dreaming of, and planning to actually live all along.

the product of who and what is around you as opposed to an authentic expression of who you really are.

predisposed

If you don’t believe you deserve to feel good, you’ll limit your capacity for experiencing good things.

When we believe too much in our negativity biases, we end up resisting change, taking fewer chances, and

sinking cost fallacy.

Destiny is a subtle coincidence, it makes you stop and say, well, isn’t it funny how that worked out.

What we are looking for is not a life path that is easy, but one that is worthwhile.

The things that are truly right for you will find you, and they will stay. They will grow you, challenge you, and change you.

move on not when we have adequately picked apart the pieces of what used to be, but when we begin to think more about what we’d like to build in its place.

What they are is just a few steps ahead of you, because they showed up consistently during the time you spent wondering if you should.

You do not need a lot of people to believe in your ability.

All you need is the willingness to create something that is authentic and true and moving to you,

People want to hear stories that sound like their

They want to collect and consume that which makes them feel understood.

We can create to heal ourselves, and extend that healing outward.

emboldening

to feel your life from the inside instead of perceiving it from the outside.

You will need to be ambitious, because if you’re going to go for it, you need to go all the way.

You will have to stop thinking one person’s perspective of you is the sum of who you are.

You will have to hold a torch for yourself first.

Overworking is not aspirational, it’s an escape mechanism.

consistency outpaces talent.

because where most people begin is with their deepest pain, and where they end is in burn out.

Maybe you will be their living proof that more is possible.

become the kind of guide for others that you yourself never had.

within the thing you envy is a truth about what you should be working toward, not what you should be criticizing someone else for having.

them. Instead of acting on the defense, you can connect, knowing that they probably already think you’re worthy (because you are).