When You're Ready, This Is How You Heal

by Brianna Wiest

is often the first sign that we are more mentally strong and emotionally free than ever before.

This is something called reverse engineering: you have to understand what you want the final product to be before you’re going to be able to set all the parts in place to make it happen.

You need to understand what you want the big, overarching points of your life to be.

nothing transforms without breaking first.

When we have nothing to lose, we have everything to gain.

Just because you can empathize with someone’s pain does not mean their burden is yours to carry.

By denying yourself fulfillment, are you helping anyone?

We need to prove to each other that happiness is possible, abundance is at our fingertips,

The people in our lives change us, shape us, and create

to find satisfaction in each day.

Love is so much deeper than surface beauty. And life is so much deeper than success.

you pick up on this through what is said to you or how you’re treated.

you are a whole and complete individual that exists outside of other people’s perceptions.

Instead of acting in accordance with other people’s expectations, you start living up to your own.

Relationships are not safeguards against loneliness.

temporarily they remain, are only here to guide you to be more at peace with yourself.

Without the love of one person we cared for, we want the love of many to make up for

we learned that nothing is ever enough. In turn, we became convinced the only way to exist is to be constantly proving ourselves to ourselves.

The root of overcorrecting is not feeling good enough.

When you judge other people (which everyone does) you essentially set up a rule for yourself.

Remember that when other people judge, it’s a projection of an issue they have with themselves,

When we accept ourselves exactly as we are,

And if you do want to fix something? Do it from a place of self-respect, not a place of wondering whether or not you will be able to convince the people around you that you are good enough for your own life.

mean the courage to keep going, even in spite of your failures, even though you’ve messed up, even despite the fact that you very well might do so again.

I mean the courage to accept that not every day is a good day, even when you’re living the life of your dreams.

Nobody feels inspired all of the time. It’s not about waiting until you feel ready. It’s about doing it anyway, and knowing readiness will come.

It is what you act on consistently that you truly see the viability of.

merging your life with someone else’s is the greatest honor you’ll ever get, so I hope that you learn how to bend, not break, how to compromise, not take, and how to appreciate, not assume.

love what you have while you have it, be where you are while you’re there, and not get too flustered