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March 9 - April 2, 2024
People are likely to respond because they don’t want to seem upset when they are. Express how the ghosting is making you feel and the concerns you have
“You seem upset. Can we talk about what I said to you?”
was overwhelmed and unable to add another thing to an already full plate.”
When people respond in an unhealthy way, it’s typically a sign that you needed limits a long time ago and that you need to reevaluate the relationship to assess whether your needs are being met satisfactorily.
Boundaries grow and expand over time as our needs change.
putting way too many unspoken
expectations on the other person.
“Why am I even friends with this person? They consistently ____.” (Fill in the blank: “let me down,” “demand too much from me,” “make me feel guilty,” “flake on plans,” and on and on.)
Unhealthy friendships happen as a result of unhealthy boundaries.
Friends are your chosen family, and these relationships should bring ease, comfort, support, and fun to your life—not excess drama.
Could you have reacted in a healthier way?
this based on fact or your own assumptions?
What about your past makes you think this?
Burnout happens when people become emotionally, mentally, or physically exhausted.
Not being appreciated for what you do
start asking herself “Why is this important to me?”
Sometimes we do things that aren’t important to us but that we believe maintain a particular image of
“person who has it all ...
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it appear they have it all together all the time.
We can’t create more time, but we can do less, delegate, or ask for help.
she needs positive feedback and affirmation.
Listening to people complain about the same things over and over
As these worries flood our brain, we experience anxiety.
expectations arise as a result of comparing yourself with others, or your expectations may come from family or cultural norms or your friends.
the most challenging part of this process is the fear of what others might think.
“Small wins are big wins.”
People with DPD continuously seek attention, advice, and comfort from others.
eating issues are likely to experience problems with boundaries.
Communicating our boundaries isn’t easy, but without it, we set ourselves up for long-term suffering.
People can’t meet a standard that we never express. Boundaries are not unspoken rules.
Common sense is based on our own life experiences, however, and it isn’t the same for everyone.
Others learn a lot about you from watching how you treat yourself.
Be kind to yourself, because the people in your life are watching.
At its core, resentment is disappointment.
Then you mix in anger and fear.
esteem. Instead of holding others accountable, the anger becomes an issue within.
Frustration ensues when we’re unable to achieve a goal or get a need met—when we try something and feel that
Frustration leads to a loss of hope and motivation.
Distance doesn’t always solve the problem, so a physical shift is simply not the answer. It’s a mental change that’s required.
gossip isn’t helpful and only leads to more resentment.
As we air our grievances, we become more frustrated and annoyed, reinforcing the belief that others are doing things to
he was tired of always playing the role of the responsible problem solver,
allow others to be there for him.
Emotional neglect happens when you don’t receive sufficient emotional support from a parent or caregiver.
For our relationships to improve, we assume that the other person has to change.
The most significant symptom is discomfort, which manifests itself as anger, resentment, frustration, and burnout.
We tolerate unhealthy boundaries because we don’t understand our feelings, and we fail to notice the discomfort.
Worst-case-scenario thinking is fear-based, and it’s the wrong hypothesis about what is most likely to happen.
The only thing we’re able to control is our own behavior.
The short-term discomfort of setting a boundary isn’t a reason to continue tolerating the longer-term discomfort of the issues that inevitably result.
