The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired

by Daniel J. Siegel

it’s important to be aware of what’s happening within us. But we also want to teach them not to overreact to their feelings.

teaching our children that even pain can be taken into awareness and be something to learn from is an important mindsight skill to convey.

Kids can find it really powerful to learn that their pain doesn’t last forever.

All of these lessons and the ways we cultivate security result from a few simple mindsight skills you can teach your kids. By helping them understand the wave and tide metaphor, learn to pay attention to their breath, and see the events of their lives as separate from their identity, you’ll be giving them tools that will wire their brains to provide security for themselves. Of course they will still depend on you as well, but they’ll know that when they need to find their inner resources that lead to security, they are always available.

facing the difficult moments of being away from home.

That’s healthy interdependence.

Independent together=steven universe

The science confirms that this security doesn’t require that you’re perfect. You’re not going to provide flawless care in every interaction you have with your child.