Conversation Casanova: How to Effortlessly Start Conversations and Flirt Like a Pro

by Dave Perrotta

conversations. But what about when you’re on a date, at the bar, or even in a relationship? You need to know how to have longer conversations and connect with women on a deeper level. And to do that, you need to get her talking. You see, the

she’ll feel connected to you.

Why Questions Are Important This is counterintuitive, but when you prompt people to tell you about themselves, they actually perceive you as more interesting…even if they barely know anything about you. Scientists have found that talking about ourselves activates the same pleasure centers of the brain that are associated with food and money. [1]

Open-Ended Questions:

Solution #1: Be Non-Judgmental and Focus on Commonalities

Solution #2: Weave in Multiple Topics

Here are some emotional topics for you to dive into: -Her dreams -Her experiences -What she loves to do -What she is passionate about -What her motivations are

Solution #3: Focus the Conversation on the Girl

in order to truly get her to talk about herself, you need to infuse emotional topics into the conversation.

You want to move to topics that aren’t universally relatable for everyone. That’s how real connections are formed,

try to relate back to her responses with something relevant from your own life.

1. Her Experiences

-“How did it feel when you did X?” -“What was it like to do X?”

2. Her Dreams

Everybody thinks about their dreams – but not everybody gets to talk about those dreams. That’s because most people never think to ask them. But given the opportunity, most people would love to talk about their dreams and aspirations. That’s why it brings up all sorts of good and hopeful emotions. Here are some questions that can get you to this topic: -“What’s something you’ve always wanted to do?” -“What’s something you want to achieve this year?” Once you get her talking about this, you can dive deeper and ask questions like: -“How would it feel to do that?”

-“How would your life change if you accomplish that?”

3. What She Loves to Do

How did it feel? You probably pictured yourself doing those things, and you probably felt similar emotions as when you did them, right?

-“What do you absolutely love to do?” -“What kind of activities set you on fire and get you excited?”

-“What do you love about X?” -“How do you feel when you do X?”

4. Her Passions

-“What makes you passionate about X?” -“How do you feel when you’re following that passion?”

5. Her Motivations

Why does she want the things she wants? What are her true motivations? Most men never dig this

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-“What made you want to get into that?”

-“What made you do that?”

-“Now that you’re doing X, how do you feel about it?” -“Why did you want to accomplish X?”

The more you dive into these kinds of emotional topics, the easier you’ll connect with women. You’ll stop having polite, “just friends” conversations. What’s more, you’ll start sparking attraction with your words, and find that A LOT more women are “into you.” So, use these with caution, and break them out when you genuinely want to connect with women.

Step #1: Understand the Purpose of Talking About Yourself

Just excite her, intrigue her, and get her talking about herself again.

Step #2: Highlight Sexy Qualities About Yourself

1. Dominance 2. Sociability 3. Altruism

Think about how a stereotypical “nice guy” interacts with women. He plays it safe, waits for overwhelming signs of attraction before making a move, and doesn’t get laid all that much (if at all). For women, being with this kind of man is a chore. Now, think of how a dominant man acts. Women are an abundant resource for him, so he doesn’t put them on a pedestal. He knows what he wants in life, and goes for it unapologetically. What’s more, women don’t have to worry about much when they’re with a dominant man – they can relax, knowing that he’ll do the leading and make

So, how can you convey dominance in conversation? Here are some examples you could talk about: - A time where you achieved something you once thought was impossible - How you took charge of a situation even though you were unsure of the outcome - A time where you successfully led a group of people

Now, let’s go over sociability. A woman wants to feel like she can bring you around her friends without having to worry that you could potentially creep them out or do something weird. What’s more, sociability signals that you’re a cool, confident guy who can talk to anybody. The sociable guy communicates with people with ease, has a big social circle, and is well connected. This signals that he’s successful with women, and has abundance in his life (with women, friends, and money). So, how can you convey sociability in conversation?

Here are some examples you could talk about: - A time where you hung out with a group of friends and had fun - A time where you connected with someone you looked up to - A time where you introduced two groups of friends to each other

altruism in conversation?

A time where you helped somebody less fortunate - A time where you did some volunteer work - A time where you helped a friend accomplish something

-Adventurousness. Women love spontaneous men. They want the kind of guy who’s going to make them feel alive, challenge them, and excite them. Not the kind of guy they can easily predict. -Appreciation of Beauty. Men who appreciate beauty usually genuinely love women. What’s more, they also tend to enjoy good sex. -Sense of humor. Women like a man who can make her laugh and make light of situations, versus those men who take themselves too seriously.

Step #3: Bait Her When it comes to talking about yourself, it’s always more powerful when she asks you about

something than when you straight up tell her. We all know those people who drone on about themselves without prompting. You don’t want to be that guy. It’s far better if she has to dig a little bit to discover more about you. That’s where baiting comes into play. Baiting causes women to put effort into finding out who you are. It makes you seem A LOT more interesting, and even adds a bit of mystery.

Baiting technique 1: Make an intriguing statement.

“I love learning and improving. I feel like if you’re not stretching your comfort zone and feeling a little stupid some of the time, you’re not really living.”

Baiting technique 2: Reciprocity

Baiting technique 3: The open loop

Step #4: Follow the Proper Etiquette

Rule 1: Don’t make the conversation all about you Remember: The more she talks about herself, the more connected she’ll feel to you.

So, she doesn’t need to know that much about you to feel like she’s connected to you. With this in mind, you shouldn’t be talking about yourself for the majority of the conversation. In fact, you should keep it to a minimum. That way, she’s the one talking about herself, qualifying herself to you, and really putting most of the effort in. All while you sit back, make some intriguing statements, tell a few pointed stories, and let the conversation flow.

Asking her the same question she asked you.