Conversation Casanova: How to Effortlessly Start Conversations and Flirt Like a Pro

by Dave Perrotta

You see, we don’t always control what happens to us. But we always control a) how we interpret what happens to us, and b) how we respond to what happens to us. Therefore, whether we consciously

recognize it or not, we are always responsible for our experiences and our life.

Casanova Mindset #1: I am responsible for my life and my circumstances.

Why would she want a man who feels the need to constantly

impress her? She can sense the insecurity.

Why would she want a man who makes a woman his main purpose?

-It’s your responsibility to make something happen with the girl -It’s your responsibility to lead the conversation in a positive way -And you’re responsible for the outcome of the interaction

Overcoming the Need for Validation Deep down, most men believe they are inherently not “enough.” They need other things to complete them, whether it be women, money, fame, etc. (or some combination of those). They want to be respected by other men, and desired by attractive women. This leads to needy behavior, because they’re always trying to find the “missing piece.” This makes their conversations shallow, because they’re always trying to “get something” out of the other person. Here’s the thing: You will never find that missing piece. There will always be more to desire.

Casanova Mindset #2: I am enough. I don’t need the approval of anyone else to feel complete.

Often times, their motivations are based on getting approval from other people. For me, and maybe for you, this was the case. In doing so, they focus on living up to other people’s values instead of their own. That’s a recipe for failure. Two of my biggest values are freedom and creativity. Back when I was studying accounting, I was living up to my parents’ values of security and stability. This led to extreme unhappiness

and stress. But when I started focusing more on my values, I became much happier. Now, I enjoy the freedom I have to travel, as well as the creativity I can use to write books like this one. When you focus on getting approval, you live up to other people’s values. As you develop the mindset that “you are enough,” you start living up to your own values.

A Man With Purpose

This purposeless existence is terrible for building a life, and terrible for dating as well. You see, women are attracted to men with purpose; a driving goal, propelling them forward despite the obstacles. Men with purpose don’t depend on women’s approval.

Casanova Mindset #3: Women are not my #1 priority. I have a mission and purpose outside of women.

So dig deep with this action tip and ask yourself how you can start doing more of the things that make you come alive. By pursuing these passions, you’ll give yourself the best chance to create a life you’re truly proud of.

Casanova Mindset #4: All women are attracted to me until proven otherwise.

But if you approach them confidently, most women will be at least a little intrigued and open to you.

What’s crazy is your reality starts to reflect your beliefs. When you assume women are attracted to you, you’ll start acting like it. You’ll make more sexual innuendos, lead women, and put yourself

Action Tip: Write down 2 thoughts that come to your head when you see a girl you’re attracted to. Ask yourself: Are they empowering? Action Tip 2: When you see a girl, imagine her responding very positively towards you. Then say to yourself, “This girl wants me so bad"

1. Focus on Overcoming Your Fear

One of the greatest discoveries a man makes, one of his great surprises, is to find he can do what he was afraid he couldn’t do. – Henry Ford When you focus on confronting and overcoming the fear, you’ll not only approach more women, but you’ll also grow as a man. You’ll realize, “I had these excuses. I had this story I was telling myself. But I approached her anyway. I did what I was afraid I couldn’t do.” – and it will feel awesome.

2. Shift Your Perspective

Risk of approaching her: Potential awkward interaction with a girl you’ll probably never see again. So, 1-2 minutes of discomfort – a small risk. Risk of doing nothing: You miss out on a potential amazing connection and incredible sex with a woman you’re attracted to – a big risk. Risk of building the habit of not approaching: You signal to your subconscious that it’s “okay” not to approach women you’re interested in. In doing so, you miss out on other great girls in the future – another big risk. With this perspective, it’s more risky for you to do nothing than to approach her.

3. Stop Waiting for the Right Moment

4. Tap Into Your Manhood

Instead, you need to keep your attraction and appreciation for her beauty on the forefront of your mind. This will help you cultivate a nervous excitement instead of a nervous fear. An excitement to meet and learn more about her.

5 Ways to Start a Conversation With Any Girl

1. Going “Direct”

“Hey… I know this is reaaaallly random… but I saw you walking by... and I thought you were cute… So I had to say ‘Hi’…I’m [Your name].”

2. Situational

The key is to deliver this with a slight smile, so she knows you’re being playful. You want it to come across in more of a fun way rather than a serious tone.

3. The “Where is Starbucks?”

This conversation starter is powerful because it allows you to gauge her vibe and attractiveness before you show your interest. For example, simply by her response and the way she starts to deliver her answer, you can tell how open she is to having a conversation with you. For example, if she smiles and lights up little bit, you know you have a good chance to make something happen.

4. The Simple Introduction

5. The Seahorse vs Octopus

“I’m thinking of getting a more non-traditional pet. And it’s between a seahorse and an octopus. Which would you get?”

First Impression Mistake #1: Talking Too Fast

Solution #1: Slow It Down

First Impression Mistake #2: Speedy, Anxious Movements

Solution #2: Slow Down Your Movements

Simply walking slowly and smiling will make women notice you, and they’ll start giving you approach invitations

First Impression Mistake #3: Looking Too Serious or Too Goofy

Solution #3: The Sexy Smile

First Impression Mistake #4: Slouching

Solution #4: Develop Strong Posture

First Impression Mistake #5: Darting Eyes

Deep down, you know this person is confident and comfortable; otherwise they wouldn’t be able to hold such strong eye contact.

Solution #5: Strong Eye Contact

When you make eye contact from the other side of the bar/club or in general, hold it until she looks away. Then, once you’ve made eye contact, walk towards her and approach her.

First Impression Mistake #6: Talking With a High-Pitched Voice