Conversation Casanova: How to Effortlessly Start Conversations and Flirt Like a Pro

by Dave Perrotta

Solution #6: Speak from Your Belly

The First Question

“What are you up to?”

Situation #1: She’s in a Rush

“I know this is random and we literally just met, but you have a really fun/interesting vibe. We should grab a drink this week or next.”

“No worries, just take it as a compliment then,” and leave the conversation.

Situation #2: She Has a Few Minutes to Talk

Your goal here should be to make a good first

impression, and get her number at a high point in the conversation.

make an assumptive statement

“Listen, it’s been great to meet you. I gotta go, but you seem like a lot of fun. We should grab a drink this week or next.”

Situation #3: She’s Got a Lot of Time on Her Hands

Aside from making statements, you can also: -Ask open-ended questions (like, “What brings you to X city?”), then listen and relate back with your own experiences -Compliment her in genuine and unique ways (like, “You have a very unique style. I might need to get some fashion tips from you”) -Playfully tease her (i.e. Oh you’re from LA? You’re a Valley girl at heart, aren’t you?”) These tips will help you extend the conversation and connect with her.

What is Flirting – And Why Do Most Men Suck at It?

1) They’re Too Blunt

2) They’re Too Forward

3) They Use Friendly Flirting Instead of Sexual Flirting

Using Subtlety

Exaggeration

The best way to get through these tests (and also

to infuse flirting into the conversation) is to agree and exaggerate.

Positioning Yourself as the Prize

Here, you occasionally insinuate that she’s hitting on you or trying to seduce you. You do this by twisting her words and making it seem like she’s trying to turn you on. In this way, you position yourself as the prize and position her as the pursuer.

Keep in mind: when flirting, it’s important to maintain at least a slight smile and good eye contact. This keeps the vibe fun, and let’s her know that you’re being playful.

try to strike a balance between teasing and having meaningful conversation.

Absurdify

Bring Yourself Into It

“Oh, so you’re a psych major? You’re probably reading my mind right now, aren’t you? I’m on to you.”

Stereotype Her in a Fun Way

Challenge Her

Mock Her

Playfully Disagree With Her

Accuse Her of Hitting on You

Teasing is all about being self-amused and light-hearted. You should be enjoying yourself, and not aiming to impress her with the quality of your jokes. Teasing should help you connect with her and also express your personality.

Flirting Without Your Words

Sexy Eye Contact

The “triangle gazing routine” – You look at her eyes, then down to her mouth, then back up to her eyes – in a triangle formation. This is a great way to show interest in her.

Bedroom eyes – Lower your eyelids and have a sort of dreamy expression.

Move your eyes slowly

Match her gaze

Close Proximity

Talk in her ear, and bounce out

Face her head-on instead of at an angle

Physical Touch

The quicker you touch her, the quicker you assert yourself as both a dominant and sexual man who goes for what he wants.

Touch her at the right moments– For example, touch her when the two of you are laughing or when she’s agreeing with you. That way, she’ll associate positive feelings with your touch.

Hold her hand when walking through a crowd

Ask about her jewelry

Connect

Get Her Talking