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Bruce Bryans
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May 3 - May 4, 2023
he does something unusually thoughtful or goes out of his way to meet a need of yours…cherish it and show your appreciation in word and deed. I cannot stress this enough. The second way to go about this is by drawing him in to you with enticing moments of female tenderness.
One of the keys to loving proactively lies in how effective you are at understanding the way the man you’re interested in prefers to give and receive love.
Some guys need more physical affection.
some even require more quality time to feel special to a woman.
The Five Love Languages.
I’ll admit that a woman has to be vulnerable and be willing to risk rejection to love proactively.
men risk rejection by being the pursuers and initiators of romantic interest.
Women on the other hand, risk rejection as the primary purs...
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Simply love him proactively and use both your common sense and female intuition to decipher whether or not your love is being respected or simply taken for granted.
If a man respects, responds to, and returns your love with greater displays of loyalty and commitment…he’s a keeper. If he doesn’t, kick him to the curb.
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Do not diminish the value of your love by lavishing it freely upon a mere casual suitor. Female devotion, when a man has not yet earned it, is not perceived as “devotedness” in his eyes…it is seen as desperation.
For opportunistic men it will only trigger feelings of amusement and pity.
women who have the dangerous habit of giving their all to the men they date.
desperate woman becomes an unhappy and anxious woman, and she always ends up sharing this angst and fretfulness with the men she dates.
Once this unhappiness becomes burdensome enough, even a good, well-intentioned man will find i...
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exhibiting possessive behaviors that may further sabotage her chances with a guy. Because of her neediness, she’ll soon feel compelled to make unreasonable demands regarding his time, his other relationships, and even his obligations.
this category of women that men dub as being ‘clingy’ or ‘needy.’
If you act needy with a man who has not earned such emotion or devotion from you it will cause him to lose interest very quickly.
Set your standards high and be willing to assert yourself and defend your personal boundaries with the men you date.
No man’s dream-girl is a doormat unless the man in question is looking for a free ride at a woman’s expense.
A woman with weak personal boundaries is easy prey for both manipulative and low interest men.
Great guys don’t want a woman they can walk all over.
Ms. Nice Girl means that you make silent contracts with men that read: “If I’m really nice, accommodating, and self-sacrificing towards him, then he’ll be really nice, accommodating, and self-sacrificing towards me.”
Even the good guys you date will end up losing interest because your actions will communicate how little you value your own needs and wants.
high-quality men find assertive women particularly attractive because these women tend to know what they want and what they expect from a man, and they believe they deserve it.
emotionally mature because they understand how to respectfully handle conflict with a man without being overly confrontational or manipulative. 14 Never sacrifice your deepest passions in life just to keep a man interested in you.
Men don’t want women who’ll give up everything just to be with them.
woman shouldn’t have to change certain things about herself just to attract and keep a man,
Don’t pretend that you’ll become or do something for some guy just to get him or to keep him.
you should be especially wary about men who try to force you to give up such things just for their sake.
if you want to avoid the misery that comes with compromising who you are just to keep a guy interested, learn to stay true to what’s really important to you.
Do not tolerate men who feel the need to conceal you from the world.
pay close attention to how eager he is to show you off to the world,
second is to closely observe how eager he is to spend time with you when there’s little to no chance of you being physically intimate with him.
on a subconscious level, it simply doesn’t make sense for a guy to involve a woman in the other areas of his life if he doesn’t have any long-term plans for her.
when a man’s seemingly apathetic attitude towards going out on dates with you turns out to be something else entirely.
You may think that he’s just lazy or uninterested in dating in public, but the real truth is that he’d prefer not to risk his “girls” bumping into each other.
was proud or honored to be seen with them
If he’s not making an effort to be seen with you in public…he doesn’t have any long-term plans for you.
Don’t delude yourself into thinking that you can convince him otherwise, as it will undoubtedly lead you into a frustrating dating situation or a dead-end relationship.
Do not rob a man of the opportunity to be captivated by you because of your determination to attain a commitment.
the challenge of wooing you.
wanting a serious, committed relationship, but do not neglect being his conquest.
what high-quality, relationship-minded men really want is to fall in love and be seduced by the right woman.
he wants to want to commit to a woman.
And even if you’re as good as they get when it comes to being girlfriend material, he will still lose interest very quickly.
your job as a woman is to ensure that he feels as if he’s making an effort.
Men don’t want women who play games…but they do want to be enchanted by a woman.
As men, we don’t want to feel like we’re being processed into a relationship, we want to be happily seduced into one and be blissfully ignorant of how it happened.
