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by
Bruce Bryans
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May 3 - May 4, 2023
text messages should be the sweet and salty snacks, the little communicative delights that keep you going in between the bigger meals.
tease him through text, telling him that what you’d really like is to hear his voice more often (or even tease him saying that you know he really wants to hear yours).
Don’t waste your precious time on a guy who won’t escalate something as simple as his method of communication.
Don’t be a flake.
High-quality men are less likely to court a woman who constantly fails to follow through on her word.
Trust is one of the most important qualities of a strong and healthy relationship. It is difficult to obtain and extremely easy to lose.
Honesty, or personal integrity is one of those qualities that quality men find irresistible in a woman.
But it’s another thing entirely when you make promises that you are simply incapable of keeping.
you probably know the anxiety it causes you to have a boyfriend who only follows through on his commitments if he feels like it.
being in a relationship with a “might do it”, “might show up”, “might follow through” kind of guy can be a rollercoaster of insanity, dating the female counterpart to this kind of person is equally frustrating and anxiety inducing.
Do not speak ill of your exes, especially if you’re just getting to know a guy.
Habitually bad mouthing your exes in front of men who barely know you won’t earn you their pity, it will only earn you their repulsion.
Even if you’re not trashing your exes, it’s still wise to be extra cautious as to what you say regarding your past relationships.
if you’re just getting to know a guy and you reveal too much information about your unlucky dating past, he’s going to wonder what is it about you exactly that attracts players, losers, time wasters, and one-night-stands.
may conclude that you possess some character defect that draws defective men in to your life.
No man wants to think that: 1. He might be defective since all you seem to attract are defective men, or… 2. He’s attracted a woman with more baggage than he can bear.
perfect advice for discussing your exes on dates with men you’re getting to know: “If you don’t have anything nice to say…don’t say anything at all.”
Never risk your self-respect by trying to force a man to take an interest in you. It is better to disregard a man who displays a wavering interest than to lose both your dignity and sanity fighting for his attention.
Do not fight, protest, struggle, complain, or nag a man whose desire and interest in you is obviously waning. It not only makes you appear less dignified to him (and others who learn about it) but it will affect your self-esteem as well. Keep your dignity and do that which is the most difficult for most women: cease to entertain him.
Stop entertaining his half-hearted communication attempts (you know what they look like).
Before a man has judged you as ‘a worthy pursuit’ in his mind, it is wise to show restraint in displaying your infatuation.
usually better to display your infatuations to a man only after you have secured a place of importance in his mind.
If a man becomes fully aware that he harbors a greater place of importance in your mind than you do in his, your prestige will lessen even more in his mind.
an important key to success in the seduction process (for women) is to reach a mutual level of interest before acting head over heels with a guy.
gauge your level of importance to a man based on how proactive he is about securing your infatuation.
if a man is making sincere and consistent attempts to make you want him, there’s a high chance you’ve taken up a place of importance in his mind.
will try to gauge your level of interest in him while he evaluates your potential importance all at the same time.
Showing your infatuation too early reveals your high level of interest in him before he has had the opportunity to decipher your significance to him.
If you hastily make him the center of your universe…what ...
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Show flexibility and be easy-to-please.
Relationship-minded men know that an adaptable woman makes for a better long-term partner than a stubborn one.
Being a stickler for high quality behavior from men will help you to weed out the losers
(By the way, this is one of the keys to winning with men: Be hard-to-have but easy-to-please.)
only kinds of men who would tolerate a lack of flexibility in a woman are the passive, pushover types of men – men who probably won’t light your fires if you catch my drift.
Be willing to show your vulnerable side.
If a man has proven his sincere interest in you, be willing to be vulnerable with him as the relationship progresses.
capacity to melt the hear...
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Being vulnerable takes courage, as there’s always a chance that you’ll be rejected, spurned, mistreated, or simply misunderstood.
without an intimate, emotional connection, most guys are eventually going to lose interest in you,
more vulnerable with the men who prove themselves both trustworthy and worth your attention.
Men do not want to date flawless women, or women who have a habit of masking their insecurities and ugly-sides with insincere behaviors. We want women who laugh at their failures,
cry at their mistakes, ask for forgiveness when they’re wrong (you’d be surprised how little of this men actually see), and who can share their souls ...
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also gives him the opportunity to be a pillar of strength
The 7 Irresistible Qualities Men Want In A Woman
makes room for a man to protect, defend, nurture, and love her.
Sometimes the very thing you’re hiding from the world might be the one thing that makes you exceptionally beautiful to a man.
Once a man proves to be worth your love, cease any timidity in showing it by concentrating your efforts on escalating his emotional attachment to you.
definitely stuck around much longer with the women who knew how to escalate my emotional interest in them
When a man does anything that shows that he cherishes you and wants to protect, provide, or possess you (ownership)…appreciate it...a lot.
you accept his masculine need to protect, provide for, or possess that which is feminine and tender.
