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Bruce Bryans
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May 3 - May 4, 2023
where the poor fool had no idea that it was something he said or did that one time that caused you to kick him to the curb.
series of events or repeated behaviors that slowly turned you off of him…for good.
woman does early on in a new romance that may make a man become distant, lose interest almost instantly, or even force him to place her in the friend-zone
great guys see as big red flags.
personally believe that if a woman values her dignity (and her sanity), it would be in her best interest not to wait for the latter to occur.
woman really requires are two things: a healthy amount of self-respect and a set of dating guidelines that will allow her to make tough, rational decisions as she navigates the treacherous territory of finding Mr. Right.
woman’s confidence is communicated to a man by what she stands for and what she doesn’t.
Self-confidence makes a woman more attractive, but unless it affects how she enforces her personal boundaries it won’t do anything to keep a man interested in her for the long-term.
when your emotions and desire for a guy are overwhelming, it’s going to be extremely difficult for you to think clearly and make judicious decisions.
self-confidence without cleverness can only go so far,
is the strength of her own personal boundaries, regardless of the situation.
personal values, such as being treated with unconditional love, are more important to them than needing to be with any one particular guy.
When a woman has strong personal boundaries when dealing with men she doesn’t make excuses because of a man’s handsomeness, status, wealth, race, background, promises, sexual chemistry, etc. She sticks to her guns and refuses to settle for dating situations that are a win-lose for her; win-lose meaning that the guy wins at her expense.
higher your values are however, the less likely you are to take advantage
healthy relationships are always win-win.
must possess strong personal boundaries and know when to say “NO”, withdraw, or move on from a win-lose dating situation.
However, what these men do respect are women who have a zero tolerance policy for time wasting and being manipulated.
or those who try to take advantage of them.
technique of withdrawing communicates to a man that a woman values her dignity more than she does a man’s attention, and therefore will not waste her time and affections on a man who doesn’t recognize her worth.
withdrawing from an irresolute man is merely a sincere display of her self-respect.
WILL defend her personal boundaries, regardless of the situation she may find herself in with the men she comes across.
her self-respecting behavior wildly increases her level of attractiveness
committing to. The reverse is also true in that a woman with weak personal boundaries will exhibit the kind of needy or desperate behavior that will compel a man to see her as nothing more than a hookup or a short-term love interest to distract himself with. This
regardless of how physically attractive or charmi...
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I decided to focus on a single group of men: high-quality men.
101 Things Your Dad Never Told You About Men, I
usually an excellent judge of character and is less likely to waste his time dating a woman who undervalues him or even herself.
defends his personal boundaries, knows what he wants, speaks his mind, understands the value of relationships, and exudes masculine, sexual confidence).
want to pursue and nurture a loving relationship that can lead to marriage with such a man.
avoid those dating mistakes that make a woman appear desperate, needy, commonplace, or unqualified for a serious commitment to a great guy.
interested in relationships with higher quality men and you want to avoid being taken for a ride, taken for granted, or even mistaken for a hookup or a short-term fling, then I encourage you to read on. Chapter
Never be too accessible. Before a serious relationship develops, do not allow yourself to be too available to a man as men quickly tire of that which is easily obtained.
Being a challenge will not only increase your chances of maintaining his interest, but it will also separate the lazy men from the ambitious ones.
A challenging, desirable woman presents a man with a healthy problem that’s worth solving. And losing the attention of such a woman also creates a level of threat in his mind,
actually be hard-to-get. And what this means is you should have an exciting, attractive life of your own.
The kind of life that a man doesn’t feel like he has to “save” you from, but the kind of life that makes him feel as if a relationship with you will add value to his own life.
Great guys want to feel as if being with a woman is both an honor and an adventure.
they want to want your attention.
men want to meet you happy in your singlehood.
Great guys want to meet you already content
being complacent in your singlehood means you’ve settled, given up, and simply not interested in a romantic relationship.
you shouldn’t be so eager to give up your family, friends, hobbies, dreams, and aspirations the minute a new guy expresses an interest in you. Why? Chances are, many of these things are what helped to attract him to you in the first place.
Be cautious in how you ‘keep in touch’ with a man. Do not dominate the initiations of contact if you want to keep his interests in you both elevated and unmistakable.
you’re playing the ugly game of Chase-a-Man.
you’re robbing him of the “space” he needs to miss you and therefore pursue you.
Letting a man dominate the initiation of contact is the only sure way you can gauge his level of interest.
“let him lead.” Showing restraint on your part and letting him lead in this way ensures that you don’t waste your emotional energy worrying if he likes you or not. You’ll know without a shadow of a doubt based on how proactive he is about seeing you AND keeping in touch with you.
Prioritize phone calls over texting.
If you want guys to take you seriously, you must get them to pick up the phone and call you. Text messaging is a player’s best weapon.
Having captivating conversations while out on dates, keeping in touch through the phone, and sending an “I love you!” through email would be the breakfast, lunch, and dinners of relationship communication.
