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November 22 - December 25, 2017
Dr. Angelou’s quote “If you don’t like something change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain”
a fait accompli—
We are so busy focusing on what is wrong in the world, as evidenced by our complaints, that we are perpetuating these problems.
complaining does not lead to solving our problems.
I opted several years ago not to watch, read, or listen to what others call “the news.” What we receive is not news.
Esther Hicks recently commented that if the news were an accurate reflection of the day’s events, twenty-nine minutes and fifty-nine seconds of a thirty-minute broadcast would be good things that occurred, and the bad news would be just a one-second blip on the screen.
stop watching, listening to, and/or reading the Bad News.
Don’t worry, if something significant happens, someone will tell you.
treat your mind like a garden.
As a Man Thinketh, James Allen
A man’s mind may be likened to a garden, which may be intelligently cultivated or allowed to run wild; but whether cultivated or neglected, it must, and will, bring forth. If no useful seeds are put into it, then an abundance of useless weed seeds will fall therein, and will continue to produce their kind.
shift your comments from what is destructive to what is constructive.
Negative thoughts are seeds we plant in the world through complaining. They will produce.
Your thoughts create your life and your words indicate what you are thinking.
stop giving energy to what is wrong by talking incessantly about it.
“As thou hast believed, so be it done unto thee.” —JESUS, MATTHEW 8:13 “The universe is change; our life is what our thoughts make it.” —MARCUS AURELIUS “We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think.” —THE BUDDHA “Change your thoughts and you change your world.” —NORMAN VINCENT PEALE “You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.” —JAMES ALLEN “We become what we think about.” —EARL NIGHTINGALE “The highest possible stage in moral culture is when we recognize that we ought to control our thoughts.” —CHARLES DARWIN “Why are we
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It seems people have a blind spot as to when they are being pessimistic rather than optimistic.
What you articulate, you demonstrate.
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complaining, criticizing, gossiping, or being sarcastic,
Avoid expressing in these manners of nevative thinking.
Scientists believe that it takes approximately twenty-one days of a consistent behavior for it to become habitual.
Waiting for life to improve before undertaking the twenty-one-day Complaint Free challenge is like waiting until you are in great shape to begin a regimen of diet and exercise.
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The average person complains fifteen to thirty times a day,
When you recognize your complaints, you will begin to change.
Complaining is so much a part of who we are, it’s difficult to recognize what is and is not a complaint.
Complaining is not to be confused with informing someone of a mistake or deficiency so that it can be put right. And to refrain from complaining doesn’t necessarily mean putting up with bad quality or behavior. There is no ego in telling the waiter your soup is cold and needs to be heated up—if you stick to the facts, which are always neutral. “How dare you serve me cold soup … ?” That’s complaining.
Most complaints have a “This is unfair!” or “How dare this happen to me” quality.
The four stages to competency are: 1. Unconscious Incompetence 2. Conscious Incompetence 3. Conscious Competence 4. Unconscious Competence
“Ode on a Distant Prospect of Eton College,” Thomas Gray
“ignorance is bliss.”
many people today are living in the safest, healthiest, and most prosperous time in all of human history. And yet what do they do? They complain.
“Constant complaint is the poorest sort of pay for all the comforts we enjoy.” —BEN FRANKLIN
Hundreds of years ago, Benjamin Franklin said, “Constant complaint is the poorest sort of pay for all the comforts we enjoy.” When Franklin wrote this, there was no electricity, aspirin, penicillin, air-conditioning, indoor plumbing, air travel, or many more of the thousands of modern niceties and so-called necessities we now take for granted.
Little if any of the complaining we do is calculated to improve our situation. It’s just a lot of “ear pollution,” detrimental to our happiness and well-being.
are you an “ouch” looking for a hurt?
“Those who hurt are hurting.”
Things are not really bad enough to warrant expressing grief, pain, or discontent, but complaining is our default setting.
Another words, change and do not complain about anything, no matter.
Complaining is like bad breath. We notice it when it comes out of someone else’s mouth, but not when it comes out of our own.
‘I get up more times than I fall.’
you must fail your way to success.
The Dunning-Kruger effect is named for David Dunning and Justin Kruger of Cornell University, who did studies on people attempting to learn new skills. Whenever a person tries something new, be it skiing, juggling, playing the flute, riding a horse, meditating, writing a book, painting a picture, or anything else, it is part of human nature to think it will be simple to master. Dunning and Kruger’s results, published in the December 1999 Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, stated, “Ignorance more frequently begets confidence than does knowledge.” In other words, you’re not aware that
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Complaining keeps our focus on the problem at hand rather than the resolution sought.
A complaint is an energetic statement that focuses on the problem at hand rather than the resolution sought.
“So oftentimes it happens that we live our lives in chains, and we never even know we have the key.”
benign (good),
indifferent (it does not care).
Our thoughts create our lives; our words indicate what we are thinking.
When we control our words by eradicating complaining, we create our lives with intention and attract what we desire.
In Chinese, the word “complain” is composed of two symbols: “hug” and “ego.” To complain, therefore, is to “hug your ego.”
