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Which women do you want to meet and what kind of relationship do you want to have with them?
The theory of demographics is simple and easy to remember: like attracts like. You attract what you are.
If you’re a successful professional who likes fine wine, studied abroad and dresses well, chances are the type of women you’re going to naturally meet and attract in your everyday life are going to be similarly educated, similar looking women with similar interests and similar success.
If she loves to ski and ride horses, and you hate the outdoors and traveling, then that’s going to cause friction — perhaps not immediately, but at some point.
If she values expressing her emotions openly and what her friends think of her, and you value serious conversation, intellectual pursuits and don’t care much for social gatherings, there’s going to be a large amount of friction from the get-go.
Clever lines won’t change it. Being good-looking won’t change it. Being rich won’t change it. If you hate what she loves and she hates what you lov...
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answer is to expand your identity and passions. Expand it to include new and interesting activities, new modes of expression, and new ways of presenting yourself.
Demographics explain why you meet women you just “click” with sometimes, and why, more often than not, you meet these women in situations where you’re having fun and doing what you love.
if you focus your time and energy on meeting women in situations where they are likely to share your values, interests, and needs — then you’re going to not only experience a much higher
degree of success, but you’re going to meet women you enjoy a lot more.
If you love dancing or different types of music, then chances are the women you’re going to meet at various dance events and concerts are going to be more
compatible with you and you’re going to have much more success with them.
What do you value in a woman? Honesty? Beauty? Affection? Intelligence? Curiosity?
interests? Education? Obviously, the answer is “all of the above”, right? So let me rephrase the question: what do you value the most? What is an absolute deal-breaker in the women you date? Prioritize what you look for in a woman. This will help you decide where to look.
examples of some great hobbies/events that you can use to meet women: - Dance classes (salsa, swing, ballroom, etc.) - Political organizations or events - Concerts and concert promotions - Amateur sports leagues (ultimate frisbee and co-ed volleyball tend to have a lot of women — women in good shape too) - Volunteering, charities, charities events (usually overloaded with great women) - Training courses (leadership, public speaking) - Cooking classes - Yoga classes (a goldmine) - Meditation courses and retreats - Self-help seminars and educational events - Travel groups (i.e., couch surfing) -
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meetup.com and livingsocial.com are excellent resources for finding like-minded people and cool events going on in your city.
Wherever I go, I make a point to join local events or classes where I’ll meet other like-minded people who also travel.
Demographics affect every interaction you have with women. If there is too large of a demographic mismatch, then the friction will be incredibly high, and no matter how attractive you are, she will not be able to connect with you.
Take up cooking classes, food tastings, restaurant openings, etc.
If you like to do yoga, and if you go do yoga, you’ll meet other women who like to do yoga. They’ll likely be attracted to you and you’ll likely be attracted to them.
The idea is that our beliefs are reflected in our behavior, and behavior determines which (and how many) women are attracted to us.
if you believe all women are sluts and untrustworthy, then the only women who are going to be willing to tolerate your judgmental attitude are promiscuous women who are untrustworthy. Social psychology refers to this as the assortment effect and it's been demonstrated in many studies.
the belief that women want and enjoy sex as much as men do. This belief was a big one for me. Many men don’t believe that women a...
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remember, rejections are a form of screening for demographics and in this case, it’s doing you a favor.
You’ll end up with a bunch of sexual and sensual women who enjoy being with you. Nothing wrong with that!
The assortment effect through personal beliefs is inc...
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most “problems” men try to overcome with tactics and techniques could easily be solved by sim...
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whether you realize it or not, the results you get with women are always your
questioning and re-evaluating our beliefs about women and relationships is far harder and more uncomfortable than simply memorizing a pick up line or two.
