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Models is the first book ever written on seduction as an emotional process rather than a logical one, a process of connecting with women rather than impressing them. It's the most mature and honest guide on how a man can attract women without faking behavior, without lying and without emulating others. A game-changer. ...more
Kindle Edition, 262 pages
Published July 26th 2011 (first published July 1st 2011)
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Eliana damn, i know this was 3 years ago but pretty cool that you are drawn towards books about picking up chicks that actual women dislike. it must suck to …moredamn, i know this was 3 years ago but pretty cool that you are drawn towards books about picking up chicks that actual women dislike. it must suck to want something so badly that you also hold in such contempt.(less)
Martin > Why does everyone think that women don´t need any advice how to approach men?

Who said that?

> men/women shouldn´t be in the need of the opposite sex …more
> Why does everyone think that women don´t need any advice how to approach men?

Who said that?

> men/women shouldn´t be in the need of the opposite sex and just care about themselves

Where did you get that? That is really bad advice.

You should read the book before making such harsh prejudices.(less)
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Nov 04, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Whether you like it or not, we live in a world where men are seriously screwed up. From the early childhood we are being taught to please women. Most of us don’t have a healthy male role model to follow, our fathers are distraught and generally don’t care about their heritage. This is especially true for Post Soviet countries, where being sensitive for a man is almost a crime.

So, while our fathers pursue career, sport, women or whatever else they find to be exciting, a lot of teen boys are left
Amber Lea
This book was really solid until he got to the actual how-to advice at the end, and then it seemed kind of manipulative and gross, not to mention rapey.

It is NOT a good policy to push ahead with women you hardly know until they force you to stop. DO NOT DO THIS.

Always ask and anything less than an enthusiastic yes is a no.

The first 180 pages or so of this book is excellent advice. Much better than the advice in The Game or No More Mr. Nice Guy or any other book I've read, and I want to tell ever
Tharindu Dissanayake
"First impressions are crucial."

Honestly, I had zero expectations about this book; if anything, I was quite prejudiced against this even before starting, based on how Manson's Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck turned out for me. I bought both books together a couple of years ago, and after reading the Subtle Art, decided to stay away from this one as well. But since I was a little behind my non-fiction reads, and also there's always the option to DNF, I gave in at last and give Models a chance
Sean Goh
Jan 01, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A dating advice book that is applicable to life.

Social status is determined by how you behave around other people, how other people behave around you, and how you treat yourself.

Neediness is defined by being more highly invested in other people's perceptions of you than your perceptions of yourself.

Humans are attracted to each other's rough edges.

Intentions speak way louder than lines, it's about why you say it, not what you say.
It comes down to what's being sub-communicated. When in doubt, che
Chuddchutney Buana
Not too long ago I encountered a great article on the internet about John Lennon vs Trent Reznor and how their different fundamental view on love resulted in a different outcome. It is a nice and enlightening article. Less than two weeks after, I encountered another great article on the internet, about how we should not be worried about being an average person. Those 2 blog post are in no way perfect, but it does opened my eyes into seeing things from a completely different angles.

The interestin
Jan 30, 2016 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
From the first time I came across Manson's blog I though he might be my spirit animal since he gives a great advice on life and how not to be a needy crazy bitch-person. I am less of a needy crazy bitch-person because of his writings and I am definitely grateful for that.

Having in mind that I am not the target audience for Models, it might be unsurprising that the book didn't strike the chord as eye-opening. It was quite interesting to know a bit more about the possible mindsets - it seems that
Sep 01, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is a must read book for any man who has struggled to connect with or communicate with women. I was recommended to read this book from a friend and I'm grateful he told me about it. Mark Manson's concepts on True Confidence, False Confidence, and vulnerability are very clear to understand to help a man be more successful in his relationships about women. The difference between True Confidence and False Confidence is the extent to which a man is vulnerable to his emotions and is able to share ...more
Amir Tesla
Highly recommended to every straight guy. Powerful insights on what constitutes an attractive character.
When in doubt Check Your INTENTIONS

צפו בוידאו סיקור :-)

As a former performer (pick-up), this book saved my life just in time.

As a kid I knew that being more real and vulnerable is the right way
to have a healthy and fulfilling relationships, and I did have, as a kid.
With more and more poisonous pressure from the majority of my peers at
middle school, to make chatting with girls a challenge,
I was persuaded to think that I WASN'T RIGHT.
They were, of course, pushing around MANIPULATIVE RELATIONSH
Michael Britt
Feb 20, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This was a thoroughly enjoyable listen. It deals a lot with accepting rejection, how to be more honest (obviously) and why being honest and vulnerable can be helpful. It also deals with the mistakes you're making, in your personal life and when trying to find a woman to meet. I really wish I would've read this book when I was 20. Ya live and learn ...more
Nov 09, 2014 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
As far as dating/seduction books go, this is one of the most realistic and down-to-earth. Less about having "game" and more about living as authentically as possible. ...more
Jun 12, 2018 rated it did not like it
I got about 75% through this book and decided I had enough. I picked up this book somewhat at the urging of a recent ex. He had wanted me to read it while we were dating, under some presumption that it would help me understand him more -- to understand his neediness and how it drives his behavior. I can't tell you how very glad I am that I did NOT do that WHILE we were dating. I don't find that I learned much more about him, other than it seems quite ridiculous that he needed to read this book t ...more
Kaj Sotala
Conflicting feelings. Had a lot of good stuff, but at the end there was some advice that left me deeply uncomfortable:

"The general principle at work here is that you want to gently push things towards sex until she says stop. If she doesn’t say stop, keep going. [...] ...our general guideline here is that we continue until a woman makes us stop. This means she physically stops you – i.e., moves your hands off of her, moves away from you, puts her clothes back on, etc. – or clearly and verbally s
Apr 22, 2016 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I realise now the objective of this book wasn't for me.
it's not particularly badly written, in fact if you want this sort of picking up woman self help book this should probably be towards the top of the list.

That being said, I personally found it far too preachy and ended up being the step by step guide it at first promised not to be.

I'm now an expert in exactly when to stop talking to woman immediately when they're not interested in a sexual relationship, what to wear to attract woman and how
Jay Yeo
Mar 11, 2015 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Read this after seeing it highly recommended on reddit.

It did make me want to become more proactive in life and become more confident, but the premise of the book is basically to become good at approaching women through repeated practice. I have no intention of randomly picking up just any girl andor sleeping around, especially in a small community.

It says nothing about developing and maintaining actual relationships beyond the initial contact part (well, technically I shoulda known that from th
Sep 01, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A good book disguised about a book of how to be attractive to women, that actually focuses on how to be honest and direct to yourself and others and live your life with passion. Main take-aways are that women are attracted to high-status men who invest more in themselves than they do in the first beautiful women they come across. So invest in yourself, in your passions and live your life for no-one but yourself. Be honest about your intentions and don't let your confidence hinge on whether she l ...more
Nov 12, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Amazing and so funny and well-written book about seduction. Highly recommended for everybody.
Jared Woods
As embarrassing as this is: back in 2008 or whenever, I read Neill Strauss’ (really great) non-fiction book called The Game, and I got sucked into the hype just like so many before me. “You mean there’s a formula to hooking up with girls??” was my immediate response, and I soon became an avid follower of the PUA trail, devouring every text on the matter shortly following. Interestingly enough, however, I actually ended up getting laid a lot less. The reason why, I concluded, was that these techn ...more
Šimon Demočko
Dec 27, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
When I was growing up, after breaking up with my first girlfriend I thought I have to get to the bottom of this stuff. Awkward adolescence of a skinny dude with nerdy hobbies but a persistence in problem solving lead me to read lots of material on this. I followed the works of a few pick up artists, but it left me all disappointed. There was a lot of truth to it all, yes, but there was also a lot of pressure to learn some behavior which just seemed like dishonest performance. Being dishonest wit ...more
Jan 31, 2018 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book offers contradictory - if valuable - insight and advice.

The first half of the book, which is mostly theoretical, is full of gems. Manson encourages radical authenticity, and criticizes the "typical dating advice books" for trying to teach guys how to "perform." Great so far.

Then, Manson literally goes on to do just that. The 2nd half of the book is full of practical advice including specific regiments for things like how to dress to impress, how to approach, how to be funny, how to mak
Feb 07, 2018 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Delete the second half of this book. Condense the first half into an article. Then I will give it two more stars.
Dec 24, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This was a good book to read, from start till finish. As my friend mentioned, it's a 'healthier' approach to meeting women, compared to other schools of thought such as Real Social Dynamics.

He mentions 'TRUE confidence' which involves caring less about what people think of you, than YOUR opinion of yourself. FALSE confidence, on the other hand, stems from being unconfident and highly invested in what others think of you.

"To develop true confidence, a man must develop self-respect, a healthy sens
This book is an incredible read for those who want to be successful and confident with women!

Earlier in the year I was in the middle of a promising friendship that was on the cusp of forming into a relationship, sadly as time went on the amazing connection I had faded away this prompted me to examine why and what made this happen. Before reading this book I thought the ending of this amazing connection was rooted in problems in the last 2 weeks, but after reading this book I realized the seeds
Jun 08, 2017 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2017
As obvious as it is that I'm not a guy who needs help with the ladies, I reasonably enjoyed this book and picking up women.

When I first read The subtle art of not giving a fuck I found Mr Manson quite funny and engaging. He had a lot of good points about life and I really liked his writing style, so I figured I would give Models a go as well.

In the first three-quarters of the book, he gives quite reasonable advice, even though some of them are a little strange, but they do make sense. For s
Feb 01, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: self-help
When I 15 and had completely no experience with girls, my friend recommended The Game. At the time, I thought it was great book on getting girls, only as I mature did I realised that it was not actually good advise but instead a cautionary tale. After a break-up, I wondered if there's book out that helps you attract women without changing yourself into something you wouldn't like. Apparently there's one.

A few basic common sense is covered in this book such as: dress well, be confident, live an i
VC Gan
Jan 24, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
My favorite aphorism from the book - `The only way to build true confidence is to build yourself.' A true relationship is not about erasing ourselves or attempt to change someone. This boils down to the core principle of you are enough and be yourself. It's about being strong in the body (exercise of any kind), constantly progressing in the mind (reading, getting a range of experiences by experimenting different things, getting out of your comfort zone) and developed in the spirit (meditation an ...more
Sep 10, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2017, audiobook
Models encourages confidence through vulnerability and non-neediness, opening up yourself to share more while still holding onto your values and being self-reliant. Models is based on good intentions, as opposed to some other opportunities and manipulative dating books, so I resonated much more with Mark's principled approach, that aligned much strongly with personal development. The structure of the book was very easy to go through, with a blend of new and old topics that emphasize the core par ...more
Davood Wadi
Aug 01, 2016 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
First off, I hate giving negative reviews. "There are many great books written with great efforts which cold-heartedly receive 1-star reviews." This is what I used to think before starting to read this book.

Before Models: Attract Women Through Honesty, I finished reading The Manual: What Women Want and How to Give It to Them and gave it a 5-star review. It probably increased my expectation of what a brilliant seduction book should be, and it is definitely for the best. I am much past the whole n
Jan 08, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I was pretty embarrassed to read a dating advice book, let alone to put that I was reading one on Goodreads. But I had begun to notice a pattern in my dating experiences - many situations where people were interested in receiving my interest but nothing more substantial ever happened. A quick search revealed to me that most mens' dating advice books are 'pick-up manuals'. That wasn't what I wanted and Mark Manson promised the opposite. The real message of Models is that, as a man, you should be ...more
Kumail Akbar
My friends suggested that I stopped wasting my life away by reading and posting reviews on Goodreads and instead sort my dating life out by going out and meeting girls, and to do this better, they made me read this book, presumably because they thought it would teach me a thing or two about ‘life’. However, the joke is on them because I decided to read and review this book the way I would have for any other book. Or maybe the joke really is on me, who knows.

Manson does not really propose anythi
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Mark Manson (born 1984) is a professional blogger, entrepreneur, and former dating coach. Since 2007, he's been helping people with their emotional and relationship problems. He has worked with thousands of people from over 30 different countries.

He regularly writes and updates his blog at: www.markmanson.net

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